¿Me echa de menos mi ex después de la ruptura? 15 Señales de que estás en su mente

You’re trying to get your ex back but are not sure whether there is still some love for you left in him?

You can’t get to the bottom of your ex’s mind and tell for sure whether this guy is being friendly or he wants a second chance?

¿Me echará de menos mi ex si le dejo solo?

¿Piensa mi ex en mí during the no contact period and does he miss me when we’re apart?

¿Quiere que sigamos siendo buenos amigos o sigue queriéndome románticamente?

Why didn’t he tell me, “I love you,” if he really does?

Por otro lado, ¿por qué me está enviando todos esos mensajes sutiles durante estas pocas semanas de ningún contacto if he doesn’t want to have anything to do with me?

If these are some of the questions running through your head right now, we’re here to your rescue because we’re giving you the 15 most common things a lot of people do when they miss their ex girlfriend or boyfriend.

Siga leyendo y descubra what’s in your ex’s mind:

¿Me echa de menos mi ex?

If you’re trying to get your ex back, please have in mind that, contrary to popular belief, not all men are the same, so not every one will display his emotions in the same way.

Sin embargo, puedes ver estas señales como una especie de test; si puedes relacionar la mitad o más de las señales que se enumeran a continuación con tu ex, no hay duda de que aún te desea.

Habla de ti con vuestros amigos comunes

It doesn’t matter whether you two were together for a little while, this was a long-term relationship or something long distance—it is natural that there are some people who have stayed in touch with both of you.

Well, these people can be some of your first clues about your ex’s feelings. 

While I’m not saying that he should have cut all ties with everyone who’s got anything to do with you, one of the first and the most sure-fire signs your ex boyfriend misses you and still thinks about having you in his life is the way he talks to your best friends about you.

If he uses every opportunity he gets to bring your name up or if he calls them all the time to indirectly ask what you’ve been up, whether you have a new relationship or just to check whether you still care for him, one thing is certain—this guy misses you but is too much of a chicken to tell you that in person.

Tal vez piense que ninguno de ellos te hablará de esto, así que sólo está explorando si tiene luz verde para acercarse a ti o no.

Por otro lado, ten en cuenta la posibilidad de que en realidad quiera que descubras que está hablando de ti, para que captes el mensaje sin que él tenga que hacer nada concreto.

Está celoso

When you’re done with a guy, neither of you has the right to be jealous of the other’s new life or new relationship; at least, that is how things should look when two people become completely indifferent after the end of the relationship.

Sin embargo, cuando se trata de su ex, la situación es muy diferente.

No sólo se interesa demasiado por si has pasado página, lo cual ya es suficiente señal, sino que también critica tus nuevas elecciones.

However, he probably won’t tell you straightforwardly that he is bothered by the fact that you are seeing someone new because he is aware that you’re his ex girlfriend now and that he has no right to protest.

Instead, he’ll probably do whatever he can to dig up some dirt about everyone new you’re interested in and will go out of his way to ruin your every relationship before it even officially starts.

Also, your ex constantly compares himself to your new relationships and makes sure you see that he’s a better person than anyone you’re about to meet.

Aparece en los lugares donde podría verte

Así, cuando una pareja pasa algún tiempo junta, es normal que adquiera el hábito de ir a las mismas cafeterías, restaurantes y discotecas.

Therefore, at first, you’re probably not so surprised you keep running into your ex quite often.

Sin embargo, cuando te pones a pensarlo, ves que hay una gran posibilidad de que en realidad esté haciendo un esfuerzo por verte, sin que parezca obvio. 

And what could be a better way to do that than to ‘accidentally’ toparme contigo?

That is exactly what he’s doing—he keeps showing up in places where he knows you hang out.

Este tipo conoce tu horario y no le resulta difícil predecir dónde puedes estar.

Of course, even if you confront him about this, he’ll tell you that the fact that you two met in front of your building at the place where you work is nothing but a mere coincidence.

Nevertheless, it is more than clear that he can’t help the urge to be in your presence, one way or another. Why? Because he wants to volver juntos.

Besides, he is making sure you don’t forget about him either, as he knows that he is making your getting over process much harder if he is always in your sight.

Te está vigilando y espera la oportunidad perfecta para hacer un movimiento.

Encuentra excusas para iniciar el contacto

¿Cuál fue la última vez que este hombre intentó acercarse? Esfuérzate en recordarlo porque puede ser crucial para darte la respuesta de si te echa de menos o no.

By now, you have probably realized that this man doesn’t have the courage to come clean about his feelings.

He won’t ask you to come back to him and nor will he directly tell you, “I love you.”

Despite this, he can’t stand being far from you, so he has to find a way to reach out to you.

Therefore, he’ll keep on finding lame excuses to initiate contact just to have a chance to talk to you or to check your reaction because there is a huge difference between answering his calls and blocking his number.

The possibilities regarding these excuses are endless; he might ask for your hand with something anyone could actually help him with, remember to ask you to return him that old sweatshirt that’s been at your place for ages (which he obviously doesn’t need at all), text you to see how you’ve been doing (and then proceed with a conversation after he sees that you’re responding) and so on.

Either way, the point is the same—this guy can’t follow the no contact rule and wants to hear from you as soon as possible.

He shows you he’s become the best version of himself

Aparentemente, hay una razón por la que tú y tu ex decidisteis romper.

While I’m not going to talk about who is responsible for the break-up, the fact is that there were some things that bothered you about him and vice versa.

Well, now that he has lost you, for the first time ever, he is showing you that he finally made all those changes you asked him to and that he’s become the best version of himself.

He wants to prove to you that he’s a new, improved man and that your relationship wouldn’t be the same this time, if you just give him a chance.

Por supuesto, existe la posibilidad de que realmente haya recapacitado y se haya dado cuenta de sus errores. Tal vez tu ausencia le aclaró la visión y decidió cambiar.

Sin embargo, ten cuidado porque, por otro lado, es más probable que esté haciendo todo esto para manipularte y que vuelvas a su vida.

Maybe he wants you to think that he is a better person than before and that he has become the man you’ve always wanted him to be.

He hasn’t found a serious girlfriend

If you’re wondering, “¿Me echa de menos mi ex??” another bulletproof sign that he does is his relationship status, which hasn’t changed ever since you and he parted ways.

You two haven’t been together for some time now but despite that, he still hasn’t managed to have a real, serious relationship.
One thing is clear—this guy might have moved on from you physically but he hasn’t done so emotionally.

He still believes in your reconciliation and he can’t get himself to allow some other woman to take your place.

¿Te suena?

Well, if that’s the case, this guy doesn’t want you back just to heal his broken ego and to show both of you that he can have you whenever he feels like it—he probably still genuinely loves you.

Además, es lo suficientemente honesto como para no arrastrar a otras personas en sus dramas.

He doesn’t want to find a new girl who’ll just end up hurt if he manages to persuade you into giving him a second chance.

Salta de una relación a otra

On the other hand, if your ex starts switching between new girls a little while after the end of the relationship, that is also a sign that he still hasn’t gotten over you.

De hecho, está más que claro que aprovecha el periodo de no contacto para buscarte en cada mujer que se cruza en su camino.

Muchas personas son muy diferentes de las mencionadas en el párrafo anterior.

Sadly, many men don’t mind breaking other girls’ hearts along the way if it will make them feel better for a moment.

Este tipo salta de una aventura a otra y cada una no es más que una relación de rebote.

He is very well aware that he’s lost the love of his life and he doesn’t have any hope that he’ll care for someone the way he did about you.

Por lo tanto, se conforma con la vida de soltero, llena de sexo casual y aventuras sin sentido de una noche, para acabar arrepintiéndose al día siguiente, en intentos inútiles de curar su corazón roto.

Piensa que la mejor manera de echarte de su sistema y demostrarle al mundo que no significas nada para él es acostarse con todas las chicas que pueda.

… and uses every opportunity to make you jealous

Cuando tu ex te echa de menos, pone todo su empeño en darte celos.

So, no, you’re not imagining things—he is probably doing everything he can to get some kind of feedback from you and what is better confirmation of your feelings for him than jealousy?

Este tipo se enrollará con la primera chica que se le acerque y hará todo lo posible para que te enteres.

Enseguida le permitirá conocer a todos vuestros amigos comunes, la llevará a los lugares en los que espera verte y publicará fotos felices de los dos cada día en todas sus redes sociales.

Si nada de esto funciona, puede que incluso encuentre una excusa para hablar contigo, sólo para poder acabar presumiendo de que ha pasado página oficialmente.

Naturally, if this is the case, you wouldn’t be at the back of his mind and he wouldn’t have a need to notify you about his changed relationship status.

Al principio, la verdad es lo último en lo que piensas y asumes que realmente es feliz y probablemente incluso le odias por ello.

You can’t believe that he’s managed to fall in love so quickly, especially in comparison to the fact that you’re still at the same place he left you.

Sin embargo, cuando lo piensas un poco más, ves que en realidad está intentando presentar su relación como demasiado buena para ser verdad.

Ves que le preocupa demasiado que la gente, incluida tú, piense que tiene una relación perfecta y que es más feliz que nunca, lo cual es una pista definitiva de que sólo intenta obtener la reacción que quiere de ti.

Habla de los viejos tiempos

La mejor forma de que un chico reavive la vieja chispa es recordarte todo lo que compartisteis en el pasado.

Esto es para que te acuerdes de todos los buenos momentos que pasasteis, de cómo te hizo feliz y de lo bonita que fue vuestra relación en sus inicios.

Tu ex novio es consciente de ello y utiliza tu historia en su beneficio.

Naturally, he wasn’t always the man he was in the last days of your relationship—otherwise, you wouldn’t have been with him in the first place.

Cuando menciona casualmente los viejos tiempos, quiere que le veas como el chico del que te enamoraste de nuevo.

Quiere que te vuelvas nostálgica de vuestro romance, ya que sabe que éste es su billete de vuelta a tu corazón.

Puede que te lleve al lugar donde os conocisteis por primera vez o que utilice otras tácticas para recordarte cómo se sienten las mariposas.

He is putting effort into convincing you that he is someone familiar to your heart and body and that your relationship is your comfort zone you shouldn’t have stepped out of.

Also, this is a sure-fire sign that he’s been playing everything you two went through together back and forth in his head.

Se da cuenta de que te echa de menos más de lo que pensaba y que quiere tener otra oportunidad contigo.

En este caso, tienes que pensar bien las cosas y decidir si existe la posibilidad de que vosotros dos reconstruyáis vuestra relación.

¿Es vuestra historia juntos razón suficiente para que vuelvas con él?

He’s texting and calling you when he’s drunk

It’s an old proven truth that a drunk mind speaks a sober heart.

So, if your ex is calling or texting you only when he’s drunk, it must mean something.

I won’t lie to you—there is a huge possibility that this is nothing but him trying to get laid.

It is long past midnight, he hasn’t had any luck with all those other girls he hit on and he remembers you—the only woman who will never reject him and who will heal his broken ego, hoping that you’ll serve him as a safety net.

Sin embargo, es más probable que te eche de menos pero que sólo tenga las agallas de admitirlo cuando está agotado.

Yes, this guy acts completely indifferent when he’s sober because that is when he has the strength to keep on his mask of a tough guy who couldn’t care less about you or your failed relationship.

However, when the alcohol kicks in, he loosens up and he loses control over his behavior so he can’t control his urge to talk to you.

It is only when he becomes completely aware of the intensity of his emotions and when he can’t get you out of his mind.

So, how can you know which option you’re dealing with?

Well, the fact is that you can’t until you two have an honest conversation the next day, when you’re both clear-headed and sober-minded.

Acecha tus cuentas de redes sociales

Another thing that can get you the answer to the question, “Does your ex boyfriend miss you?” lies in the fact that he investigates your social media profiles.

Let’s be honest—this is the place where we can find out the most about other people, so he uses all the advantages of modern technology to track you down.

Es el primero en ver tus Stories, le gusta cada foto que publicas y aprovecha cualquier oportunidad para aparecer en tus mensajes directos.

It seems like he’s turned on notifications for everything regarding your profiles and that means he is still very interested in you.

Actually, the thing that concerns him the most is whether you’ve found someone new.

He is looking for clues of a new relationship and if he finds them, he wants to figure out whether this is just some kind of a rebound relationship you’ve gotten yourself into to get over him with more ease or if it is the real deal.

Por otro lado, si los dos estáis intentando seguir la regla de no contacto y os habéis bloqueado mutuamente en todas partes, no dejas de ver numerosos perfiles falsos que intentan llegar a ti.

Naturally, nobody can claim that he is behind all of this but let’s face it—what are the odds that he is?

… and uses his profiles to send you subtle messages

Otra táctica que puede utilizar tu ex en las redes sociales es convertir sus perfiles en una plataforma dedicada a vuestra relación rota.

This guy won’t tell you he misses you face-to-face but ever since you two called it quits, he keeps on posting sad quotes about love, status updates about a broken heart or songs which you know remind him of you.

También existen hombres que van en una dirección completamente diferente, hombres que utilizan sus perfiles para mostrarte lo increíble que es su vida sin ti en ella; cómo salen de fiesta, viajan y disfrutan cada día de su soltería como si fuera el último.

This type will post pictures and happy love quotes about how they’ve finally found the one with each rebound relationship they end up with.

Obviamente quieren dar celos a su ex y restregarle su increíble vida por la cara.

Sea cual sea el tipo al que pertenezca tu ex novio, la conclusión es prácticamente la misma.

This man wants to convey to you a subtle signal that he is devastated without you or that he’s having the time of his life and whichever is in question, he apparently still cares for you, since he is trying so hard for you to get the message.

Hace pequeñas cosas por ti

Una cosa es que tu ex empiece a comportarse como tu buen amigo, que te felicite por tu cumpleaños y te diga que está a una llamada de distancia si necesitas algo.

Todo esto es de buena educación si habéis terminado vuestra relación en buenos términos.

However, it is completely different if he is the one who congratulates you at New Year right at midnight, buys you gifts for every special occasion or, for example, remembers that doctor’s appointment you scheduled while you were still together.

También es completamente diferente si aparece de la nada cada vez que necesitas que te eche una mano, se ofrece a hacerte favores y actúa como si fuerais los mejores amigos.

All of the things mentioned above are nothing but signs that this man hasn’t moved on.

Se acuerda de todo sobre ti y hace pequeñas cosas por ti sólo para que sepas que sigue estando ahí para cogerte si te caes y que puedes confiar en él, pase lo que pase.

Te envía señales de lenguaje corporal

¿Sabes cómo buscas señales no verbales de que le gustas a un chico antes incluso de empezar a salir?

Well, these are the signs you should be searching for in your ex boyfriend as well, if you want to get the answer to the question, “Does my ex bf miss me?”.

Does he look you straight in the eye even when you’re across the room?

¿Te mira a la boca cada vez que hablas?

¿Se sienta o se queda lo más cerca posible de ti cada vez que os cruzáis o quedáis para tomar algo?

Does he grab your hand when he’s making a point, put his arm around your waist when he’s passing by you or on your knee when he’s laughing?

¿Se pone nervioso cuando estáis juntos? ¿Te abraza un poco más cuando le saludas?

Si lo hace, no hay duda de que ese hombre quiere que vuelvas, aunque él no sea consciente de ello.

He is still magnetically drawn to you and it is just a matter of time when he’ll try to kiss you.

He doesn’t want to give you back your belongings

La última señal, pero no por ello la menos importante, de que tu ex te echa de menos es el hecho de que se quede con tus cosas.

Le pediste que reuniera tus pertenencias (y así poder darle las suyas) un poco después de que rompierais pero él sigue encontrando excusas para no completar este intercambio.

He probably hasn’t grasped the idea that you are now his ex girlfriend in the first place.

As long as he sees your toothbrush next to his in the bathroom, he deludes himself that the end of the relationship isn’t real and that this is nothing but a break or a phase you’re going through.

Además, así tiene un pretexto para ponerse en contacto contigo por teléfono cuando le apetezca.

Even when all of his hopes die out, you’ll see him texting you to come and pick up your stuff and that will be a chance for him to see you.