Me miente, no me miente

Have you ever thought someone you trusted was lying to you, and you deserve to know the truth no matter how much it may hurt? You just can’t put your finger on what it is that’s being concealed, but you know there is more than what meets the eye. What is it about this person that is untrustworthy, and how can you tell you’re being lied to? Why do things just feel fuera de? ¿Es usted? ¿Estás siendo paranoico?

Los expertos sugieren que incluso los los mentirosos son fáciles de detectar en cuestión de segundos si sabes qué buscar. Hay ciertas señales que los demás emiten sin siquiera saberlo. Y, a pesar de sus mejores esfuerzos, los mentirosos no pueden huir de la verdad para siempre.

Al final, sus historias les alcanzan.

If you know what to ask someone you’re suspicious of and how to talk them into circles, you’ll soon get answers. He aquí algunos métodos para desenmascarar las falsedades. Si juegas bien tus cartas, serás el que tenga la baraja ganadora al descubrir el farol del culpable.

When engaging in conversation, start by asking a few non-threatening questions such as, “Is work going well?” or “What are your plans for the summer?” Small, everyday questions you would ask just about anyone. These are considered baseline conversation starters, easy-to-answer probes that will help establish comfortability.

Getting another to be comfortable while talking will help you to better understand his or her natural mannerisms that are used when telling the truth or without feeling cornered. These can be later used to decipher when the person is being honest and when they’re not.

Next, up it a notch and begin to inquire about more personal subjects, such as, “What time did you get to so-and-so’s last night?” or “What time did you say you left the party?” Inquire about things that could cause the culprit to come clean, but probably won’t. More than likely, they’ll only serve to help you understand what mannerisms denote an anxious alibi.

This should only be done after you’ve determined how the recipient reacts during the initial phase, though. Porque incluso cuando se dice la verdad o se habla de algo relativamente insustancial, la gente tiende a utilizar ciertos manierismos subconscientes. These are unique to the individual, and what could be considered suspicious for one person could be simply second nature to another. So, just because the potential perpetrator is nervous doesn’t mean they’re guilty. And, just because one person is clearly lying when they do ‘xyz’ doesn’t mean everyone is.

Cuando ocultan la verdad, muchas personas meten el torso hacia dentro como si quisieran encogerse. Esto hace que la mentira no les parezca tan grave, ya que creen que en realidad parecen más pequeños. También es frecuente encoger los hombros y tener las palmas de las manos inquietas o temblorosas, o cojear.

Take note of observable nervousness such as nostril flaring, blushing, redness around the ears, finger or foot tapping, or biting one’s lip. Other common reactions are removing oneself from the tale altogether, making a story mostly about someone else entirely, or using a different tone of voice that subconsciously helps the individual to mutate into a new persona.

Que te mientan nunca es divertido, sobre todo cuando la mentira es física, mental o emocionalmente perjudicial o cambia indefinidamente el panorama de una relación. Una vez rota la confianza, es difícil, si no imposible, repararla. Dependiendo de la magnitud de la mentira, alejarse puede ser la única forma de garantizar tu seguridad.

Sin embargo, la ignorancia no es felicidad. Una vez que una falsedad pasa desapercibida, es más fácil que un individuo siga repitiendo este comportamiento tortuoso. Es muy probable que, por muy cerca que creas estar de la persona, siga ocurriendo una y otra vez. Y, a medida que las mentiras empiezan a sumar, empiezan a cortar un poco más profundo. The longer you stay in a situation believing something exists when it doesn’t, the harder the truth will be to accept once the false facade is finally forgotten.

It’s always better to know the truth than to participate in a lie, and a seasoned manipulator needs to be outed to stop him or her from hurting others. There is no guarantee you can stop it altogether, but you can stop participating. Know when to say, ‘Enough is enough!’