El hecho de que nadie supiera cómo retenerte no significa que no lo seas.

¿Se siente fracasado por el fracaso de su relación? Muchos de nosotros sí.
¿Qué puede hacer al respecto?

Well, the first step is to stop believing you’re beyond repair or doomed. That’s simply not true.
Lo segundo es que debes dejar de estar resentido con la otra persona.

Sometimes relationships aren’t about the other person but you.

Of course, the point of a relationship should be both of you, together, but I’m talking about curveballs that life throws at us in the form of a relationship.

If you had a relationship that made you insecure about yourself, the way you look, what you do, how you do it, the way you are… take it as a lesson.

Esto suele ocurrir después de relaciones tóxicas, y suelen incluir abuso verbal: menospreciarte, avergonzarte o soltar comentarios casuales que obviamente te hieren una y otra vez.

It’s so easy to fall under someone’s spell – and not just in a romantic sense. It’s easy to start believing what other people think of you. It’s easy to lose a sense of self.

I’m here to tell you that whatever happened to you, whatever is said to or about you, doesn’t define you. If you’ve been left by someone you loved deeply, that doesn’t define you.

It hurts like hell. It’s real. It’s part of you. But it doesn’t define you. You’re not a girl who’s been left. You’re not someone’s pastime or second option.

However, to realize that, you first must believe it yourself. That’s where any healthy relationship starts: with self-love.

De hecho, la mayoría de nuestras relaciones no son más que espejos de lo que pensamos de nosotros mismos y de cómo nos tratamos.

In this case, there’s a possibility you already thought you weren’t not good enough even before the first unsuccessful relationship.

You may have been carrying that belief about yourself since you were little, and now it’s manifesting through your romantic relationships. Think about it. Why don’t YOU think you’re worth keeping?

Whatever you come up with can be changed. Our personalities aren’t set in stone. You can be whatever you want, you just have to believe it first.

El magnetismo que une a las personas y las ayuda a permanecer unidas es mayor cuando ambos miembros de la pareja son auténticos.

Men don’t want women to control them. Men want companions. They want a partner in crime. Even when they don’t know it.

If there’s no personality, no authenticity, there’s nothing to pull them in and make them stay.

La mala noticia es que no todas las mujeres lo entienden. La buena noticia es que siempre puedes cambiar eso empezando a quererte a ti misma.

Todos tenemos ese algo especial que nos convierte en un atractivo. Cuanto más actúes como tú mismo, mayor será la posibilidad de que te encuentre alguien a quien le gustes por ti.

Once that person comes into your life, you’ll forget that you ever thought about not being a keeper and crying over some half-relationships you had.

Como he dicho antes, a veces las experiencias traumáticas o desgarradoras están ahí para recordarnos a nosotros mismos, para recordarnos nuestras propias necesidades.

That’s why it’s time to stop thinking about that last person who hurt you and start thinking about why you’re hurt.

I promise you that once you find the source of your pain (that isn’t another person), you’ll find freedom. You’ll be in control of your own emotions.

It doesn’t matter that you’re not a keeper to someone else, what matters is that you genuinely feel good in your own skin.

That’s when good things start to happen. That’s when life finally starts feeling right.
Don’t be afraid to say goodbye to things you know aren’t good for you, even if you’re crying while doing it.

There’s something better waiting for you. There’s someone who’s going to make you feel like you’re the only person in the world and, trust me, that will make up for all the times you felt like you weren’t.