Señoras, por eso no necesitan un hombre para ser felices

I don’t need a man to be happy!

How many times have you heard this cliché?
He apostado demasiadas veces, como yo.

Pero, ¿cuántos de ustedes han aplicado realmente esta filosofía en sus vidas?

Apuesto a que no muchos de ustedes, al igual que mi yo del pasado.

There’s something truly intriguing about us women (and people in general) being convinced that we need to have someone in our lives to be truly happy or fit into societal norms.

There’s something truly wrong about this worn-out sequence: Finish school – Find a job – Find a partner – Get married – Have kids.

¿En serio? ¿Desde cuándo es ésta la receta que todos debemos seguir para evitar el ostracismo social?

So, if you manage to finish school and find a job but have no partner yet, society and the media will make you feel like you’re doing something wrong, and you’ll NEVER be truly happy.

Well, it’s time to put an end to this lie and manipulation because we don’t need a partner to be happy, and we don’t need to appease society to feel worthy.

You don’t need a man to experience true happiness because you’re the creator of your own!

Estar soltero puede ser tan EXCITANTE como tener pareja

Mariposas en el estómago, contar los segundos que faltan para ver a la persona amada, abrazarse, reír, tener un compañero de fechorías, un confidente y un amigo, todo en uno... son las cosas que hacen que nuestra vida sea divertida y emocionante.

Now let’s be honest. No matter how fulfilling and entertaining relationships can be, they also come with a HUGE burden.

All those overthinking sessions about whether you should text them first (or not), whether you should introduce them to your friends and family, the inevitable arguments, compromising (even when you don’t feel like it), finding a balance between esforzarse por hacer cosas por ellos y que no se den por sentadosy la lista sigue y sigue.

Todas estas cosas pueden hacer que tu vida sea frustrante y, en algunos casos, un infierno.

So, NO, you don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy (especially not a toxic one) because ser soltero puede ser tan emocionante como tener pareja.

When you’re single, you have all the time in the world to prioritize your own happiness before someone else’s

Puedes elegir tus propias actividades, comida, películas y todas las demás cosas que la gente suele acordar con su pareja.

You get to live your best life without needing to worry about whether you’re texting him too much, whether he’s not giving you enough attention, or if you should be suspicious of his loyalty.

You get to spoil yourself the way you deserve, spend more time with your friends and family, so you don’t need a man to be happy because you can be perfectly happy on your own!

It took me a while to realize that putting my happiness in someone else’s hands is the wrong thing to do.

Durante la mitad de mi vida, solía pensar que la única forma de alcanzar la verdadera felicidad era encontrando la pareja perfecta para mí.

So, I’ve learned two lessons the hard way:

1. The perfect partner doesn’t exist.

2. La única forma de ser verdaderamente feliz es aprendiendo a estar enamorado de uno mismo.

When you love yourself, you don’t look for that one missing piece in someone else. When you love yourself, you don’t need validation from others. You don’t need a man to make you feel worthy or loved.

Loving yourself is about establishing a relationship you’ll value your whole life. It’s about accepting yourself for who you are with all those imperfections, quirks, weaknesses, and weird habits.

Loving yourself is about knowing that you’re the creator of your own happiness

Recuerda que viniste sola a este mundo. Encontrar pareja es una elección, pero enamorarte de ti mismo es una necesidad.

It’s interesting how society (particularly the media) prioritizes relationships before self-love.

Since when did finding a partner become an alternative for getting in touch with your true self? How is it possible to love someone else if you’re not in love with yourself?

Una de las principales razones por las que los medios de comunicación nos obligan a creer que necesitamos una pareja para ser felices es porque es la única forma que tienen de vendernos cosas.

En “techniques and magical recipes for dealing with commitment phobes” a “the most expensive makeup that will make you beautiful” and help you find a long-awaited “perfect” partner.

Te convencen de que necesitas a alguien en tu vida sólo para convertirte en esclavo de su propaganda.

Half of those terms like “commitment-phobes,” “almost relationships,” and similar don’t even exist in the real world, but that’s an article for another day.

En mi opinión, la gastada secuencia que mencionamos al principio debería reformularse de la siguiente manera:

Finish school – Find a job – Enamórate de ti mismo – Find a partner – Get married – Have kids.
(Of course, some of us don’t want to get married, have kids, finish school, or have a job, which is more than okay.)

If you don’t love yourself, you’ll spend your whole life feeling like something is missing. Perhaps you already have a few failed relationships, and you blame yourself for it.

De lo único que deberías culparte es de no darte suficiente amor y atención.

“Love yourself first because that’s who you’ll be spending the rest of your life with.” – Unknown

Yup. Relationships come and go, but the relationship you have with yourself is for life. You don’t need a man to be happy because you can be perfectly happy on your own only if you want to.

Acuérdate:

It’s better to be single than to be in a crappy relationship.

If you’re not happy, give yourself permission to leave.

Quererse a uno mismo es la clave de la verdadera felicidad.

Don’t be afraid to live your life without a man.

Love yourself because, at the end of the day, the only person you have is yourself. You don’t need a man to remind you of that.

You don’t need a man to be happy because you’ve already got plenty of razones para ser feliz ahora mismo, pase lo que pase:

• You’re alive
• Tienes la oportunidad de ser quien quieras ser
• You’re beautiful
• You’re loved
• You’ve won many battles
• You’re strong

You don’t need a man to be happy because you’re a beautiful, strong, independent woman. You’re perfectly capable of achieving anything you set your mind to.

You don’t need a man to do things for you because you’re perfectly competent in doing them on your own.

You don’t need a man to shower you with affection because you already have inspiring people in your life who love you and who would do anything for you.

Ya te tienes a ti mismo.

You don’t need a man only to boast to your friends and family that you have someone. You don’t need a man to appease the imposed societal standards.

“Every mountain top is within reach if you just keep climbing.” – Barry Finlay

Por muy confuso que te parezca todo esto en este momento, debes saber que sólo puedes cambiar de mentalidad si quieres.

Tienes la capacidad y la habilidad de empezar a vivir tu vida como quieres y te mereces.

Show society, the media, and the world that you don’t need a partner to feel complete. Show the world that you don’t need a man to be happy.

Show yourself that you’re a fierce and determined woman by not putting up with anybody’s crap. Respect everyone and demand respect from them in return. Love others but love yourself first.