Si actúa así, entonces sabes que no te quiere

Despierta. Vives en un mundo en el que, en la mayoría de los casos, decir "te quiero" a alguien ha perdido su significado original.

Esas tres palabras se han convertido en la herramienta de manipulación para mentirse a uno mismo y a los demás debido a la falta de valor o a la falta de voluntad para abordar los problemas subyacentes.

Those three words have become something everyone expects to hear even if they’re not ready to reciprocate. ‘I love you’ is often followed by overthinking because you live in a world where you can’t trust anyone, and sometimes, not even yourself.

Entonces, ¿cómo saber si un hombre aún te quiere?

¿Se considera una declaración de amor legítima que repita esas tres palabras todo el tiempo? ¿O hay algo más?

Wake up again. If a man tells you that he loves you, this doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s true. The truth is, anyone can express their love for you with the most inspiring words, but are they willing to also show it to you?

Esto nos lleva a la hipótesis final: Un hombre que está realmente enamorado de ti se asegurará de demostrártelo con hechos y no sólo con palabras.

“You should never have to look for evidence that someone loves you. True love is crystal clear.” – Mandy Hale

Si alguien me hubiera dicho esto hace unos años, literalmente me habría salvado la vida. Antes estaba en una relación tóxica en la que me convencía a mí misma de que me quería. Encontrar excusas para su comportamiento se había convertido en un verdadero arte en sí mismo.

I was surprised by my level of patience and ability to turn every single negative thought into a potential declaration of his love for me, but after some time, I decided to wake up from this “sleepwalking romance” and face the truth.

Quería desesperadamente encontrar pruebas verdaderas de su amor por mí porque estaba cansada de lidiar con el exceso de pensamientos.

Así que pensé: Siempre me contesta, lo cual es bueno. De vez en cuando me sorprende con gestos románticos.

Still, when I want to talk about my problems, he suddenly becomes too busy to listen to me. Maybe, he is busy after all, but MAYBE, I’ve become a pro at finding excuses for his shitty behavior.

Cuanto más pensaba en todo esto, menos segura estaba de sus sentimientos por mí. Y, entonces, ¡me di cuenta!

Esa vocecita dentro de mi cabeza me susurraba:

Girl, if he really loved you, you wouldn’t overthink it and you wouldn’t waste your time looking for evidence that he loves you. Instead, you would enjoy consuming and being intoxicated by your love.

Truer words have never been spoken. The first and the most important lesson you’ll learn today is that true love is crystal clear and there’s no need for you to keep questioning it or looking for evidence that he loves you.

If you have to overthink it or question it, then you know something’s fishy and it’s not worthy of your time nor your nerves. This rule is applicable in every situation, not just love life.

If you need to play detective when dating or in a relationship, then you know something’s not right

Whenever women start suspecting their man’s feelings or other things, they immediately enter detective mode. I’m talking about the following case scenarios:

• Siguiendo todos sus movimientos en las redes sociales.
• Preguntándole constantemente por su paradero.
• Buscando pistas cliché de infidelidad como lápiz labial rojo en su cuello.
• Reading one too many articles on “Does he love me?”
• Analizar los datos.
• Pensar demasiado.
• Conectando puntos.
• Repitiendo todo el proceso.

I daresay that every woman was born with detective skills that become activated once she starts questioning her man’s intentions. We go so far that we even start questioning his close people, coworkers, friends, and family.

Playing detective can sometimes be fun, but in most cases, it’s tiring. It’s the biggest red flag that something’s not right, and you have every right to question your man’s feelings for you (or lack thereof).

A veces, las mujeres van tan lejos en su análisis detectivesco que se olvidan de prestar atención a las pistas que tenían delante todo el tiempo.

Preste atención a algunos de los signs he doesn’t love you anymore and you’ll find out the truth:

• Falta de comunicación.
• Que no se involucre en tu vida.
• Comportamiento reservado.
• Ser demasiado protector con su teléfono.
• Comparándote con otras mujeres.

Regardless of whether you’re dating or in a relationship, know that communication is everything.

¿Le escucha atentamente cuando habla? ¿Recuerda las pequeñas cosas y detalles que compartes con él? ¿Se esfuerza por sí mismo sin que tengas que recordárselo?

Si la respuesta es sí, entonces sabes que te quiere de verdad. Si no, entonces este es uno de los más dolorosos pero sure-fire signs he doesn’t care about you.

A man who doesn’t love you or care about you will never run out of excuses for his shitty behavior

I’m sure you’re familiar with all this.

When you acknowledge his low-effort attempts to make you feel special, he tells you that he’s not really himself lately because of his job, friends, family issues, or any other issue that is preventing him from fully committing to you.

When you start questioning his intentions or his feelings for you, he tells you that you’re overreacting and overthinking.

When you try to talk to him about how you’re feeling regarding all this, he tells you that he doesn’t have time for that and that there’s nothing you should worry about because everything is fine.

A man who doesn’t love you or care about you will do everything in his power to postpone having an open and honest conversation with you because you’re no longer his priority.

He will only be focused on things happening in his life, and he will come back to you only when it’s convenient for him.

He won’t shower you with his attention, gifts, or unconditional love. He won’t even reply to your texts or answer your calls if he doesn’t feel like it.

A man who doesn’t love you or care about you will only be focused on making himself happy.

Dejará de fijarse en tus extraños hábitos, imperfecciones y rasgos positivos que solían gustarle de ti. En lugar de eso, te criticará por ser quien eres.

It’s what men do when they no longer love you. They literally wake up one morning with Alzheimers, forget that you even exist, and decide to ignore your every need.

Si tu felicidad ya no está en la lista de sus prioridades, entonces sabes que algo ha cambiado. Su amor por ti ha disminuido gradualmente, se ha convertido en excusas y luego se ha desvanecido en el aire.

Sé lo que se siente amar a alguien que nunca te corresponderá. Sé lo que se siente al ver cómo tu amor incondicional se convierte en algo que ya no reconoces.

If this is the case with you, then it’s high time you protect yourself from yourself. It’s time to wake up and read the following statement over and over again until it becomes a part of you:

Un hombre que realmente se preocupa por ti y te quiere se asegurará de demostrártelo.

To be honest, it’s relatively easy to spot the signs of a man who no longer loves you, but the complication arises due to our overthinking. You probably already know the truth, but you’re here to confirm your hypothesis.

Or, you know the truth, but you want someone to tell you that you’re in a bad dream, overthinking it, and that in a few days, you’ll wake up and forget that all this happened (because it didn’t).

Here’s the thing:

You’re not in a bad dream.

There’s nothing wrong with you.

It’s not the end of the world if he doesn’t love you.

It’s not your fault.

Todo sucede por una razón.

Recuerda que un hombre que te ama de verdad SIEMPRE se asegurará de demostrártelo con sus acciones. No jugará, no pondrá excusas, ni hará ninguna de esas cosas modernas de las citas furtivas.

A man who truly loves you will tell you exactly how he feels about you, and you will see it in his eyes that he’s telling the truth. Also, he will make damn sure to prove all that with his actions

A man who truly loves you won’t have time to make you question things because he will be too busy finding new ways to make you feel loved!

Yes, girl! You’ve been stuck in your sleepwalking all this time and you have forgotten the basic thing about love. Love never stagnates, but it constantly evolves. Love doesn’t beg, but it’s reciprocal.

If you’re still not sure if he truly loves you or not, just ask yourself the following questions:

¿Su amor por ti es constante y evidente o tienes que buscarlo, suplicarlo y esperarlo? ¿Eres feliz con él? Si no es así, ¿es tu felicidad algo que puedas plantearle a tu pareja?