Nunca seas la esposa de un hombre con el que sales, sólo acabarás decepcionada

Os conozco, chicas.

Tu buen corazón, tus inocentes intenciones y tus sinceros planes de futuro te hacen pensar que la mejor forma de conquistar a un hombre es demostrarle lo buena que puedes ser para él.

No escondas nada, ábrete completamente a él y muéstrale cómo sería su vida contigo.

It makes perfect sense to you. You’re in a loving relationship that’s moving towards commitment and matrimonio, so why shouldn’t you act like you’re already married? After all, in your mind and heart, you already are.

There’s only one problem – that’s not how he feels. It will take a lot for him to understand he’s married and start acting like he is even when you actually do get married. Right now, that’s not where he is in his mind.

Don’t invest too much too soon. Don’t love too hard too soon. Don’t make too many plans before the time comes.

Muchas chicas empiezan a tratar a sus novios como si fueran sus maridos en cuanto la relación se vuelve exclusiva.

¿Tienes un anillo en el dedo? No. Con eso basta.

You’re there, thinking how fulfilled you are by the commitment and closeness you get from your “playing house’’ kind of relationship, believing that it’s a testament to how much you care about each other.

You give more and more each day and are suddenly left broken, surprised, and confused when he treats you like you’re just some girl in his life.

Entonces, ¿qué pasa?

Escenario uno: He leaves you without batting an eye because to him, you’re ‘’just’’ a girlfriend.

Your pain is that much bigger because you assumed you’d found the one from the way he accepted being treated like your hubby.

Estaba contento de que hicieras todo por él, pero no estaba dispuesto a devolverte el favor. Una vez que llegó el momento de actuar como un marido, se fue.

Segundo escenario: You wait for years for him to actually decide to marry you, and he still doesn’t. He gets all the benefits of a wife without marrying you, so there’s nothing motivating him to actually do it.

Después de muchos años de vivir como una esposa de mentira, pasas por un divorcio como romper sin haber estado casados.

Si un hombre quiere que seas su esposa, tiene que ganárselo. 

Don’t devote yourself completely to a man who still hasn’t shown he’s willing to commit to you.

You’re impatient to give him everything you have, to make him feel like a king, and to be his queen. By the time you realize he’s a million miles away from that kind of perspective, you’ll be long hurt.

Aguanta. Tienes mucho que dar, pero guárdatelo por ahora. Ya llegará el momento en que un hombre demuestre que es digno de tu devoción.

Don’t give him the benefits of marriage if he doesn’t give you the compromiso y responsabilidad de uno.

Always remember that acting like a wife to your boyfriend doesn’t guarantee that he’ll eventually marry you.

It only guarantees that there’s a huge chance you’ll be left broken and disappointed in love and men.

Utiliza tu tiempo para ser su novia. Conócelo mejor. Diviértete.

Don’t dive headlong into tracking his appointments, cleaning his home, and cooking his meals.

Don’t make him your absolute priority in life, putting him before your family, friends, job, education. Make sure he proves he’s worthy of making huge compromises.

Valórate y valora tu tiempo. Valora tu propia vida. Poner en él y en tu relación expectativas demasiado altas o incluso irracionales es la forma más rápida de que fracase.

Being like a wife to your boyfriend is not the way towards a successful marriage but it can be the way to the relationship’s total failure.

Aprecia y ama a tu novio, pero mantenlo siempre expectante y esperanzado. Deja que esté deseando casarse contigo.

Don’t push him towards taking you for granted – know your worth and make sure he knows it too.