Nunca vuelvas a mirar a tu ex: aléjate y deja que vea lo que ha perdido

Si pudiera darte un consejo romántico, te diría que nunca mires hacia atrás, hacia quienes no supieron apreciarte. 

Why? Because if they did, you wouldn’t have to look back in the first place. They’d still be by your side!

If at this very moment, you’re struggling, know that you’re not alone. Know that I’ve got you.

I know exactly how shitty it feels suffering over an ex who wasn’t worthy of a single one of your tears.

This didn’t stop me from crying a river every night I dreamed about his face, and every day I missed having his sense of humor around.

But that doesn’t make me weak, it makes me human.

Y en toda esa miseria, me di cuenta de algunas cosas.

En primer lugar, se necesita lo más bajo de lo bajo para llegar a ese lugar saludable y revelador en el que de repente todo empieza a tener sentido.

Cada lágrima que lloraste, cada pelea que tuviste y cada momento de enfado que te hizo estallar.

Cada oportunidad perdida de arreglar las cosas y cada trato silencioso que le diste o te dio. 

Con el tiempo, todas esas pequeñas cosas empiezan a pintar el cuadro completo que, en última instancia, te muestra que las cosas son exactamente como deberían ser.

As hard as it may be to comprehend this now, I promise it’s going to make so much sense in a few short weeks. 

Unfortunately, you need to go through all the stages of grief before getting to that good place – but it’s going to happen.

What I’m here to tell you is this. If deep down in your heart you KNOW that the breakup was the best decision for you, be proud of yourself and don’t waver.

After all, you’re a smart ass lady. 

You know that if the guy cared, he never would’ve left you.

If he was worried about how you were, he would’ve called to ask!

And if your feelings mattered to him, he would’ve tried to fix it, not break it off!

 Don’t give him the satisfaction of looking back. 

There’s nothing to see! Your past is there for good reason.

He served you as a great lesson, and now you’re ready to face your present and your future.

Lo que sí puedes hacer es enseñarle lo que ha perdido.

Haz que se arrepienta dándote por sentado y perderte por ser la mujer segura, fuerte y positiva que eres.

You don’t have to parade a new man around to show him that.

Simplemente vive tu vida como siempre lo has hecho, y todo ello con una sonrisa de confianza en tu rostro.

Show him your spirit isn’t broken by remaining a good friend to your girls and dancing the night away, which will show him you are open to new beginnings.

Revenge is for the weak. The only way he’ll see what he lost is by you living your authentic life to the best of your ability.

He didn’t crush you. You haven’t lost your zest for life.

Ahora estás más abierto que nunca a nuevas oportunidades. ¿Por qué?

Because you’ve been burned, and you’re ready to let someone new in.

Pero esta vez, alguien cuyo amor nunca te dejará herido.

Nadie puede decir cuándo sucederá. Eso está en manos de Dios. 

But one thing I do know is that when you believe you deserve the best and never lose faith in yourself, that’s when you’ll do a 180 and start seeing what you never noticed before.

You’ll finally see that you feel so much more liberated now than you ever did con tu ex.

You’ll finally see that his amor tóxico sólo te dio un tercio de lo que mereces y te retuvo.

Con él, nunca te sentiste tan libre y esperanzada. 

Y ahora todo se siente como una oportunidad para una nueva y mejorada versión de ti mismo.

And that ‘ the beginning of your new life.

A life in which you will never focus on what’s lost, but solely on what’s to come.

A life in which you know you’ll eventually get your happily-ever after because you freaking deserve it.

I know it’s so easy to give up on yourself and cry yourself to sleep every night. 

Pero una mujer fuerte knows that being able to pick yourself up and put on a smile when all you want to do is weep is the bravest thing she’s ever done.

This is a woman who won’t let a toxic ex bring her down.

She will not shed a single tear for him because it’d be a waste of time. 

And as tempted as she is to look back and wonder what he’s up to, she won’t.

Porque en el fondo sabe que cuanto antes empiece a mirar hacia delante, antes empezará a sanar su corazón y a olvidar su mente.

And one day, she is simply going to stop caring about where he is and what he’s doing.

Because her life is going to be so fulfilled and happy – that nothing toxic will come to her mind!

Y eso va a ser una victoria personal aparentemente pequeña, pero tan importante.

She’ll no longer care! And to that story, all she will be able to say is – The End.