Para el chico que viene después de su angustia

She caught your eye—probably because of the fiery glow she gives off when she smiles now that she’s learning cómo volver a ser feliz.

She has a mystery about her that you just can’t seem to put your finger on.

It’s not that she doesn’t want to let you in, it’s just that she’s just worked so hard to get where she is now that she is very selective of who she will let enter her life. Should you find yourself being that person she allows to scratch through the layers, please read this.

Ha sido reducida a la nada por alguien que le prometió el mundo. Le dijeron que la querían, pero la trataron como si no fuera nada.

Nunca nadie le ha dicho algo en serio, así que se entiende por qué es tan reservada.

El amor no ha sido más que una experiencia confusa y desgarradora para ella, así que ahora le da mucho miedo.

Se ha levantado del suelo cubierta de lágrimas negras con resaca de vino demasiadas veces antes, de modo que ahora, tiende a querer huir de cualquiera que se acerque remotamente a hacerle sentir NADA.

It’s not that she’s incapable of loving someone, in fact, it’s just the opposite.

Todavía tiene mucho amor que dar a la persona adecuada a pesar de todas las equivocadas que la han agotado tanto que se olvidó de amarse a sí misma en medio de amarlas.

Ama muchísimo, y te darás cuenta de que esto es lo mejor y lo peor de ella.

If when you look at her, you don’t see the fire in her soul and the flames that dance in her eyes as she laughs… please do not stay. Don’t lead her on for even a second.

Ella ha hecho todo lo posible para llegar a donde está ahora, así que por favor no hagas nada que ponga en peligro la curación de su corazón.

She may smile and laugh and seem like she is the strongest woman you know, but she is still very fragile regardless whether you can or can’t see the bruises she still bears underneath.

Loving her will be challenging at times, but I promise it will be the most amazing and rewarding thing you’ll come to know, aside from the love that she has to offer you.

You’ll have to be patient as she aprende a confiar de nuevo. She’s going to apologize a lot for things she didn’t do.

She’s going to think you’re mad for no reason. She’s going to carry around the doubt and fear that you are ready to walk out at any given moment because this is all she’s ever known.

She may not call or text like she wants to because she feels like she’s bothering you, but she is waiting to see if she means enough to you for you to send her something, letting her know you’re thinking of her like she’s thinking of you.

She will get a sinking feeling in her stomach when your phone goes off around her at night or if you don’t answer it when it does, even if she doesn’t say a word about it.

She’ll think the worst when you don’t answer her calls or texts right away. When you’re not around, she’ll start playing out scenarios in her head of what you’re doing and why she isn’t good enough.

When she kisses you before you leave like it’s the last time she will ever see you, please know that she does this because she knows it could be.

She may have this look in her eyes when you tell her goodbye like she doesn’t want to say it and it’s because she is wondering if it’s for good this time.

She will always love you like there is no tomorrow because if there is anything she has learned, it’s how much time is really borrowed.

She’s not crazy, but she may get jealous at times. You need to be willing to understand why.

If you’re not ready to make her feel like a priority, then you don’t deserve to be in her life at all. She will no longer be someone’s convenience.

The self love she possesses these days is worth her walking away from anyone who doesn’t realize that. Don’t make the mistake of letting her walk away.

You might have to remind her sometimes that she’s the only one you want, but don’t just tell her… show her.

She needs more than words to feel the truth in anything because of all the empty promises she’s been told.

Sus temores no son irracionales porque sólo se basa en lo que ha estado acostumbrada durante tanto tiempo. Sé el hombre que cambie eso para ella.

I can promise you that anything you tell her, she won’t believe until she sees it happen.

Please don’t feel like she is punishing you for the mistakes of those who came before you. She just doesn’t want to be disappointed again.

She’s just trying to protect her heart because no one else ever has.

I’m not trying to scare you off or trying to give you reasons not to stay, I just want you to know that this is not a game for her—she is done letting people waste her time.

Así que estoy tratando de eliminar a los débiles. Tienes que ser capaz de soportar el calor de un incendio forestal si quieres que tu mundo se ilumine.

She will be the most faithful, loving, loyal woman you’ll ever have by your side, but you have to be willing to work for it.

Lucha por ella cada día incluso después de sentir que la tienes y ella hará lo mismo por ti. Ella sólo quiere ser amado como ella ama.

She wants to know that she is worth it to someone, that she isn’t easy to walk away from and that the thought of leaving wouldn’t even be an option.

If you are lucky enough to be loved by her, it will be a love that is unwavering, unquestionable and so fulfilling that you’ll wonder if anyone else ever really loved you before.

So why should she settle for anything less than that for herself? She shouldn’t.

Do you realize that despite what this girl has gone through, the pain that she has felt, the people who have made her question her worth, she still chooses to put her heart on the line for a chance to feel like she isn’t the only one who loves her.

She knows she’s taking a risk. She knows the outcome may not end well for her once again, but she doesn’t give up!

If that doesn’t make you feel honored to know such a resilient being, then you are not the man for her.

If her presence alone does not make you feel something, then please do not let her get attached to you because when she falls, and she will… she goes all in.

So if you don’t plan on being the one to catch her, then don’t stand there and watch as her foot leaves the ledge.

Te querrá mucho antes de atreverse a pronunciar las palabras, pero sabrás que te quiere por todas las formas en que te lo demuestra. ¿Estás dispuesto a prestarles atención?

She’s telling you everything you need to know without saying anything. She’s just so damn tired of giving herself to someone who doesn’t appreciate it, so she tries her hardest to hold back in fear of being made a fool.

So if you are given the opportunity to be the guy who comes after her heartbreak, after she has put herself back together…. Please do not fail her.

Be the one who chases away the demons from her past, not another haunting memory she will have to overcome. Be her saving grace and show her that she is not waging it all on a war she will never win. Just please, please… don’t be like the rest of them.

por Ashley Richard