¿Por qué no encuentro el amor? 10 problemas que te impiden encontrar a tu media naranja

Lo único que tienen en común todos los seres humanos de este planeta es su eterna búsqueda del amor verdadero.

Todos anhelamos una relación amorosa con una buena persona que nos demuestre que el amor romántico no está fuera de nuestro alcance.

Todo lo que hace falta es salir de tu zona de confort y encontrar tu propio camino para encontrar el tipo de amor que mereces.

Pero decirlo y hacerlo son dos cosas distintas. Cada persona sigue su propio camino.

Encontrar una relación satisfactoria ya en el instituto y mantenerla durante toda la vida adulta es todo un reto para muchas personas.

Don’t feel bad about yourself if you’ve recently experienced a bitter break-up with your high-school sweetheart.

That relationship taught you more than you’re able to comprehend right now.

Tú eres el dueño de tu vida.

You’re the one who has to choose when you’re ready to find your true love because you’re the one who’ll have to work hard on keeping it functional.

If you’ve been less than lucky in finding love, this is for you.

Mi objetivo es ayudarte a descubrir las razones ocultas que te han estado impidiendo encontrar el amor verdadero y experimentar esa felicidad quizás por primera vez en tu vida.

If you’re having a hard time dealing with the cards you’ve been dealt in life, keep reading.

Hopefully (and most likely) you’ll find it easier to cope and become more prepared for a healthy relationship that will increase your self-esteem.

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Why Can’t I Find Love?

Many people resort to various dating sites to meet people, fearing that they’ll be alone for the rest of their life. They are willing to settle for something mediocre and sacrifice their own needs for the sake of being seen with a significant other.

Yes, there is an array of potential partners if you choose to turn to online dating and hey, who knows, perhaps they will lead you to just the kind of guy or girl you’re yearning for!

But on the other hand, look back on your dating history. How much luck have you truly had with dating sites? Maybe the problem is you having somewhat unrealistic expectations or maybe you just need to search within yourself and discover what it is that’s really keeping you alone?

¿Ha sido incapaz de ir más allá de una primera cita? ¿Te agobia la idea de quedarte con una persona para siempre?

¿No te has expuesto lo suficiente?

Let’s dig a little deeper and uncover the mystery of your love life. Love is a numbers game.

Cuanto más salgas, socialices y salgas de tu zona de confort, más probabilidades tendrás de conocer a posibles parejas.

I believe it’s time to get to the bottom of you not being able to find love. You deserve to find the kind of person who you’ll instantly feel that incredible vibe with.

You’re well within your rights to find a good person who’ll lift you up, encourage you to achieve your dreams and make you feel invincible.

Todos queremos sentirnos seguros cerca de la persona que amamos.

But if you’ve been subconsciously sabotaging yourself out of certain fears that you’re not ready to face, it’s high time to let the truth swim to the surface. If you want to find love, first you need to find yourself!

If you’re ready to be honest with yourself, keep reading to uncover the things that have been keeping you single for so long.

It’s time to get your groove back but first things first; let’s see how deep you’re willing to dig to help yourself find your one true love.

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10 problemas que le mantienen soltero

You can finally stop asking yourself, ”Why can’t I find love?” and start finding the real reasons that have kept you single for so long.

We all sometimes struggle with hidden issues that keep us from becoming our true self and there’s no shame in being hesitant to face them.

Pero una persona fuerte y madura tiene que estar dispuesta a enfrentarse a sus demonios para poder superarlos finalmente.

Aquí tienes 10 problemas que te han estado frenando y cómo encontrar el camino de vuelta:

1. You’re still reeling from your past heartbreak

Sometimes, you fool yourself into thinking that you’ve healed from past pain when in fact you’d just been suppressing it for so long that you started believing it was truly gone.

It happens to everyone and it’s all part of the process of finding yourself again.

La curación de una ruptura pasada depende de algunos factores. ¿Cómo de reciente fue tu última ruptura?

¿Quién fue el que puso fin a la relación? ¿Te alegraste de que terminara o intentaste salvarla a toda costa?

If you were the one who was dumped, despite trying your best to stay in your relationship and keep it together, then it’s more than expected for you to take your time recovering.

It takes a lot of time to heal from something you didn’t want to happen and fought so hard to salvage.

Perhaps this is your mind telling you that you’re simply not ready to find new love until you’ve resolved all of your past resentment with your last break-up.

El amor verdadero está ahí fuera, en algún lugar, esperando, así que tómate tu tiempo para recuperarte y sé paciente antes de embarcarte en nuevas búsquedas amorosas.

2. You don’t actually want a serious relationship right now

Maybe you’ve gotten so good at being single and fabulous that you’re simply not willing to let anything get in the way of your fantastic new lifestyle!

Poder salir siempre que quieras, llevarte a casa a cualquier tío o tía buena que se cruce en tu camino y dormir hasta tarde sin tener que rendir cuentas a nadie por la mañana me parece un trato estupendo.

And although the thought of having a partner seems alluring, things are just so good right now that you don’t really want to be in a committed relationship.

You tend to ask yourself, ”Why can’t I find love?” at the most random moments but you already know the answer!

Here’s what I think. If you’re truly happy and content with the way your life is right now, why mess with it?

Don’t ruin a good thing just because society pressures you into being in a relationship. Screw that!

Be happy, do what makes you happy and only listen to your own heart. When you’re ready to find someone, you’ll know!

3. Love isn’t your top priority

La vida es un viaje que consta de varias áreas en las que hay que centrarse y cultivar para ser feliz y estar en paz.

Y si tu vida es un desastre en este momento, ¿cómo puedes esperar estar preparado para encontrar el amor?

En primer lugar, tienes que poner tu vida en orden para lograr cierta tranquilidad y sólo entonces podrás centrarte en tu vida amorosa.

A successful relationship requires two partners who are in it together. You can’t expect to maintain a healthy relationship without being okay with the way your life is unfolding right now.

Maybe you’re still working toward a promotion and that has been eating away at you. Perhaps you are a parent and your child has been going through a lot.

Or maybe you’re still in school and you want to get your master’s degree before becoming seriously involved with someone.

Life isn’t a race so take your time! Check off all those boxes before going on yet another first date.

Hacer malabarismos con tantas cosas puede ser muy estresante. Tranquilícese y vaya poco a poco. Céntrate en tus propias necesidades antes de buscar pareja.

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4. You’re mentally and emotionally exhausted

Tu salud emocional y mental debe ser siempre lo primero. No tu trabajo, no tus aficiones y, desde luego, no complacer a los demás.

You are your own biggest investment, so take care of your own needs before taking care of anyone else’s.

Perhaps your past relationships were taking away pieces of your soul and you don’t feel like you have anything left to give.

Maybe life has dealt you some truly shitty cards and you can’t catch a break; that wears you down more than you know.

Breathe. Love yourself. Be gentle to yourself. You’re only human. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to feel mentally exhausted.

Nobody expects you to always be at your best, and if they do, they’re not worthy of your time!

If you haven’t been able to find love, this could be the reason why. You’re just not in a healthy place right now for a successful relationship. So what?

Permanece soltero el tiempo que necesites para encontrar la paz interior. Nada es más importante que tu propia paz interior.

And once you’ve been able to recuperate, catch your breath and stand on your own two feet and you’ll see how much better the world looks. It all starts with you.

5. Tiene expectativas poco realistas

Sometimes, people get too picky and that can be understood… to an extent.

If you’ve been dealing with a really crappy romantic partner who diminished your self-esteem and led you to a bitter, acrimonious break-up, you’re only trying to look out for yourself.

However, what you’re doing in the process is sabotaging yourself because, with such high expectations, you’re unlikely to find anyone you’d deem worthy of your time.

No todo el mundo es tu ex. No todo el mundo va a por ti. Hay gente decente por ahí que realmente cuidaría de tu corazón.

Tus heridas del pasado te han llevado a levantar muros y a no dejar entrar a casi nadie. Es imposible cumplir tus expectativas porque nadie es perfecto.

If you would let your guard down a bit and give the next person a chance, maybe you’d understand what I mean.

You can’t find true love without taking a risk. Every relationship is risky; you never know how it may end. With every single partner, there’s a chance of it all ending.

Lower your expectations and put yourself out there. If you don’t take any risks, you’ll never find what you’re looking for.

6. You’re not really making an effort to meet people

You’re a homebody. You enjoy the comfort of your home, binging your favorite Netflix shows, looking like a mess and not caring.

It’s what you’re used to at this point. So wondering, ”Why can’t I find love?” really shouldn’t be that much of a shock.

You’re not putting yourself out there! You’re not making an effort to meet anyone new, let alone start a healthy relationship.

You’re having a hard time getting yourself out of bed, let alone putting on fancy clothes and washing your hair. Who has the time, right?

Well, you should, if you’re eager to find love! This isn’t a movie.

There won’t be anyone knocking on your door in the middle of the night, realizing you’ve been their true love all this time, kissing you with passion and asking you to take a chance on them.

Sorry to burst your bubble but if you want a relationship, you’re going to have to go out and find it yourself! It could be your high-school sweetheart but it could also be that somebody sitting at a local bar alone, wondering the same thing you are.

Sal ahí fuera y descúbrelo.

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7. You’re trying to avoid getting hurt again

You just can’t let yourself get hurt one more time. It’s too exhausting and you’re not sure you’d be able to take it again.

It hurts way too much and each time, it gets harder and harder to move on. Why does love have to be so freakin’ painful?

A lot of people refuse to get into a new relationship precisely for this reason. They don’t want to risk getting hurt again. And why would they?

Nobody enters into a relationship thinking they’d get heartbroken, yet it happens all too often.

Abrir el corazón requiere tiempo y paciencia. Si tu última relación acabó muy mal, date tiempo antes de buscar a alguien nuevo.

You’ll never be able to give it your all and part of you will always remain hidden.

Una relación sana consiste en que dos personas sean abiertas, honestas y vulnerables entre sí.

Are you ready for that? If the answer is no, don’t push it. If you feel like you need more time, so be it.

8. You don’t trust your judgment any longer

After so many failed romances and broken hearts, you don’t really trust yourself with love anymore.

Claramente tienes mal tipo como siempre enamorarse de la persona equivocada. You’re sick and tired of it and you don’t feel like you’re a good judge of character.

Let me tell you something—90% of people would tell you the very same thing!

Después de todos y cada uno de los desengaños que sufrí, decidí categóricamente que ya no era capaz de tomar esas decisiones por mí misma. Siempre acababa muy destrozada.

But like I already said… love is a risk by default!

I know it seems like you can’t find a good person to save your life but I promise you that there’s one person out there for you who’ll make you see that all of this is BS!

You’ve simply had bad luck, that’s all. The tables are going to turn and once they do, you’ll see that you were being too harsh on yourself all this time.

Sólo hace falta una persona adecuada para liberarte de todas tus dudas e inseguridades para el resto de tu vida.

9. You’ve focused your energy on what you DON’T want

And that list is mighty long. You’ve had so much experience with dealing with the wrong types of people that you’re basically an expert on what NOT to put up with.

For example, if you’ve been cheated on, that’s the first thing you want to be sure won’t happen. But how can you ever be sure of that?

Another thing—you most certainly don’t want someone who can’t handle your ambition and drive.

Tu relación anterior terminó porque tu pareja nunca aceptó que tú fueras el más ambicioso.

Siempre te hicieron sentir mal por saber lo que querías y proponértelo. Pues ya no.

La próxima persona con la que salgas tiene que ser amable, simpática, abierta y aceptar exactamente el tipo de persona que eres.

You are no longer putting your dreams on hold for someone who feels threatened by them. If they can’t handle ALL the parts of you, then they don’t deserve you.

But the thing is, you’ll never know how well your new partner will handle all of your quirks unless you give them a chance to prove that they can. Think about that for a second.

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10. You’ve stopped feeling attractive

After all of this time spent chasing the wrong people, putting your life on hold to please someone else, letting them shine and always take the credit for everything, yet still never being good enough for them, you’ve let it affect you profoundly.

It must be you. You just don’t feel like a catch anymore. If you were, wouldn’t you be in a relationship right now?

If you were really all that, why are you still asking yourself, ”Why can’t I find love?”

Why has love been successfully avoiding you and leaving a dent in your heart that you’re not sure you can recover from?

It’s hard to snap back from feeling that way but you know what? Screw all those people who played with your self-esteem.

Screw all those toxic individuals who made you feel unworthy. It’s their loss.

You’re here to find someone who’ll make you feel like you matter. Someone who’ll never let you go to bed angry or resentful.

And if you haven’t met such a person yet, it can only mean one thing…

Todas tus relaciones pasadas estaban aquí para enseñarte una lección. Una lección sobre lo que NUNCA debes volver a soportar.

Una lección sobre cómo apreciar, cuidar y desarrollar el propio sentido del yo.

You are kind, intelligent and big-hearted. Just because some toxic people entered your life and made you feel this bad, doesn’t mean they were right.

Céntrate en crecer como persona y en mantener una relación satisfactoria con tu propio yo.

Reach for the stars and never look back. Until you find someone who lifts you up, encourages you and loves you despite your little flaws, don’t settle for anything else.

El amor verdadero siempre merece la espera.

El secreto para encontrar el amor

The real secret to finding true love is to never settle for someone who doesn’t make you feel like you’re on top of the world.

¿Conoces esas vibraciones que sientes al instante cuando congenias con alguien a todos los niveles? ¿Intelectual, emocional, espiritual y sexualmente?

That’s what love is all about; sharing a bond that is strong and impenetrable yet exciting and fresh and makes you feel invincible.

Never settle for mediocre love that doesn’t fulfill your heart.

You deserve to find an uplifting partner who’ll go out of their way to give 80% when all you can give is 20%.

Someone who doesn’t hold grudges and who doesn’t make you stop following your dreams.

Love is simple; a person who’s willing to accept you for exactly who you are with no intention of ever changing you.

If you still can’t find love, it’s because you haven’t met a good enough person who’d do all that for you.

But once you do, you’ll finally see why it never worked out with anyone else.

Once your intellect, your emotional zest and your soul are successfully matched, you’ll feel that unparalleled vibe.

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