5 rasgos que tienes y que hacen que un narcisista te persiga

Los narcisistas son depredadores y siempre están a la caza de nuevas víctimas.

They never stop and relax because they can’t live without someone to draw all the energy from.

Las personas inocentes, los empáticos, son sus principales víctimas. Tienen una gran cantidad de energía para dar, lo que atrae a un narcisista más cerca de ellos.

An empath’s energy is the source of their narcissistic life. I met a guy once and he was everything I ever dreamed of. He was just perfect.

His jokes were funny, he was considerate and he was good-looking. He had it all. Even my mother liked him and that’s not an easy thing to achieve.

Cuando apareció en mi vida, todo mejoró de repente, todo se puso a mi altura.

Era casi demasiado bueno para ser verdad. Debería haber esperado que ocurriera algo grave, porque era imposible que todo fuera tan malditamente perfecto.

Los primeros meses fueron como un sueño.

Vale, tuvo sus momentos que me hicieron dudar por un segundo de su integridad y su bondad pero siempre se disculpaba por todo lo que hacía y prometía no volver a hacerlo nunca más.

Además, pensaba que todo el mundo tenía derecho a equivocarse y a tener un mal día.

There have to be a few bumps in the road. It’s how relationships work. You hit a bump and you solve it, so you move on.

But after a while, you realize that it’s not him who’s apologizing anymore, it’s you all the time.

Something must be wrong in this picture. It was all perfect in the beginning but now you can’t seem to catch a break.

Todo lo que haces te parece mal porque sus reacciones te lo demuestran.

Está constantemente insatisfecho contigo y te critica constantemente.

Entonces rompéis. And it doesn’t end there. Either he begs or you beg for the two of you to get back together and you give him a second shot which he doesn’t deserve.

Deep down inside you know that but you can’t help it because you’re in love and you hope that this time around things will definitely change. Well, they don’t change, they become even worse.

Then it’s everything all over again so naturally you break up once again.

The story doesn’t end there. He comes back and he tries to get you back but this time, you’re a bit smarter.

Then the emotional blackmail begins. My narcissist did this to me. He played with my feelings because I didn’t have the courage or the strength to go ningún contacto con él.

Respondí a sus llamadas, quedamos para tomar un café. Cometí el error de dejarle volver a mi vida, no como amante sino como amigo.

Sentí pena por él porque mucha gente le había hecho daño en el pasado. Tantas mujeres le habían hecho daño.

He couldn’t trust anybody and he was careful with his feelings because of that.

Menuda sarta de estupideces.

Nunca le hicieron daño. Era él quien hería y manipulaba a los demás. Y ahora intentaba manipularme fingiendo ser vulnerable para que yo sintiera lástima y volviera con él.

Me estaba chantajeando emocionalmente y yo no tenía ni idea de lo que estaba pasando.

Los narcisistas son depredadores emocionales que intuyen si vas a caer en su falso carisma y en sus trucos.

Saben exactamente a qué persona elegir y utilizar para impulsarse.

They have a sixth sense for that and they can tell if you’re going to buy their shit.

Te des cuenta o no, tienes ciertos rasgos que te convierten en objetivo de un narcisista.

Tienes algo que saben que pueden usar y tirar cuando hayan terminado.

Confías en la gente

   

You’re naive and trusting which makes you blind to the subtle signs that you’re dealing with a narcissist.

It’s not that you ignore those red flags a narcissist shows, and they have to show them sooner or later, but you simply can’t comprehend that someone can act that way and you don’t pay attention.

It won’t cross your mind that this person is trying to use you and that this person is dangerous because you’re not like that.

Tu carácter ingenuo te hace creer que todo el mundo actúa como tú.

Te hace creer que todo el mundo piensa en los demás como en sí mismo.

You believe them because you don’t think that they would do something that nasty ever.

You just can’t see the red flags that this person is someone you should get away from as soon as possible.

You’re kind and compassionate

You’re too loving and you care about everybody. You have so much love to give and you don’t save it for yourself.

It makes you happy when you make someone else happy, even if that means you put yourself second. That is something narcissists can’t wait to get their hands on.

Narcissists see your kindness and they see how you’re nice to everybody and how you genuinely care about everybody and they take advantage of that. They are like sharks when they smell blood.

You’re lonely

You desperately want to find love and because you’re lonely you’ll take anything that is offered to you.

Tu autoestima es cercana a cero, lo que encaja perfectamente con una personalidad narcisista.

When you have no self-love or self-respect, it’s easier to control you and that’s when a narcissist strikes.

Así que acabas con él porque es lo único que necesitas en tus momentos de soledad y tristeza.

Te promete todo lo que quieres oír. Y al cabo de unos meses te encuentras en una situación fría y relación abusiva...preguntándome cómo llegaste allí y qué pasó.

Odias los conflictos

Narcissists feed on the fear they evoke in their victims. When they start screaming and yelling at you just because they are having a bad day or they want to blame you for something that’s their fault, they provoke fear in you, which is their favorite feeling.

You’re afraid of conflict and you want to avoid it at any cost. You want to keep things calm, which suits them.

They won’t lose a lot of energy in driving you crazy, they will feed themselves with your fear and you won’t do anything about it.

Esencialmente, cuanto más evites el conflicto, más interesante serás para un narcisista.

You don’t know how to set boundaries

You have to know how to put your foot down and say when you’ve had enough.

Hay que saber poner límites y no permitir que te pisoteen.

You have to fight for yourself and stand up and raise your voice when it’s necessary.

When you set boundaries and show people what they are allowed and not allowed to do, you’re going to let good people in your life and kick the bad ones out.

You have to show everyone what the things are that you will and won’t tolerate.

When a narcissist gets a hold of you, he will tear you apart. It’s so important to be able to spot and, if necessary, ignorar a un narcisista para evitar que te claven las garras.

Y no es un trabajo fácil. Al principio serán encantadores y cariñosos. Serán perfectos.

And they will stay that way until they are completely sure you won’t be able to get away that easily.