15 Razones por las que te sientes miserable por enamorarte de su potencial

1. The potential you’re in love with may never come true.

Todo el mundo tiene potencial para hacer algo. Ninguna vida que nace es una vida inútil.

Lo que ocurre es que algunos alcanzan su potencial, pero otros toman un camino equivocado y nunca llegan a hacer lo que eran capaces de hacer.

Therefore, by falling in love with a guy like this, the only thing you’re left with is misery.

2. Te gusta y él lo sabe.

He will take advantage of the fact you’re in love with him—or better put—con su potencial.

He will smile at you across the room, knowing he’ll sweep you off your feet.

You won’t be able to do anything about it because your love is just too strong. Your love has a mind of its own. Once again…misery, it is.

3. You can’t change him.

You don’t have the power to change anyone. That’s the most common misconception of every relationship.

La gente cree que puede cambiar a una persona a su gusto.

That’s BS, and it’s better to face that fact now than later.

4. En el fondo no está seguro de ti.

That’s the reason why you fell in love with his potential. He is not letting you into his heart.

He is not letting you see him for who he is because he’s not sure you’re the one.

You’re prepared to give your everything to someone who is not sure about you. Think about that once again, will you?

5. When you’re not around, it’s like you don’t exist.

He won’t call you just to see how you are. He won’t show any interest in you unless you’re standing right in front of him.

Let me put this differently—if you’re not physically present, he won’t give you much attention.

This only shows that you’re convenient for him, for now. When he gets a better opportunity, you’re out of the game for good.

6. Is falling in love with someone’s potential enough?

Is it enough to make your lonely nights not so lonely, to hold your hand when you’re scared, or kiss you when you’re broken?

¿Vale la pena romperse el corazón por enamorarse de un potencial?

7. Cuando un hombre quiere algo, ¡va a por ello!

A man will never wait to get something he thinks belongs to him—in this case, you.

You’re miserable because he is clearly not showing any interest in you. Better said, it’s the other way around. You’re chasing him!

8. Sólo te da un trozo de la galleta.

He is charming. He treats you with care, but only when he feels like it. He flirts with you, and then he stops and turns around like he doesn’t even know you.

The only feeling you can get—and you do get—from situations including him is confusion. Does he like you or doesn’t he?

9. You’re unhappy because he’s immature.

Sure, that relationship you’re trying to pull off looks perfect at moments. You go out on dates and dinners.

You have a lot of fun, but that doesn’t change the fact that he is an immature mama’s boy who no está dispuesto a afrontar la realidad y tomar cartas en el asunto.

10. You think—we all think—we are their saviors.

Listen to me, a man like that doesn’t need saving.

Creemos que podemos ayudar a que esas grandes cualidades ocultas salgan a la superficie.

The truth is, they will never come out, as long as he keeps them in. It’s up to him, not you.

11. You can’t ignore the fact that there is still a spark of passion between you.

You can’t ignore the moments when your relationship looked like a real one, a true and everlasting one.

You can’t ignore the good in him, the freakin’ potential. It’s killing you. It’s making you miserable.

12. Aceptas sólo la cantidad que te da.

Aceptas migajas de su tiempo, su atención y su amor.

Estás completamente subordinado a su voluntad y a su misericordia de prestarte atención o no.

13. Habla con otras chicas.

Since he doesn’t take your relationship seriously, he invests a lot of time in flirting and talking to other girls.

Lo hace todo el tiempo.

It can even happen when he’s with you. After all, to him, it’s all the same.

14. Estás perdiendo el tiempo.

The time you’ve spent with him is the time you’re never getting back.

Tal vez te niegues a darte cuenta ahora, pero por desgracia, sin duda te darás cuenta en algún momento.

Entonces, será demasiado tarde para reparar el daño que te hizo.

15. You’re tired and miserable because you’re sick of making him see your situation from your point of view.

It’s excruciatingly painful to try to show him how you feel and make him see the two of you with your eyes.

The pain you’re feeling is crippling. It’s destroying you from the inside. Yet…nothing changes.

¿Durante cuánto tiempo seguirás con esta farsa?