10 razones por las que los narcisistas se aprovechan de las mujeres con ansiedad

Un narcisista raramente se liará con cualquiera.

In fact, their selection is never random; they’re always looking for the most suited victims for their abuse.

Y se ha demostrado que la mayoría de las víctimas de narcisistas son mujeres que sufren de ansiedad desorden.

So, there has to be some kind of connection between the two. Let’s look into it.

1. A narcissist never takes responsibility…

Una de las características más comunes de todos los narcisistas es que nunca se consideran culpables de nada de lo que dicen o hacen.

These are the people who usually have zero conscience and never admit that they’re wrong.

Even when they see their mistake, they never admit it to anyone else – especially not their victims.

Aunque en el fondo ven sus imperfecciones, los narcisistas tienen la necesidad de presentarse como impecables.

They’re not like the rest of us mortals.

They don’t make errors, repent for their misdeeds, or apologize when they’ve done you harm.

Por supuesto, todo esto forma parte de su táctica manipuladora.

Fingir ser demasiado bueno para ser verdad al principio es una forma que tiene el narcisista de meterse en tu piel.

Últimamente, sale impune de sus pecados, ya que nunca los admite y siempre encuentra una excusa para su comportamiento tóxico.

2. …while people with anxiety think they’re always to blame

Por otro lado, las personas con trastorno de ansiedad siempre se echan toda la culpa a sí mismas.

Y eso es lo que más conviene al narcisista.

Verás, incluso si un narcisista te dice he’s sorry, somehow he’ll manage to twist the entire situation around and you will never get a genuine apology.

Instead of taking responsibility for his actions, he’ll end up convincing his anxious victim that she made him react that way, that he for example cheated because she wasn’t giving him enough attention, or that he insulted (or even hit her) for her own good.

Suena absurdo, lo sé.

However, if you’re anxious and insecure about yourself, something like this is easy to believe.

Además, un hombre con un trastorno narcisista te lavará el cerebro durante meses y años.

He’ll blame you for every little thing that happens and for every failure of your relationship until you’re manipulated into seeing things that way too.

3. A narcissist makes their victims feel like they’re not enough…

Let’s get one thing straight: A narcissist’s ego is fragile.

Despite popular opinion, these people don’t think highly of themselves and have an awfully low self-esteem.

Sin embargo, en lugar de trabajar en estas cuestiones, optan por otro modelo de comportamiento.

They decide to start acting completely the opposite to what they feel and pretending that they’re self-confident in order for others to see them that way as well.

So, when you first meet a man like this, you admire his sense of self-worth without actually knowing what’s hidden underneath the surface.

The problem isn’t in this guy’s cockiness, it is in the way he bases his self-value on humiliating others.

A narcissist constantly compares himself to everyone around him – especially to his victim – and the only way for him to feel good is to be above you.

En consecuencia, este tipo aprovecha cualquier oportunidad para menospreciarte.

Te insulta, te pone motes, disminuye tu valía, se burla de ti. Afirma que tus amigos, tu educación o tu carrera no sirven para nada.

Te hace compararte con otras chicas. Y la lista sigue.

Te convierte en la sumisa de vuestra relación.

La sensación de dominio que tiene sobre ti le da una sensación de poder y autoestima.

4. …while anxious people already have self-doubts

¿Y quién crees que es la más indicada para este truco de magia? Pues nadie más que una chica que ya está luchando contra la ansiedad y las inseguridades.

Una mujer ansiosa es la víctima más adecuada de un narcisistas abuso porque ya piensa que no es suficiente.

So, a narcissist has no trouble making her believe that she really isn’t worth anything.

This guy puts all of his efforts into convincing you that you’re not meant to be loved, that you should be lucky that he agreed to be with you, despite the way he’s treating you, and that nobody else would ever look at you.

You’re not pretty or beautiful enough.

You’re stupid, crazy, incapable of doing anything with your life, and you would be a total failure if it weren’t for him – your savior and the only person in this world who could ever love you the way you are.

5. A narcissist uses fear…

Otra técnica que utilizan todos los narcisistas para controlar a sus víctimas y mantenerlas a su lado es el miedo.

When you hear this, you probably assume that this man threatens to kill you or beat you up, but there is much more to fear than physical threats, even though they’re also usually included in narcissistic abuse.

He might emotionally blackmail you and tell you that he’ll do something to himself if you leave him.

Or he threatens to expose all of your secrets to your closest ones or publish your private videos and photos – the possibilities are endless.

He promises that he’ll destroy you if you walk away on him or that he’ll haunt you for as long as you’re alive.

En cualquier caso, el resultado final es el mismo.

This man doesn’t keep you physically locked up next to him, but he definitely does keep you hostage in another way.

6. …while anxiety disorder makes you afraid

Naturalmente, alguien con ansiedad es el blanco perfecto para este tipo de comportamiento.

Al fin y al cabo, tu trastorno de ansiedad te produce miedo por sí solo.

You’re an overthinker and pessimist who always expects the worst case scenario.

So, how could you assume that this man’s threats are in vain?

How could you see that he is actually nothing but a coward who wouldn’t have the guts to do anything about it?

Most importantly, how could you deal with this new fear, when you’re already struggling with the ones you already have?

¿Cómo puedes mirarlo directamente a los ojos y al final ahuyentarlo?

You can’t, right? Well, sadly, your narcissistic boyfriend knows that and uses it to his advantage.

7. A narcissist gaslights their victims…

Todos los narcisistas tienen la costumbre de utilizar una táctica tóxica llamada gaslighting.

Mienten, dicen medias verdades y hacen todo lo que está en su mano para cambiar el curso de los acontecimientos en tu cabeza.

They’re playing with your mind, trying to make you feel like you’re the crazy one.

Every time you two argue about something, a narcissist claims that you didn’t hear things right, that you misinterpreted them, or that you made a big deal out of nothing.

En la mayoría de los casos extremos, un narcisista intentará convencerte de que algunas cosas de tu pasado ni siquiera ocurrieron.

It is all in your head and you’re imagining things just to accuse him of being a bad guy.

Basically, they want to brainwash you to the point where you’ll believe them over your own brain and where you’ll start doubting your own sanity.

8. …who don’t trust their own judgments

On the other hand, when you’re dealing with an anxiety disorder, it won’t take you long before you start believing him, since you already question your judgment-making skills.

¿Su memoria es correcta o este hombre dice la verdad?

¿Te está jugando la mente una mala pasada?

¿Ves las cosas peor de lo que realmente son debido a tu pesimismo e inseguridades?

La respuesta es no.

You’ve everything but crazy and you have a more vivid remembrance of the past because of the pain it caused you.

9. A narcissist makes their victim emotionally dependent…

Todo narcisista necesita que le necesiten porque eso le da una sensación de valía.

Y para lograrlo, se asegura de que sus víctimas se conviertan emocionalmente dependiente sobre él.

Al principio, finge ser el mejor hombre que has conocido.

Te da toda su alma y su corazón, te hace favores y te ayuda siempre que puede.

Por supuesto, después de un tiempo, empiezas a confiar en él.

You count on the fact that this man isn’t going anywhere and you’re more than happy for finally finding someone to share your life difficulties with.

Pero en el momento en que lo reconoce, un narcisista se echa atrás.

However, he doesn’t leave you hanging for good. He just wants you to see how emotionally dependent you’ve actually become on him.

So, he manages to convince you that you can’t make it without him.

Y hace que tu mayor pesadilla sea el miedo a perderle.

10. …while anxious people are scared of abandonment

If you’re an anxious person, you’re constantly obsessed with the thought that everyone you love will walk away on you sooner or later.

You’ll do something to chase them away, they’ll get tired of your demanding personality, or they’ll just stop loving you.

Bueno, estos problemas de abandono you’re dealing with is exactly what this guy uses against you.

He knows you’re terrified of the mere thought of him leaving you on your own, and he is always keeping your traumas alive.