9 excusas que usan los hombres para huir del compromiso
En algún momento de nuestras vidas, todos hemos conocido a alguien con fobia al compromiso y probablemente todos hemos escuchado alguna de sus excusas.
Algunos nos dimos por aludidos y nos fuimos, mientras que otros ya estábamos demasiado metidos en el ajo y esperábamos que cambiara y nos quedamos.
Calling bullshit and leaving isn’t always easy, but if you heard your man say any of these, watch out, as your man could be a true commitment-phobe.
Quiero centrarme en mi carrera
His job and career ambitions are so consuming that he can’t afford to have a distraction such as a relationship, but he’s okay with having you around for some casual rolling in the sheets.
Simplemente valora más su carrera que una relación.
Let’s just enjoy what we have
And what exactly do you have? You give yourself completely, but he takes only what he wants and what’s there not to enjoy?
He gets to vent to someone, he has someone who will be there for him, but he’s not there for you? I call bullshit on this; if he enjoys more than you do, leave.
I don’t deserve you
He could be saying this because he truly knows your worth and he knows he’s not good enough for you.
Or this could be something like the good ol’, “It’s not you, it’s me,” type of excuse. Either way, he really doesn’t deserve you.
I don’t want to ruin our friendship
Every great love story begins with a friendship and there’s nothing better than dating your best friend.
But if he insists on staying friends, he really doesn’t see you as anything more.
I don’t do labels
Labels come with boundaries, and that’s something he wants to avoid at all costs. It’s not labels that he hates, he just doesn’t do girlfriends.
Me gustan las cosas tal como son
You may both be comfortable with the way you are with your situationship, but if you want something more and he doesn’t, then he has no plans on growing with you or evolving your relationship to something more.
¿Por qué esperarle? if there’s someone out there who is ready to go ‘all in’ with you?
Quiero tomarme las cosas con calma
If he wants to take your relationship slowly, but is eager to take some other things more quickly (you know what I mean), he’s only after one thing. Is he really worth it?
Mi ex me hizo mucho daño
In some cases, an emotionally damaged man could be using this excuse because he doesn’t want to heal, or he’s not ready to move on; he simply needs time that you don’t have to give him.
Pero en otros casos, podría estar utilizando esta excusa sólo para meterse en tus pantalones y alejarse de las partes emocionales de la relación.
It’s the wrong timing
There’s no wrong time, there are only wrong people. Men who can recognize that you are worth it will make the time.
He just doesn’t know how to make room for you in his ‘busy’ life, so don’t bother making room for him in yours.
