Cómo saber si te engaña basándote en su comportamiento diario

¿Cómo saber si tu chico ha cambiado de repente? ¿Cómo puedes saber si te está engañando basándote en su comportamiento diario?

If something doesn’t feel right, that’s probably because it’s not right. It doesn’t matter if everything looks perfect— vibes don’t lie .

Siempre debes escuchar tus emociones, pero también debes tener en cuenta que no debes confiar únicamente en ellas.

Establecer que algo obviamente no va bien en tu relación es el primer paso y el más importante.

You should never attack your guy for no valid reason because that’s one of the worst-case scenarios you don’t want to experience.

The second thing you need to establish is what exactly is it that’s not right? Could it be that he’s cheating on you?

Bueno, si sospechas eso, lo más probable es que realmente pueda estar haciendo algo a tus espaldas PERO no saques conclusiones precipitadas.

Pensar que puede estar engañándote no es lo mismo que estar segura.

And now you’re probably wondering how to tell for sure if he’s cheating on you. Asking him won’t get you anywhere. By doing that, you’d only give him a chance to lie.

Following him around is also not a good idea because you don’t want to turn into a control freak and destroy your well-being.

But there’s one thing you can do and that is observe his everyday behavior.

If you pay attention to his actions, you’ll easily notice any changes regarding his behavior and these changes are strong indicators of him being a potential cheater.

Some of them are very obvious and it won’t take you long to solve the mystery.

So, here’s a list of things you should pay attention to in order to reveal or discard his potential cheating nature.

And if you notice any of them, then it’s time to have a serious talk with your boyfriend!

He’s texting way more often

And if he’s smiling at his phone while reading a text, then he probably has someone on the side.

When you feel amused by something, smiling comes naturally to you and you simply can’t hide the joy.

Este tipo de indicadores del lenguaje corporal casi nunca fallan.

Pero aún así, debes tener cuidado con esto. Puede que sólo esté mandando mensajes a su amigo.

Pero si notas que mantiene constantemente su teléfono cerca y no te lo presta ni un minuto cuando se lo pides, entonces seguro que tiene algo (o alguien) que ocultarte.

Y tienes todo el derecho a preguntárselo.

He won’t have any phone conversations in front of you

En cuanto suena su teléfono, se levanta, se va a otra habitación y vuelve sólo cuando la conversación ha terminado por completo.

Sure, it might be that his boss is calling him and he doesn’t need you to distract him while they’re discussing a huge issue that came up at work.

But what are the chances of that? His boss won’t be calling him every day, that’s for sure.

So, if he’s constantly having conversations literally behind your back, then something utterly fishy is going on.

After all, he wouldn’t do such a thing if he didn’t have anything to hide from you in the first place.

Para estar seguro de esto, puedes intentar preguntarle por qué siempre se va a otra habitación cuando alguien le llama.

Si empieza a murmurar o a mostrar signos de confusión, entonces es que está ocultando algo y tienes todo el derecho a seguir interrogándole al respecto.

Sale mucho más que antes

All of a sudden he’s un fiestero who can’t be tamed. There is always something he can’t miss.

When you ask him who is he going out with, you always get the same answer: “ Oh, sólo algunos amigos .”

In most cases, ‘just some friends’ is a codename for the one girl he’s been seeing behind your back.

Going out becomes just a lame excuse for him to keep doing things in secret, hoping you’ll never find out anything about it.

Pero al sospechar que te está mintiendo, ya vas dos pasos por delante de él.

Para estar cien por cien seguro de esto, puedes preguntarle si puedes unirte a él, sólo para ver su expresión facial.

If he’s hiding something, he will be literally unable to answer your question properly.

Se preocupa demasiado por su aspecto

Before he goes out with ‘his friends’, he spends a lot of time in front of the mirror. He takes a shower, picks out the best outfit he has and takes care of his hair.

Si éste es su nuevo ritual antes de salir, deberías preocuparte.

¿Para quién se está preparando? Tú eres la única mujer por la que debería esforzarse tanto.

If he reminds you of the man he was at the beginning of your relationship, then it might be that he’s starting a new one. And he’s not even man enough to admit it to you.

Putting too much effort into his looks only when he’s going out with ‘some friends’ is a sure sign that he’s going out with some chick he wants to impress.

Los hombres son realmente predecibles cuando se trata de esto, porque sólo cuando realmente les gusta alguien se esforzarán por lucir lo mejor posible para ellos.

He’s more active on social media

Not only that he’s texting all the time but he’s posting a lot of new stuff on his social media profiles.

There are a lot of new pictures of him without you that he just had to post. He’s constantly updating his status so that people would think his life is much more interesting.

We all know how lazy guys are when it comes to texting and social networks. They wouldn’t bother posting a single thing if they were not interested in winning someone’s attention.

And if he’s constantly trying to take the best selfies and checking if someone liked his photo, then you have a problem.

If he does this, evidently he’s waiting for a specific like and approval from a specific person and when he gets it, he instantly becomes happy, like a child.

He can’t hide his happiness because he finally got what he was waiting for.

He’s avoiding you

He has no time for you. It’s the most obvious sign he’s trying to push you away.

Whenever you want to spend time with him, he remembers he has something to do. He’s going to make up any excuse just to escape from you.

No sólo dejó de tener citas contigo, también dejó de tener sexo contigo.

Eso es definitivamente una señal tiene a alguien al lado que tiene citas con él.

You see, if a man avoids having sex with you, then something’s clearly not right.

If he avoids intimacy and physical contact, it probably means that he’s having all of this with someone else and he’s a coward to admit it to you.

Instead, he avoids you because deep down in his soul he knows that he’s being an asshole and he can’t stop being one.

He’s arguing with you more than ever

Of course, you’re getting paranoid and trying to find decent proof that he’s a cheater. It’s normal. But the way he acts when you touch his phone or his laptop is not normal.

He starts screaming at you like you’ve done the most horrible thing in the universe.

And while he’s screaming, he’s making up reasons as to why you can’t touch his stuff.

He’s saying how you’re not that good with tech and you could ruin some important project he’s working on.

It is clear that he’s keeping secrets from you.

It is normal to argue to a certain degree but if he turns into a beast every time you touch some of his stuff or ask him some questions, it is a huge red flag that he’s a cheater in disguise.

He reacts explosively because he’s afraid that you’ll uncover everything he’s been doing behind your back so far.

Se hace la víctima

Cuando le haces preguntas sobre su paradero o algo sospechoso que haya hecho, no sólo tiene un arrebato contigo, sino que empieza a hacerse la víctima.

He blames you for being too controlling even though he knows that it’s not true at all and that is the biggest sign and the answer to your question: How do I tell if he’s cheating?

By playing the victim, he is subconsciously trying to draw attention to another problem and that is ‘you being a control freak’.

Evita hablar de cualquier cosa relacionada con él porque sabe que sus actos podrían quedar al descubierto.

Es el mecanismo de defensa más popular y natural cuando se trata de engañar, mentir y similares.

If he’s playing the victim, you can be sure that he’s hiding something from you and he’s hiding it badly.

En situaciones así, lo único que puedes hacer es calmarte, pedirle que hable contigo más tarde, cuando recupere el sentido común, y prepararte para marcharte.

Victim games will only waste your time and life’s too short to spend it on a man who’s not worthy of your one second.

¿Qué hacer al respecto?

If all the indications are screaming that he’s cheating on you, don’t even bother trying to understand why.

Demasiados "y si..." no harán más que confundirte y sembrar el caos en tu mente. Lo único que debes recordar es que tú no tienes la culpa.

Whatever he might be doing, it is not because of you. He’s doing it because he’s too weak to be a real man and let you go instead of hurting you deliberately.

You should never blame yourself because you couldn’t do anything about it.

What you should be doing is trying to save yourself. Don’t let it get to you that much. It’s his fault that he doesn’t know how to be honest.

He should’ve broken up with you if he wanted to start something new. It is as simple as that.

Lo único que puedes hacer ahora es hablar con él. Dile que sabes lo que te mereces.

You don’t need someone who is going to lie to you or disrespect you. If he’s engañándote then it’s time to leave him. Pack your things and don’t look back.

After all, if he truly loved you, he would have never done this to you. You don’t hurt those you love. You fight for them.