Esto es lo que ocurre cuando dejas una relación emocionalmente abusiva

Nadie te lo dice nunca. Nadie te lo advierte. Todos tienen algo que decir mientras estás en este tipo de relación, pero todos callan cuando te liberas de una.

It’s not that easy. One should expect happiness and joy. No one expects fear, confusion, and the inability to continue living your life—to pick up where you left off before you met him.

Nadie te dice nunca cuánto duele. Nadie te dice cuánto tardan en cicatrizar las heridas.

When you meet someone new, you are afraid. You are scared to death that history will repeat itself. You try to humor him even though he doesn’t want you to do that.

You apologize for every little thing. You apologize for the things you’re guilty and not guilty of. He doesn’t want you to do that.

No one ever tells you that you don’t have to do it. No one ever tells you how hard is to snap out of what you’ve been going through. No one ever tells you that it takes guts to heal completely.

Necesitarás encontrar la fuerza para levantarte de nuevo. Revivirás esos momentos horribles de los que te hizo partícipe. Te despertarás en mitad de la noche y tu corazón latirá tan fuerte, como si quisiera salirse de tu pecho.

Verás a alguien que te recuerda a él. Te llevará de vuelta. Será tan real, como si la pesadilla estuviera sucediendo de nuevo.

Te sentirás roto porque estarás roto. Llorarás a lágrima viva. Gritarás de dolor emocional.

You will feel drained because you will be drained. He’s the one who sucked the life out of you. You gave him all you had. And what did you get in return? Nothing except pain. And more pain.

You will be negative because that’s the only feeling you know. You forgot what it was like to be happy. It will be hard to get out of that vicious circle of negativity. You want to escape it, but you need it because you’re used to it. It becomes like a drug to you. You keep craving for more.  

You never knew what it was like to be loved. You never had that. You wouldn’t recognize real love even if it hit you right in the face. You will doubt each and every person who comes near you and you will destroy their every attempt to flirt with you. You will do this out of fear. Out of fear of getting hurt.

Tendrás que ser fuerte durante mucho tiempo. Tendrás que ser fuerte hasta que recojas los pedazos rotos de lo que quede de ti y los vuelvas a juntar para seguir construyendo la versión de ti mismo que siempre quisiste ser.  

When you start a new relationship, you will feel lost. You won’t be used to this new ‘normal treatment’. You won’t be used to kind words and understanding. You won’t be used to being treated with respect. Your voice will actually matter for the first time in a long time.

It will take a while for you to relax and trust this person. But that won’t matter as he will wait for you. He will give you space to heal. He will help you heal.

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You will be waiting for the perfect storm. You will be waiting for him to lose it at anytime. You know your ex was nice and loving when he wanted to be—when you didn’t complain and did everything his way. You are scared this guy is the same.

Pero, ¿sabes qué? La tormenta perfecta nunca va a llegar. No es el mismo.     

Nadie te dice nunca lo jodido que es sobrevivir a todo esto. Nadie te dice nunca que esta es la parte difícil. Nadie te dice nunca que curarse duele; duele como el demonio.

There are so many things you won’t be told. You’ll have to fight for yourself. You’ll have to put yourself first. You’ll have to cry. You’ll have to hurt.

Pero te curarás. Te pondrás mejor.