Se necesita un hombre fuerte para ganarse el corazón de una madre soltera
Detente un segundo y piensa en el peso de esa palabra.
Pronto te darás cuenta de que es una simple palabra desde fuera, pero desde la perspectiva de una mujer que tiene ese papel, es mucho más.
You will see that that word is full of worries about your child, tears spilled because you can’t explain why dad is no longer there.
Está llena de tristeza por los oscuros lugares a los que lleva a su hijo cada fin de semana, para que su padre lo recoja.
Places where nobody goes, places where there are not so many people because you don’t want others to see your sadness for sharing your child with the man who used to be your everything once, but now, he is just a stranger you no longer recognize.
That word is full of love, attention, sacrifice, late night talks, keeping awake because your child has a fever, working two different jobs just to provide him with nice clothes and shoes, so he won’t be different from the other kids.
Tienes mucho miedo de que tu hijo sea diferente de sus amigos y de que se sienta triste por ello. Así que haces todo lo posible para que se parezca lo más posible a ellos.
Porque, para ser sinceros, él ya es bastante diferente a ellos.
Y por eso, todo tu mundo se viene abajo. Sientes que la vida no es justa y que mereces algo mejor.
Then you realize that you don’t have time to think negatively because you have a little person in your life who needs you badly, and si te desmoronas se quedará solo.
Entonces lloras a lágrima viva, te limpias las lágrimas y continúas donde te detuviste. Y vives así día tras día.
A veces deseas tener a alguien no para que te cuide, sino sólo para que veas que está ahí. Pero te das cuenta de que un hombre así tiene que ser realmente especial. Porque sólo un hombre de verdad puede conquistar el corazón de una madre soltera.
Sólo quien es fuerte y sabe aceptarte tal como eres puede conquistarte y hacer una vida contigo.
Pero un hombre así necesita saber un par de cosas.
Tiene que aceptar que tu hijo siempre será tu máxima prioridad. Significa que puedes hacer planes con él, pero que los cancelarás en un abrir y cerrar de ojos si tu hijo se pone enfermo.
Because you would rather stay with the person you carried under your heart for nine months, making sure he is fine, than to have fun with a guy who isn’t the perfect one.
If a man wants to win the heart of a single mom, he needs to know that she doesn’t like games, except the ones she gladly plays with her child. She won’t put up with any shit in a relationship because she has been emotionally beaten, bruised and neglected for so much time. And she doesn’t want her child seeing her going through the same things again. She would rather stay single than to settle for less than she deserves.
She doesn’t have any problems showing her badass side because she learned that by being gentle and polite, she won’t get what she wants.
A man who thinks he is strong enough to date a single mom needs to know that she doesn’t give second chances. She gave a lot of them in the past, and every time she was disappointed.
Now, all she wants is a love that stays. She wants someone she can rely on. She wants to have a friend and a lover in one person. And most of all, she doesn’t want to change because of him.
She put a lot of effort to get to where she is now, and she wouldn’t give that up for anything in this world. She just wants someone who will ponerle una etiqueta y aceptarla como es.
He needs to know that even though she split with her ex, he will always be a part of her life because of their child. And if he can’t stand that they meet and talk about their child, he shouldn’t even try anything with her. He needs to know that by accepting her, he accepts her child as well.
When she was so brave to bring him into her life and the life of her child, he can at least be honest about his feelings. He needs to have his heart on his sleeve and have a strong will to stay or go but to never hold her somewhere in between. She already had an almost relationship, and she doesn’t want another one.
She won’t keep any man in her life until she is 100% sure that he will be good to her child. She will spend a lot of time getting to know a man before she even introduces him to her child. Because her child is her whole world and she doesn’t want someone to hurt him.
Es una persona dispuesta a hacer todo lo posible por quien la acepte tal como es. Se alegrará si conoce a un hombre que le devuelva la fe en el amor y que le demuestre que la vida puede ser bella.
Estará más que feliz de tener a alguien a quien acudir cuando haya tenido un mal día. Alguien con quien acurrucarse y a quien contarle sus peores pesadillas.
Ella, la fuerte, también necesita que alguien le diga que lo está haciendo muy bien sola y que le reconozca el mérito.
She needs a man who won’t run away at the first bump on the road. She needs someone who is strong enough to endure the storms life puts in front of him.
Necesita un hombre de verdad que se gane su corazón y le demuestre que es digna de amor. Necesita a alguien que sepa que la han roto en pedazos pero que decida enamorarse de todos y cada uno de ellos.
Porque, ¡ella lo vale con creces!
