6 secretos reveladores que un narcisista no quiere que sepas

Los narcisistas pueden engañar a cualquiera que nunca haya estado en contacto con ese tipo de persona.

They can sell all kinds of stories and make up all kinds of lies to victims tangled in their webs, but they can’t fool someone who has already been through their terror.

So, in light of this, I’m going to use my experience with a narcissist and share it with you, so one day if, God forbid, a narcissist crosses your path, you’ll be ready to defend yourself.

I never wanted to really talk about what happened to me because I was ashamed. I didn’t want to admit to anybody, including myself, that I fell for the lies and tricks of one vicious man.

Lo guardé tanto tiempo en mi interior, embotellado. Me culpé por ser tan estúpida, por mantener los ojos cerrados, por ignorar todo lo que estaba ocurriendo delante de mis narices.

This went along for a long time until I decided to forgive myself. I’ve realized that I’m not perfect and because I made that mistake, I’m not stupid either.

It happened; it went down horribly wrong. I could have prevented it, but I didn’t.

Hice las paces con ello y seguí adelante. Fue un viaje espiritual cubierto de sangre, sudor y enormes cantidades de lágrimas, pero fue un camino que valió la pena recorrer.

So, I’m here now offering you my help. I want you to know all the tricks narcissists have up their sleeves because I want to save you from the pain I went through.

Siga leyendo para descubrirlo los secretos y trucos narcisistas nunca quieren que te enteres:

Don’t confront him

If you say anything that will shame him or give him a clue that you’re up to what he’s doing, he’ll make your life impossible.

If you let him know that you’re aware of his narcissistic traits, he’ll bring out the big guns with the intention of destroying you.

En este caso, y en general, ignorar a un narcisista es la mejor y la única opción que te queda. Es la única manera de ahuyentarlo.

Don’t get caught in his provocations. In fact, don’t show any emotions while talking to him.

Acting like that will make you unappealing and uninteresting, and eventually, he’ll walk away because you’ve cut off his supply.

Tiene miedo de que le pillen

Cada vez que realice cualquier tipo de abuso, intenta grabarlo o escribirlo. Lo importante es que tengas pruebas del acoso.

It’s important because when you have tangible proof of abuse, he can’t gaslight you.

He can’t use various tactics to make you think you’re crazy. and the abuse never happened. You just overreacted.

He’ll try to go with it anyway, but since you have proof, you can always show it to someone you trust to really confirm that you’re not imagining things, that the abuse actually happened.

Los narcisistas se tienen en gran estima y lo único que les importa es su reputación.

So if they see that their reputation has been compromised, they will run from you like hell because you’re too big of a risk.

He can’t stand your indifference

Cualquier tipo de respuesta que les des, incluso en forma de venganza, les alimenta.

Necesitan atención constante—good or bad, it doesn’t matter.

En lugar de urdir planes para vengarte de ellos, céntrate en ti mismo e intenta hacer de tu vida una vida mejor.

If you choose to stay in contact with them for whatever reason, be prepared for constant attacks and guilt trips designed to get back their source of narcissistic supply – you.

On the other hand, if you’re forced to stay in contact with your narcissist, make yourself as boring as you possibly can.

Limit your conversations to only what’s necessary and never give them a single detail more than they need to know.

Making yourself appalling to a narcissist will definitely make him leave you alone, but you won’t win that war without putting up a fight—that’s for sure.

He can’t stand getting dumped first

If you discard him, he’ll freak out. He can’t stand that huge hit on his ego. So, his next step, only logical to him, is to try to come back to you.

He doesn’t want to get back together because te echa de menos y quiere trabajar en su relación.

Te quiere de vuelta para herirte y traumatizarte por haber tenido la osadía de dejarlo a él primero.

Quiere reavivar la relación, así que se convierte en el que la mata. Por supuesto, más tarde difundirá rumores sobre lo zorra loca que eres, cómo le destrozaste la vida, etc.

Basically, he’ll be decir la verdad sino tu versión de la historia.

In other words, he’ll take your side of the story and all the things you’ve been through and present them as his own.

He doesn’t see you as a person, he sees you as an object

To him, you are what psychiatrists refer to as ‘narcissistic supply’. He doesn’t see you as a human being with emotions and thoughts of your own.

Te ve como un objeto, algo que debe usar para alimentarse.

You’re exactly the same to him as his exes and his future targets. He probably spoke of his exes in a bad manner; he probably called them crazy when he first met you.

Now, he’s doing the same thing to you with someone else, with his next target. He is always making sure he has backup supply just in case he drains his current source.

Te ve como un objeto desechable que puede sustituir al instante por una nueva y fresca oferta narcisista.

Está lejos de ser humilde

No es noble ni humilde. Es simplemente un actor extraordinario que hace la interpretación de su vida.

At the beginning of the relationship, he presents himself as such a flawless character that you even began to feel guilty because you’re not more like him.

Su habilidad para hacerse ver como una personalidad carismática e irresistible le da el poder de caer bien a todo el mundo.

But after he’s been putting on his show for such a long time, and after you’ve truly seen what’s he like, you stop buying it.

But only you—those who don’t know him, fall for his false modesty instantly.

What really goes down is that he’s hiding behind the false modesty to hide his arrogant and egocentric self.

Estos son sus mayores secretos, sus principales herramientas de destrucción.

If they even suspect that you’re on to them, they won’t even try to get involved with you because you’re a high-risk victim.

Si revelas sus tácticas, puede que entres en razón y cortes el suministro narcisista que él no puede permitir.