6 segreti che aprono gli occhi e che un narcisista non vuole farvi conoscere

I narcisisti possono ingannare chiunque non sia mai stato a contatto con questo tipo di persona.

They can sell all kinds of stories and make up all kinds of lies to victims tangled in their webs, but they can’t fool someone who has already been through their terror.

So, in light of this, I’m going to use my experience with a narcissist and share it with you, so one day if, God forbid, a narcissist crosses your path, you’ll be ready to defend yourself.

I never wanted to really talk about what happened to me because I was ashamed. I didn’t want to admit to anybody, including myself, that I fell for the lies and tricks of one vicious man.

Me lo sono tenuto dentro così a lungo, imbottigliato. Mi rimproveravo di essere stata così stupida, di aver tenuto gli occhi chiusi, di aver ignorato tutto ciò che stava accadendo proprio sotto il mio naso.

This went along for a long time until I decided to forgive myself. I’ve realized that I’m not perfect and because I made that mistake, I’m not stupid either.

It happened; it went down horribly wrong. I could have prevented it, but I didn’t.

Me ne sono fatta una ragione e sono andata avanti. È stato un viaggio spirituale coperto di sangue, sudore ed enormi quantità di lacrime, ma è stata una strada che valeva la pena percorrere.

So, I’m here now offering you my help. I want you to know all the tricks narcissists have up their sleeves because I want to save you from the pain I went through.

Continuate a leggere per scoprire i segreti e i trucchi narcisistici non vogliono che tu lo scopra:

Don’t confront him

If you say anything that will shame him or give him a clue that you’re up to what he’s doing, he’ll make your life impossible.

If you let him know that you’re aware of his narcissistic traits, he’ll bring out the big guns with the intention of destroying you.

In questo caso e in generale, ignorare un narcisista è la migliore e l'unica opzione che vi rimane. È l'unico modo per scacciarlo.

Don’t get caught in his provocations. In fact, don’t show any emotions while talking to him.

Acting like that will make you unappealing and uninteresting, and eventually, he’ll walk away because you’ve cut off his supply.

Ha paura di essere scoperto

Ogni volta che compie un qualsiasi tipo di abuso, cercate di registrarlo o di scriverlo. L'importante è avere le prove delle molestie.

It’s important because when you have tangible proof of abuse, he can’t gaslight you.

He can’t use various tactics to make you think you’re crazy. and the abuse never happened. You just overreacted.

He’ll try to go with it anyway, but since you have proof, you can always show it to someone you trust to really confirm that you’re not imagining things, that the abuse actually happened.

I narcisisti hanno un'alta considerazione di sé e la loro reputazione è l'unica cosa a cui tengono.

So if they see that their reputation has been compromised, they will run from you like hell because you’re too big of a risk.

He can’t stand your indifference

Qualsiasi tipo di risposta gli si dia, anche sotto forma di vendetta, li alimenta.

Hanno bisogno di un'attenzione costante—good or bad, it doesn’t matter.

Invece di escogitare piani per vendicarsi, concentratevi su voi stessi e cercate di rendere la vostra vita migliore.

If you choose to stay in contact with them for whatever reason, be prepared for constant attacks and guilt trips designed to get back their source of narcissistic supply – you.

On the other hand, if you’re forced to stay in contact with your narcissist, make yourself as boring as you possibly can.

Limit your conversations to only what’s necessary and never give them a single detail more than they need to know.

Making yourself appalling to a narcissist will definitely make him leave you alone, but you won’t win that war without putting up a fight—that’s for sure.

He can’t stand getting dumped first

If you discard him, he’ll freak out. He can’t stand that huge hit on his ego. So, his next step, only logical to him, is to try to come back to you.

He doesn’t want to get back together because gli manchi e vuole lavorare sulla vostra relazione.

Ti vuole indietro per ferirti e traumatizzarti per aver avuto l'ardire di lasciarlo per primo.

Vuole ravvivare la relazione, quindi diventa colui che la uccide. Naturalmente, in seguito, metterà in giro voci su quanto tu sia una stronza pazza, su come hai distrutto la sua vita, ecc.

Basically, he’ll be dire la verità ma la tua versione della storia.

In other words, he’ll take your side of the story and all the things you’ve been through and present them as his own.

He doesn’t see you as a person, he sees you as an object

To him, you are what psychiatrists refer to as ‘narcissistic supply’. He doesn’t see you as a human being with emotions and thoughts of your own.

Vi vede come un oggetto, qualcosa che deve usare per nutrirsi.

You’re exactly the same to him as his exes and his future targets. He probably spoke of his exes in a bad manner; he probably called them crazy when he first met you.

Now, he’s doing the same thing to you with someone else, with his next target. He is always making sure he has backup supply just in case he drains his current source.

Vi vede come un oggetto usa e getta che può sostituire all'istante con una nuova offerta narcisistica.

È tutt'altro che umile

Non è né nobile né umile. È solo un attore straordinario che fa la performance della sua vita.

At the beginning of the relationship, he presents himself as such a flawless character that you even began to feel guilty because you’re not more like him.

La sua capacità di apparire come una personalità carismatica e irresistibile gli dà il potere di piacere a tutti.

But after he’s been putting on his show for such a long time, and after you’ve truly seen what’s he like, you stop buying it.

But only you—those who don’t know him, fall for his false modesty instantly.

What really goes down is that he’s hiding behind the false modesty to hide his arrogant and egocentric self.

Questi sono i loro più grandi segreti, i loro principali strumenti di distruzione.

If they even suspect that you’re on to them, they won’t even try to get involved with you because you’re a high-risk victim.

Se rivelate le loro tattiche, potreste rinsavire e interrompere il rifornimento narcisistico che lui non può permettere.