6 segredos reveladores que um narcisista não quer que você saiba

Os narcisistas podem enganar qualquer pessoa que nunca tenha estado em contacto com esse tipo de pessoa.

They can sell all kinds of stories and make up all kinds of lies to victims tangled in their webs, but they can’t fool someone who has already been through their terror.

So, in light of this, I’m going to use my experience with a narcissist and share it with you, so one day if, God forbid, a narcissist crosses your path, you’ll be ready to defend yourself.

I never wanted to really talk about what happened to me because I was ashamed. I didn’t want to admit to anybody, including myself, that I fell for the lies and tricks of one vicious man.

Guardei-o tanto tempo dentro de mim, engarrafado. Culpava-me por ser tão estúpida, por manter os olhos fechados, por ignorar tudo o que estava a acontecer mesmo debaixo do meu nariz.

This went along for a long time until I decided to forgive myself. I’ve realized that I’m not perfect and because I made that mistake, I’m not stupid either.

It happened; it went down horribly wrong. I could have prevented it, but I didn’t.

Fiz as pazes com isso e segui em frente. Foi uma viagem espiritual coberta de sangue, suor e enormes quantidades de lágrimas, mas foi um caminho que valeu a pena percorrer.

So, I’m here now offering you my help. I want you to know all the tricks narcissists have up their sleeves because I want to save you from the pain I went through.

Continue a ler para saber mais os segredos e os truques narcísicos não querem que tu descubras:

Don’t confront him

If you say anything that will shame him or give him a clue that you’re up to what he’s doing, he’ll make your life impossible.

If you let him know that you’re aware of his narcissistic traits, he’ll bring out the big guns with the intention of destroying you.

Neste caso, e em geral, ignorar um narcisista é a melhor e a única opção que vos resta. Essa é a única maneira de o afastar.

Don’t get caught in his provocations. In fact, don’t show any emotions while talking to him.

Acting like that will make you unappealing and uninteresting, and eventually, he’ll walk away because you’ve cut off his supply.

Ele tem medo de ser apanhado

Sempre que ele fizer algum tipo de abuso, tente registá-lo ou anotá-lo. O importante é que tenha provas do assédio.

It’s important because when you have tangible proof of abuse, he can’t gaslight you.

He can’t use various tactics to make you think you’re crazy. and the abuse never happened. You just overreacted.

He’ll try to go with it anyway, but since you have proof, you can always show it to someone you trust to really confirm that you’re not imagining things, that the abuse actually happened.

Os narcisistas têm uma grande estima por si próprios e a sua reputação é a única coisa com que se preocupam.

So if they see that their reputation has been compromised, they will run from you like hell because you’re too big of a risk.

He can’t stand your indifference

Qualquer tipo de resposta que lhes dê, mesmo que seja sob a forma de vingança, alimenta-os.

Precisam de atenção constante—good or bad, it doesn’t matter.

Em vez de pensar em como se vingar deles, concentre-se em si e tente fazer da sua vida uma vida melhor.

If you choose to stay in contact with them for whatever reason, be prepared for constant attacks and guilt trips designed to get back their source of narcissistic supply – you.

On the other hand, if you’re forced to stay in contact with your narcissist, make yourself as boring as you possibly can.

Limit your conversations to only what’s necessary and never give them a single detail more than they need to know.

Making yourself appalling to a narcissist will definitely make him leave you alone, but you won’t win that war without putting up a fight—that’s for sure.

He can’t stand getting dumped first

If you discard him, he’ll freak out. He can’t stand that huge hit on his ego. So, his next step, only logical to him, is to try to come back to you.

He doesn’t want to get back together because ele sente a tua falta e quer trabalhar na vossa relação.

Ele quer que voltes para te magoar e traumatizar por teres tido a audácia de o deixar primeiro.

Ele quer reavivar a relação, por isso é ele que a mata. Claro que, mais tarde, ele vai espalhar boatos sobre a cabra maluca que tu és, como destruíste a vida dele, etc.

Basically, he’ll be dizer a verdade mas o seu lado da história.

In other words, he’ll take your side of the story and all the things you’ve been through and present them as his own.

He doesn’t see you as a person, he sees you as an object

To him, you are what psychiatrists refer to as ‘narcissistic supply’. He doesn’t see you as a human being with emotions and thoughts of your own.

Ele vê-a como um objeto, algo que tem de usar para se alimentar.

You’re exactly the same to him as his exes and his future targets. He probably spoke of his exes in a bad manner; he probably called them crazy when he first met you.

Now, he’s doing the same thing to you with someone else, with his next target. He is always making sure he has backup supply just in case he drains his current source.

Ele vê-a como um objeto descartável que pode substituir instantaneamente por uma nova e fresca oferta narcísica.

Ele está longe de ser humilde

Não é nobre nem humilde. É apenas um ator extraordinário que dá o espetáculo da sua vida.

At the beginning of the relationship, he presents himself as such a flawless character that you even began to feel guilty because you’re not more like him.

A sua capacidade de se fazer passar por uma personalidade carismática e irresistível dá-lhe o poder de fazer com que todos gostem dele.

But after he’s been putting on his show for such a long time, and after you’ve truly seen what’s he like, you stop buying it.

But only you—those who don’t know him, fall for his false modesty instantly.

What really goes down is that he’s hiding behind the false modesty to hide his arrogant and egocentric self.

Estes são os seus maiores segredos, as suas principais ferramentas de destruição.

If they even suspect that you’re on to them, they won’t even try to get involved with you because you’re a high-risk victim.

Se revelar as suas tácticas, pode cair em si e cortar o fornecimento narcísico que ele não pode permitir.