11 señales de que te estás pasando + consejos para evitarlo
Let’s be honest, no one likes pushy people that just don’t know when to quit. Dealing with people like that is difficult and we soon become overwhelmed with their behavior.
It’s okay to make the primer paso to show someone you’re interested in them. However, there is a thin line between doing that and coming on too strong when you’re trying to win someone over.
Debería ser límites para todo, even flirting. If you’re coming on too strong to someone you have just met, you will only scare them away.
When you have a crush on someone, even if you’re sure that person is your alma gemela, you need to calm down and keep it cool. Don’t show your feelings to them immediately and don’t rush anything.
You don’t want to seem too desperate, right? Then stop obsessing about the person you like, be patient, and let time do its thing.
If you want to know whether you’re coming on too strong and too fast, the ‘seguimiento text’ is full of señales de advertencia que nunca debes ignorar.
1. Jactancia constante
Nobody likes a show-off, but we all do it sometimes. It’s not a bad thing to brag about things every now and then, but we have to have limits and boundaries that we shouldn’t cross.
Si presumes constantemente de ti mismo, nadie te creerá. Tienes que dejar que los demás presuman por ti.
¿Cómo vas a hacerlo?
Bueno, sé amable y trata a la gente con justicia, intenta ser el mejor en lo que haces y haz buenas acciones a los demás, sin esperar nada a cambio.
Bragging too much and constantly talking about yourself, is not a way to impress your crush. It will only make them think that you’re desperate.
You don’t have to draw attention to your qualities or to something you’ve done. The right person will know how to appreciate you. Sé tú mismo y deja que te conozcan.
La mayoría de nosotros estará de acuerdo en que las personas a las que les gusta presumir no suelen ser tan cultas como quieren hacernos creer.
Si presumes de lo bueno que eres o de lo mucho mejor que los demás, la persona que te gusta te verá como una persona llena de inseguridades.
Todos tenemos algunas inseguridades, pero lo que cuenta es cómo las gestionamos. Encubrir tus inseguridades presumiendo de algunas de tus cualidades nunca será bueno para tu relación.
You have to show your true self to the other person because you won’t be able to pretend forever and of course, the other person deserves to see the real you.
Coming on too strong by bragging (especially when you’ve just met someone) will make the other person form a negative opinion about you. They will see you as a deeply insecure and arrogant person.
2. Exceso de mensajes de texto
It’s great that you made the primer paso y les pidió su número de teléfono because it shows them that you’re confident. Now you have to be careful when mensajes de texto ellos.
Nunca debes ser el primero en llamar o enviar mensajes de texto. It’s normal that you want to be in touch with your crush 24/7 and that you want to know where they are all the time.
Sin embargo, hay que mantener la calma. Si te pasas de la raya mensajes de texto them or calling them a lot, you’ll bore them or they’ll think that you’re a creep.
Even if you’ve met someone you like on a sitio de citas y mensajes de texto is your only form of communication for now, you shouldn’t text them all the time.
Podrían pensar que su la vida es aburrida y que estás sentado frente al ordenador todo el día.
If you haven’t got a reply, don’t keep mensajes de texto until they respond. Maybe they don’t have time to reply instantly or maybe they don’t like you and they don’t want to continue mensajes de texto contigo.
Also, don’t write them novels. I get that you want to get to know your crush, but you should leave something to talk about on a date.
You should keep in mind that some people don’t like mensajes de texto quite as much as you do, and some people are shy and don’t want to talk much when you first meet them.
If you come on too strong with lots of texts and calls, you’ll only drive them away.
3. Having “the talk” too soon
Si acaba de empezar un nueva relaciónSi no es así, hay que pasar algún tiempo con esa persona y conocerla antes de empezar a hablar del futuro.
If you’re on a primera cita y dices que te gustaría definir la relación, tu cita pensará que eres raro.
Tienes que esperar el momento adecuado para hablar con tu pareja sobre la definición de vuestra relación. El principio de una relación nunca es el momento adecuado.
The other person will always show you somehow when they’re ready for “the talk”. You only have to wait and listen carefully.
Si acabas de empezar a salir, tienes que mostrar a tu pareja lo relajado que estás. Incluso si sacan el tema del futuro, tienes que estar tranquilo.
Reveal your future plans and goals to them, but don’t talk about the future of your relationship.
Además, antes de tener una conversación seria con tu nueva pareja, debes estar completamente seguro de que realmente quieres pasar el resto de tu vida juntos.
Por mucho que te guste la otra persona o incluso si te enamoras de ella a primera vista, tienes que conocerla bien antes de empezar a hacer planes de futuro con ella.
If you rush into it, it’s not going to turn out as you expected. Trust me, it never does.
4. Coqueteo agresivo
Flirting is how you actually show someone that you’re interested in them romantically. It’s the best way to seduce a person you have a crush on, but it has to be done in the right way.
Algunas personas son coquetos natos y pueden seducir a la persona que les gusta en cualquier día determinado. Por otro lado, hay algunas personas a las que les desespera ligar.
If you’re trying too hard and you don’t get any reactions from the other side, your flirt may become aggressive. That is a rompe tratos para iniciar un nueva relación.
You may think that you should try even harder to get the attention of the person you like. That’s wrong. You’ll only scare that person away.
You don’t have to shower them with compliments or leave creepy comments on their Instagram photos. You shouldn’t exaggerate anything.
Seducir a alguien con una caricia es la forma más eficaz de ligar con alguien.
It’s gentle and subtle. Unfortunately, some men take it the wrong way and they get too touchy on the primera citaque es algo que la mayoría de las mujeres odian.
Quizá lo hayas visto en una película o hayas intentado copiar la técnica de ligue de tu estrella favorita, pero estas cosas NO funcionan en la vida real.
5. Cumplidos excesivos
Compliments are a good way to flirt, too. However, you should pay attention to a few things while complimenting your crush. If you don’t do it the right way, they won’t believe that you actually mean it.
If you come on too strong with compliments, it’ll also mean that you aren’t being honest. You have to give only sincere compliments to your crush.
Suena demasiado bien para ser verdad. Si estás halagando a una persona que te gusta todo el tiempo que pasas con ella, les aburrirá o les hará pensar que tienes segundas intenciones.
Deberías evite mostrarse demasiado firme con los cumplidos, especialmente cuando conoces a alguien por la primera vez.
You don’t know anything about that person, so you’ll only be able to compliment their physical appearance.
Besides, you never know how that other person is going to react to receiving so many compliments. You might scare them away because they’ll most probably think that you’ re some kind of weirdo.
Sé que si te enamoras de alguien a primera vista, puedes quedar fascinado por su belleza. Piensas que debería saber lo guapa que es y empiezas a hacerle cumplidos.
If you shower your crush with compliments early on in the relationship, they’ll believe that you aren’t being sincere and that you don’t mean what you are saying.
Even though you’ve developed some strong and deep feelings for them and you know that your intentions are honest, they might get the feeling that you’re just trying to manipulate them.
6. Exigir salir todos los días
You’ve just met someone and you have instantly clicked with them. It’s normal that you enjoy spending time with them, but you shouldn’t ask them to spend every moment of their free time with you.
Remember, we all have different lives and different obligations. You have to respect everyone’s schedule.
If your crush is busy and they can’t hang out with you when you invite them, you have to understand. Don’t get angry right away.
Even if they don’t have a busy work schedule, if they don’t want to hang out with you, you have to accept it without getting angry.
Maybe they need some alone time or they are afraid that it’s all moving too fast and they need some space.
Para ser sinceros, todos necesitamos algún espacio en un relación. A veces tienes que estar solo para pensar en tus sentimientos y en tu relación.
Tienes que relajarte un poco. Exigir a tu pareja que esté contigo todo el tiempo sólo te hace parecer pegajoso.
Estar apegado a alguien siempre te llevará a que te rompan el corazón.
7. Estar siempre disponible para ellos
It’s good to always be there for your crush when they need you. They should know that they can rely on you in every situation. However, that doesn’t mean that you should be available for them all the time.
Tienes que hacerles saber que tienes tu propia vida and your own obligations. You shouldn’t make them the center of your life, or even worse, you shouldn’t show them immediately how much they mean to you.
Usted tiene su amigos y familiares y también debes pasar algún tiempo con ellos.
If you cancel your plans with them every time your crush calls you to hang out, not only will you lose them but you’ll also show your crush that it’s easy for you to let down the people who love you the most.
Estar siempre disponible para ellos no es la forma de demostrarles que disfrutas pasando tiempo con ellos, sólo te hará parecer y sentir desesperado.
You always reply to their messages instantly and answer their calls as soon as your phone rings. It’s like you’ve been waiting all day for their call or text.
If you were busy and you didn’t hear your phone ringing, you immediately apologize for not answering right away.
Te olvidas por completo de tu agenda. Ni siquiera tu trabajo es ya importante. Dejas que la otra persona lo controle todo. Le dejas planear todas las citas y estás de acuerdo con todo lo que te sugiere.
Don’t always be available for your crush. You have to show them that you’re successful and that you have to stick to your schedule.
8. Aparecer en su casa sin avisar
The worst thing you can do if your crush doesn’t reply to your messages is to show up at his house. It’s just totally off limits regardless of the case.
First, it’s rude. They might be having a party or some family gathering and you might ruin it. Their family will see you as someone who has no manners and you might never be welcome in their house again.
Showing up unnanounced at your crush’s house never goes well, trust me. It’s even worse if they didn’t give you the address but you found it out somehow.
Your crush is going to think that you’re spying on them and that can scare them away. They might even think that you’re some kind of maniac and ask you never to call them or talk with them in your life.
9. Ponerse en contacto con sus familiares o su mejor amigo sin su aprobación
You shouldn’t talk with their family members or their friends until they introduce you to them. It means that you’re just trying to rush things in your relationship.
You have to be patient and wait. When your crush feels ready, they will introduce you to their parents. Still, even then you shouldn’t talk with them without your partner’s approval.
One thing they’ll never forgive you for at the beginning of your relationship is if you call their parents or friends every time you fight.
It’s normal to have some disagreements, afterall you’re still getting to know each other. The important thing is to learn to deal with them in a healthy way.
Tienes que aprender a resolver tus problemas en privado y no arrastrar a otras personas a tus conflictos.
The only time it’s OK for you to call their family member or mejor amigo without approval is if you need their help about choosing the right gift for your crush’s birthday or some other occasion.
10. Revisar constantemente sus perfiles en las redes sociales
It’s good for you to check their Facebook or Instagram profiles and find out some new things about them. However, you shouldn’t check them all day long.
You can check some basic information about them, but you don’t have to check what their favorite movies, food, drinks, or songs are. You can wait until your next date and ask them about their interests in person.
You don’t have to spy on them and check up on everyone who has liked their photos or whose photos they’ve liked. Also, you should never like all their photos immediately, especially those from before you even met.
Even if you see something that you don’t like, if someone has left an inappropriate comment or something, you mustn’t react immediately.
In fact, you mustn’t react at all. Remember, you are still getting to know each other – you aren’t even dating yet. Even if you were, they don’t owe you any explanations about things that happened before you even met.
So be smart, and don’t ask directly. When the time comes, include it in a conversation topic and don’t let them know it bothers you that much.
Possessiveness and jealousy can drive your crush away. Believe me, if your crush ever finds out for you’ve been spying on them, they’ll run away in no time.
11. Continúa persiguiendo la relación, aunque te hayan rechazado muchas veces
Rejection is never going to feel good, no matter the reason. It’s especially hard if you think that you’ve finally found your alma gemela y they’ve rejected you.
However, you have to learn when to stop trying and pursuing the relationship. If a person has turned you down several times, then you have to come to terms with the fact they don’t like you and you can do nothing about it.
The more you pursue it, the more they’ll get bored by your persistence. You have to know that some people aren’t meant to be in your life. You have to know when it’s the right time to quit trying.
Sometimes you’re afraid that you’ll lose the person you like so much. You’ve tried hard to seduce them and you think that it’s the only way to win them over.
La verdad es que entrar demasiado fuerte y demasiado rápido siempre es una rompe tratos.
Como puede ver, hay muchas banderas rojas que nunca debes ignorar mientras intentas seducir a alguien.
Si te pasas de la raya coqueteando con alguien, lo más seguro es que te salga el tiro por la culata y te alejes de la persona que te gusta.
