Si hace estas 7 cosas, estás en una relación falsa

¿Qué es una relación falsa?

It’s a relationship that has no future. It’s a relationship you’re staying in because either you’re afraid of being alone and moving on, or you’re convinced that things are va a cambiarpero no lo harán.

Many of us don’t even know that we are in fake relationships. It’s hard to explain why that is so but one guess would be that we simply refuse to open our eyes and consider a change.

Change is difficult and not many people welcome it. No matter whether it’s good or bad, at the time when you have to make a decision that you know is going to make things different, change is just hard.

You’re letting go of everything you know and starting something completely different.

That future that awaits you is scary because, naturally, you don’t know what is going to happen.

That’s why some of us choose to believe that our relationship is the right one.

Because it’s easier to live believing that the problems between you and your partner are just temporary.

Si no, lo único que te queda es aceptar que estás en una relación falsa.

To make things easier for you and to make you open your eyes and embrace what’s coming next, here are the things he does that actually show you are in a fake relationship which has no future. You’re just prolonging the inevitable.

He doesn’t talk to you

Donde no hay comunicación, no hay amor. ¿Por qué?

Because, if your partner doesn’t talk to you, if he doesn’t share his thoughts and his feelings with you, how are you supposed to know this person?

Maintaining communication doesn’t mean you have to call each other or text each other every second but when you get home from work, it would be great if you talked a bit about how your day went or how you’re feeling, just to keep up with things.

Otherwise, how would you know what’s going on in your partner’s life? Communication is the key.

If he doesn’t talk to you, you won’t know what’s bothering him.

Y reprimir los sentimientos sólo puede causar problemas a largo plazo.

When he leaves, you don’t know where he’s going

He is being a bit secretive about where he’s going and when he’s coming back.

I’m just saying, you are not compiling a police report and you don’t have to know all the details but it would be nice if he’s going out just to tell you where or with whom?

It’s not that tienes problemas de confianza, but if he acts this way all the time, you’re going to develop trust issues.

Y una vez que dejes de confiar en él, no tiene sentido seguir en la relación.

The fact alone that he doesn’t want to tell you where he’s going is very suspicious and it can only show you that he doesn’t take your relationship seriously and probably isn’t even planning on staying for much longer.

You’re just a plan de respaldo hasta que encuentre algo mejor. Eso es definitivamente una relación falsa.

He’s all over you in public

Se podría pensar que una PDA es algo bueno, pero como todo, demasiado de algo puede ser muy sospechoso y perjudicial.

If he is all over you in public and you’re playing along with his charade, then you have a problem.

He is probably trying to prove to others that he is happy and by doing the same you’re just helping him.

When you get home, he’ll turn into the cold shadow that he was before. That is anything but a real relationship.

You don’t have to prove your love to anyone. If he has the need to do it excessively, then you’re definitely in a fake relationship.

Las razones para mantener una relación falsa pueden ser numerosas, pero sean cuales sean, hazte un favor y márchate inmediatamente, antes de que te hagan mucho daño.

You’re always the one starting the conversation

Sólo te hablará cuando necesite algo de ti. Eso significa que es consciente de lo que hace y del tipo de relación que mantiene.

Significa que este tipo de escenario le funciona en este momento.

Don’t let him use you and just break it off. You’ve tried enough and you’ve started so many conversations which were all a one-way street.

You’ve pulled the words out of him and it never ended well.

That man simply doesn’t want to open up to you. Maybe you’re not that interesting to him, or he just has different plans.

En cualquier caso, tú eres la víctima aquí y definitivamente tienes que dejar esta falsa relación.

Lo único que tenéis es química sexual

Don’t get me wrong. Sex is great and it’s super that you have that kind of chemistry between the two of you.

But there is something you shouldn’t disregard so easily. Sex is great but it’s not the most important thing in a relationship.

If the only thing you have left is sex, then you’re in a fake relationship. You can’t just communicate through passion. For a true relationship, you need much more.

Al principio de una relación, el sexo desempeña un gran papel en vuestras vidas.

You’re just getting to know each other and you’re exploring each other, but after some time, things have to grow into something bigger and more serious.

Si nunca lo hacen, esa relación es ...para fracasar.

You don’t share great moments together

Your relationship is actually boring. You’re stuck in a rut where you do one thing again and again.

Estás atrapado en una rutina que es cualquier cosa menos divertida o creativa. Las relaciones tienen que ser divertidas y turbulentas.

You have to experience a lot of things together. You have to be able to remember all the crazy, goofy, romantic or sad moments you’ve lived together. You have to have them to remember them.

If this is lacking in your relationship, it means that the relationship you’re in is not a real one. It’s a try which was worth it for a while but it failed.

Su ego es demasiado grande

Las relaciones se basan en el compromiso, y si una persona tiene que tener siempre la razón, es que hay algo que no funciona.

Si insiste en que las cosas se hagan siempre a su manera, significa que su relación no tiene amor.

When you love someone, you’ll show him that by letting go from time to time. Even if you think you’re one hundred percent right, you’re going to listen to your partner.

Nunca lo hace. Cree que tiene razón e incluso si en realidad la tienes tú y no él, no va a admitirlo. Su ego es demasiado grande para aceptar que cometió un error.

That is not a relationship. That’s a crock.