No Hay Códigos Ni Excusas, Cómo Te Trata Es Lo Que Siente Por Ti

Vamos, seamos sinceros: ¿cuántas horas, días o incluso semanas de tu vida has desperdiciado diseccionando el comportamiento de algún chico?

How many times have you called your girlfriends to ask them one simple question: “What does this mean?”

¿Qué quiere este tipo de mí? ¿Cómo se siente? ¿Tiene algún plan para nuestro futuro? O soy yo sólo temporal?

¿Por qué sigue apareciendo y desapareciendo de mi vida? ¿Es sólo una aventura? ¿Soy su novia? ¿Somos novios en exclusiva? ¿O está saliendo con otras personas?

¿Qué se esconde detrás de su comportamiento frío y caliente? ¿Cuál es nuestra posición?

If he loves me, why does he behave like this? On the other hand, if he doesn’t care, why doesn’t he leave me alone?

Sounds familiar, right? The list goes on and on. The bottom line is that you’re racking your brain, trying to get to the bottom of a guy’s behavior.

You’re dissecting his mixed signals, looking for a hidden message. The worst part is that too often, you ask for the help of a friend.

Reúne un verdadero comité de gestión de crisis en busca de respuestas.

Inspeccionas cada uno de sus textos, analizas sus patrones de comportamiento hasta la médula e investigas sus acciones, tratando de encontrar un rayo de sol en esta oscuridad.

Y what do you conclude from all of this? That’s right, nothing. You’re always left more confused than ever, with all of these question marks still floating around your head.

Why? Because you don’t have the courage to look the truth in the eyes.

Yes, I know you’ve tried talking to him about all of this a million times. But let’s face it – he tells you the same things over and over again; he tells you what you want to hear.

Probablemente este chico te asegura que te quiere. Te convence de que él es así, de que necesita tiempo para abrirse o de que eso es lo máximo que puede dar.

Sin embargo, he doesn’t give you any logical explanation of why his actions don’t back up his words.

Look, I don’t mean to judge you. Yes, you’re wasting your time and energy on all of this nonsense. But I get you. We’ve all been there, and I’m no exception.

Well, precisely because I’ve been you, I’m here to tell you the harsh reality: all of this is pointless.

You see, there is absolutely no need to decode anyone’s behavior. Putting in the effort to get to the bottom of a guy’s attention is pointless, and it won’t get you anywhere.

Lamento ser yo quien rompa tu burbuja, pero las señales contradictorias no existen. Si te quisiera, lo sabrías. If you two were in a steady relationship, you wouldn’t have these doubts.

He doesn’t play hard to get just to make you fall for him harder – he’s just playing mind games with you. Juega con tu corazón para aumentar su frágil ego.

He is not too busy to give you a place in his life. Instead, a man’s lack of attention always equals a lack of love.

It’s not that he is no está preparado para una relación right now – he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

He doesn’t come to you when all those other girls turn their backs on him because he realizes that you’re the one.

He does it because he knows very well that you’re the only one who will always take him back, no matter what.

He doesn’t come asking for a second chance every time he screws things up because he realizes that he can’t live without you.

He is not scared of losing you – he is scared of losing his safety net and backup option.

He doesn’t push you away to see whether you’re worthy of him breaking down his walls. He is not treating you like shit because he is scared of getting hurt – he is just an asshole with zero empathy.

He is an asshole who does all of this for one simple reason: because he can. You’re the one giving him the green light to continue with his toxic behavior every time you justify his actions.

Así que, por favor, basta de excusas vacías. Basta ya de justificar sus acciones tóxicas.

Enough of waiting for a miracle that will never happen. Your efforts and love can’t change him, so you better give up before wasting more of your time.

Stop hoping that things will work in your favor because they won’t. Stop giving him endless segundas oportunidades porque cada vez que lo hagas, terminará de la misma manera.

The bottom line is that this man is not emotionally unavailable or broken – he is just not emotionally invested in you.

This guy doesn’t love you enough, and he never will. When a man acts like he doesn’t care for you – you better believe him.