13 motivi per cui uscire con una ragazza che è abituata a stare da sola è una vera sfida

1. Ha un forte senso di identità. 

Sa chi è e sa cosa vuole dal suo partner. È perfettamente consapevole del tipo di persona con cui potrebbe andare d'accordo e di quella che le farebbe desiderare di liberarsi della sua pelle e di rimanere per sempre nel suo spazio sicuro.

2. She has a greater purpose that must be attended to first—one that love would distract her from. 

She strongly believes there are some missions in life she first needs to fulfil and that she can only meet those successfully if she is on her own. So, if she has something going on for her, you’ll just end up ‘on hold’ for a while.

3. Non si accontenterà di niente di meno dell'amore dell'anima gemella.

If she is choosing somebody to let in, he most certainly won’t be just a fling. Adding to this, your intentions need to be sincere.

Un altro Ahole non è il benvenuto.

She’s probably been on her own a long time because some guy out there treated her badly. Somebody out there made her feel like she’s better on her own than with somebody else.

4. Non le piace il gioco.

And she’ll never be a part of one. She wants a genuine person that will have all their cards on the table with her.

She needs to know you’re honest and you won’t play games with her because she doesn’t see the purpose in it. She’s a grown-ass woman and therefore, she’s looking for somebody who’ll treat her as such.

5. Ha standard elevatissimi.

Just because she has been on her own for too long doesn’t mean she’ll settle for anything or just anybody. She expects a lot from herself and therefore, she expects a lot from her partner as well.

If you don’t want to put an effort and meet her expectations, don’t even bother. 

6. She isn’t sure if she can trust you.

It’s a result of her past and there is nothing you can do to avoid it. You’re going to need to pass her test and you’ll need to prove to her that you’re not the one that hurt her.

She looks at the world through her familiar glasses and it’s been proven to her one too many times before that she can’t trust people. 

7. She probably thinks she doesn’t need you.

Posso farlo da solo. 

No, I don’t need your help.

I’m fine. 

You’ll hear plenty of this. It’s just that she’s used to being on her own and she forgot how it feels to have somebody else next to her.

That’s why you’ll have variations of the sentences above. It’s your task to make her comfortable about relying on you.

8. Stare da sola è il suo spazio sicuro.

She’s saved herself so many times by just staying home alone, lighting the candles, and pouring herself a glass of wine, replaying the bad things that happened to her while trying to convince herself it’s ok to let go of them.

Being alone is what saves her and being alone is what makes her strong—don’t even bother trying to take that away from her.

 

9. È forte.

Because strong is the only option she has ever had. When you’re on your own for that long, there is nobody else to pick up your own pieces and if you’re not strong enough, then there is a  great fear you might end up miserable.

Being miserable was never an option for her. That’s why she’s her own hero. 

10. You’re going to struggle with her letting you in.

To give up on her safety, to invite you to her personal space is such a step out of her comfort zone. She’s one of the rare girls that has everything working on her own.

The moment you get a chance, you’ll know how amazing a person you are because she doesn’t let anybody in just like that.

11. A volte può essere strana.

She’s super funny and her friends adore her. She’ll be absolutely breath-taking when she is around you as well until the moment she spots you want something more. 

She forgot what it is like to have a man next to her and she doesn’t quite know how to behave, partly because she forgot how to function in a pair and partly because she’s scared of how much she likes you. If you’re not her type, you won’t move her, but if she likes you, it’s going to be freaking obvious. 

12. Potrebbe tentare di fuggire.

She’s pretty confident about herself, but she may not be confident about the two of you together. Her feelings might frighten her—the possibility that you’ll leave her broken-hearted scares her, and she might try to run away and shut you out.

Your task is not to let her do that. Your task is to prove to her that history won’t repeat itself. 

13. Quello che avete da offrire deve essere migliore della vita che lei si è creata.

She doesn’t need your money and she most certainly doesn’t need anything materialistic from you. She has been on her own and she has things going for her.

You can’t buy her. But you can make her want you with her. She will probably think she doesn’t need you and in most cases that’ll be the truth.

But when she chooses you, that’ll be because she wants you. And the only way to make her want you is to make her feel special around you.

Spoil her with your love, give her your time, and make an effort for the two of you and she’ll pay you twice as back.  

Bonus: ne varrà la pena.

 Since you can’t really use the normal techniques of seducing her, you won’t get an ordinary girl. What you will get will be far more valuable than that.

You’ll get yourself an extraordinary girl. The one that will, once you’ve knocked down all her walls, care for you, give you her time and attention, and the one that will love you unconditionally.

Everything that you give to her, she’ll make sure you get back—just a bit more. 

She won’t bother playing games, she won’t give you jealousy scenes, and she won’t ask the impossible of you.

You’ll get yourself a grown-ass woman and a one of a kind. She knows her worth and she knows yours as well. The catch is, you’ll only get a higher value in your life having her next to you.

Sarà anche una sfida, ma ne vale la pena.