3 giochi mentali che ogni singola persona tossica fa con voi
Don’t be fooled, you are not the exception.
Come potete sapere se avete una persona tossica nella vostra vita? Vi presento i tre giochi mentali più comuni delle persone tossiche e sentitevi liberi di giudicare voi stessi.
Per favore, assicuratevi, una volta che questa persona si dimostra tossica, di non convincervi di poterla cambiare.
Because, unless you are a professional therapist, it’s hardly unlikely for you to impact his behavior.
Hanno disturbi della personalità e mentali e hanno bisogno di un aiuto professionale.
L'ultima cosa di cui avete bisogno è rovinarvi cercando di capirlo e dando il massimo per aiutarlo.
Ora che questo è chiaro, ecco i tre giochi mentali che le persone tossiche fanno con voi.
Gioco #1: Ottenere, conservare o acquisire il controllo
Toxic people are all about control—if they don’t have control over other people, they have nothing.
Se riescono a suscitare in voi una risposta particolare o a farvi fare ciò che vogliono, questo dà loro la sensazione di potere che cercano.
Questo li fa sentire come se avessero il controllo della situazione e dà loro la sensazione di avere potere su di voi.
What’s the story behind this? Toxic people need to have control everywhere, but if they can’t get it wherever they want it, they’ll double the dose on you.
So if they can’t have control at work, they’ll search for it elsewhere—ergo they’ll make up for it with you.
Pay attention if you’re purposely giving the control to satisfy the person playing the mind game or Siete stati manipolati?
Gioco #2: Guilt-Tripping
Toxic people need to have you inferior since that’s the only way to make them superior. By making you insecure, they feel more confident.
Unless you do what toxic people want you to do, they’ll make you guilty.
They’ll call you names and they’ll be able to bring you down or to make you believe that you’re doing something wrong.
Invece di dire apertamente: Per me è un problema che tu lo faccia, lui può accusarvi di essere frigida per ottenere più sesso o lei può accusarvi di essere sessista per farvi comportare come vuole lei.
Either way, it’s an unhealthy way to express feelings or emotions and you don’t want to be the victim of such a mind game.
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Gioco #3: Svergognare e squalificare
Toxic people heal their complexes by bringing other people down. They only feel good if people they’re surrounded by feel miserable and they’ll do everything to build such an environment for themselves.
Persone che fanno giochi mentali di vergogna cercano di esprimere la loro rabbia cercando di beccarvi mentre fate qualcosa che considerano inappropriato.
They’re just waiting for you to make a mistake so they can shame you or point out how what you’re doing is wrong.
If you mention something related to religion, for example, it could be that’s all they’ve been waiting for to make you feel ashamed of your beliefs.
Also, they are very good at disqualifying people. It’s a method of saying something hurtful to someone and then, when they become hurt, doing a double-whammy by making it seem as if they didn’t at all mean what you thought they meant.
It’s often followed by “Sometimes you’re so over sensitive.” or “It was just a joke, chill.”. They are disqualifying you at first and after that, they’re insulting you. It’s like they purposely hurt you twice.
Siete sicuri di voler gestire queste cose o di voler essere circondati da questo tipo di persone?
Although you may be a victim of a toxic person, don’t forget there is a huge possibility that a toxic person is a victim of another toxic person and it just goes round and round.
You can’t change them, but you can try to help them because they truly need help.
There are people qualified to deal with such issues and the best you can do, if you don’t feel like losing that person, is to hold his/her hand during the process of realizing they have issues.
But, if they don’t want help, don’t stick around long enough to be intoxicated by toxic people. You owe yourself much more.
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