5 cose da ricordare quando lui non ti ricambia

Loving someone who doesn’t love you back is, without a doubt, one of the worst things you’ll ever feel.

Vi sentite infelici e c'è una battaglia costante tra il vostro orgoglio e il desiderio di inseguire questa persona e fare un altro tentativo per conquistarla. 

Experiencing unrequited love is never easy. Besides being heartbroken by the realization that the man you love so deeply doesn’t care for you, this also brings about many insecurities and self-doubts. 

If you’ve ever been in this kind of situation, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

You see all of this as the end of the world and you can’t help but wonder why can’t you be enough for this guy. 

Well, we’re here to give you these 5 reminders which will help you get out of this as unharmed as possible.

1. It’s his right

Per quanto questo fatto faccia male, la dura verità è che le persone hanno il diritto di non amarti o di non ricambiarti. E questo ragazzo non fa eccezione.

On the other hand, you are the one who doesn’t have the right to hate him because of this.

Don’t blame him, don’t look for his flaws and have enough decency to accept the reality, even though it is painful.

All of this doesn’t make him a douchebag or a jerk—it just makes him a human being with a heart that doesn’t take orders from anyone.  

What you have to understand is that you can’t force anyone to have feelings for you, just because you would want it that way.

The same way you can’t control your emotions and make yourself stop this person just like that, the same goes vice versa: he can’t make himself love you back. 

Dopo tutto, vorreste davvero che quest'uomo stesse con voi per pietà?

Would you be happy knowing that he agreed to give you a chance even though he doesn’t see you as girlfriend material?

Besides, this is probably not the last time you’ll be in this situation.

There will be some other men in your future who won’t give you back the love you expect to receive from them and that is all part of life. 

2. Lo supererete

Even though things probably don’t seem this way now, the fact is that you will forget all about this man sooner or later.

Yes, at this point, you see him as the love of your life and you’re convinced that you’ll spend an entire eternity crying over him.

Well, guess what? You won’t. In fact, in a few months, you’ll forget that he ever existed, you’ll move on with your life and you’ll be sorry for wasting so much energy on him. 

Remember how they say that if something won’t matter in five years from now, it doesn’t deserve five minutes of your time.

And you and I both know that this guy won’t even be on your radar in the future. 

Vedete, l'amore è come un fiore: deve essere annaffiato e nutrito per crescere.

However, when you’re not getting any feedback, the love you’re feeling toward someone is slowly dying with each day that passes until it completely fades away.

Don’t get me wrong—I’m not trying to devalue your current emotions. Instead, this is just a reminder that you will dimenticarlo e che sarete migliori. 

3. It doesn’t make you unlovable

When someone you deeply care for doesn’t give a damn about you, the first thing that goes through your mind is that you’re apparently unlovable.

After all, this is the man who saw the best of you and someone you gave your entire self to, so if he can’t love you, who else could? 

Well, let me tell you something: this couldn’t be further from the truth.

No, you won’t end up alone and you won’t spend the rest of your life chasing men who can’t give you what you need just because one guy couldn’t love you back. 

Sì, forse ora siete danneggiati, ma vi prometto che le vostre cicatrici spariranno e che il vostro cuore guarirà.

Vi prometto che un giorno (e quel giorno è più vicino di quanto possiate pensare), un ragazzo che vi darà il suo vero amore incondizionato apparirà nella vostra vita. 

Quando sarà il momento giusto, incontrerete un ragazzo che vedrà tutta la vostra bellezza esteriore e interiore, un ragazzo che vi amerà per quello che siete e che non penserà mai di farvi sentire così.

You will run into a man who will see how much love and attention you deserve and who won’t go anywhere. 

Most importantly—just because one man doesn’t love you, it doesn’t give you permission to stop loving yourself and it certainly shouldn’t be a reason for you to start seeing yourself through his eyes.

Remember: your relationship with yourself always comes first and it doesn’t depend on the way others perceive you, treat you or how they feel about you.

4. I suoi sentimenti non riflettono il vostro valore

Another thing that you must never forget is that one person’s perception of you is in no way a reflection of your value as a person, as a woman or as a potential girlfriend.

Solo perché quest'uomo non è riuscito a vedere tutto ciò che avete da offrire, non è un segno che dobbiate iniziare a mettervi in discussione. il tuo valore.

So, don’t take his rejection so personally. It doesn’t mean that you’re not beautiful, attractive, smart or interesting enough, just because his heart didn’t grow fond of yours. 

It just means he doesn’t see you that way.

Besides, there is always the possibility that objectively, this guy considers you to be an awesome girl but he simply can’t get himself to see you as his forever person. 

In fact, even if he considers you not to be enough for him at the moment, that doesn’t devalue you in any way.

It doesn’t mean that all other men from your future will see you as unworthy or especially that you should see yourself this way.

5. Dovreste essere grati

Invece di pensare che questa sia la cosa peggiore che potesse capitarvi, siate grati per il fatto che le cose siano andate come sono andate. Invece di maledire il giorno in cui quest'uomo è nato, apprezzate la sua onestà. 

Most importantly—instead of feeling sorry for yourself, consider yourself lucky. 

Dopo tutto, è meglio per voi sapere a che punto siete.

The guy we’re talking about was sincere; he didn’t try che ti guida, he didn’t give you false promises and he didn’t swear his eternal love for you one day just to backstab you the very next.

Tuttavia, anche se è successo tutto questo e anche se ha mentito sul fatto di amarti, è bello che tu abbia scoperto la verità in tempo.

In realtà avete schivato un proiettile: avreste potuto passare anni accanto a quest'uomo, essendo certi delle sue emozioni, solo per rendervi conto che non era altro che un inganno. 

Also, don’t forget to be thankful for all the lessons this experience taught you. 

Se non aveste mai vissuto un amore non corrisposto, non avreste mai saputo che alcune persone non sono destinate a stare insieme, che tutto accade per un motivo e che non si possono mai forzare le emozioni.

Also, you wouldn’t have learned how to recognize the signs that a guy doesn’t love you back and that is something that might come in handy in the future.