5 modi per affrontare l'occhio vagante del vostro fidanzato

It’s like something encrypted in a man’s DNA that every time an attractive woman passes by, they have to check her out, top to bottom. Maybe not all men but most of them behave in this way.

I understand it’s a guy thing and something it’s OK to do when you are among your male friends but when you are in the presence of your girlfriend, giving some other women the eye is disrespectful, to say the least.

However, a wandering eye means something else entirely to the male mind. They don’t see what all the fuss is about.

To them, giving a random girl who crosses their path a once-over is natural and it doesn’t diminish their feelings toward their girlfriend and it doesn’t mean they are thinking about barare; for them it’s just a normal reaction. They often say, I’m in love but I’m not blind.”

On the other hand, women check men out too. But they do it in a more subtle way and in situations where their significant other is not present because they don’t want to be disrespectful, and because the female brain works differently.

Una donna innamorata sarà più concentrata sul suo partner che su chiunque altro intorno a lei.

So we can say that a wandering eye is one more major difference between the sexes, that is if men don’t cross the line.

In ogni caso, le donne sono infastidite e potrebbero aver bisogno di alcuni modi utili per affrontare questo tipo di situazioni:

Utilizzare la psicologia inversa

The next time he ogles other women, do the same. Follow his lead. Say something along the lines of, “Wow she looks hot,” or, “Oh my God, look at that butt! Amazing!”

Behave like he would behave and then add some more flavor to it. He won’t know what hit him. You will turn his attention to you and he will perceive you as a confident woman who is not intimidated by other women.

Giocare d'astuzia

Potrebbe cercare di ottenere una reazione di gelosia da parte vostra o forse vuole solo più attenzione da parte vostra. Potrebbe mettervi alla prova per vedere se reagite in qualche modo in modo eccessivo. Fate finta di niente e comportatevi come se non fosse successo nulla.

If he is really just trying to provoke jealousy, he will stop when he sees it isn’t working.

Dite che non vi sentite a vostro agio

If his wandering eye is taking it too far, if it’s more than a glance and more like a stare and if you feel like he is crossing the line in any way, you have to react. Don’t start a fight that will lead you nowhere.

Calmly explain that his behavior is disrespectful and that he should put himself in your shoes. He wouldn’t be happy about you giving the once-over to some hot guy while he is right next to you, now would he?

If he continues regardless of your words, it’s best you leave. A man who doesn’t respect you or your feelings doesn’t deserve il vostro tempo.

Se non era consapevole del suo comportamento o se l'ha fatto senza l'intenzione di ferirti, si scuserà e tu potrai andare avanti.

Forse ha bisogno del vostro aiuto per interrompere l'abitudine

Se ha molti amici maschi, potrebbero aver iniziato a farlo per divertimento, così da dare un'occhiata alle ragazze quando passano davanti a loro e commentare tra di loro.

Probabilmente lo facevano per sembrare fighi o altro e pian piano si è trasformato in un'abitudine. Parlatene con lui e vedete se vuole cambiare, visto che vi dà chiaramente fastidio.

Distraetelo con qualcosa di semplice, come toccargli il braccio o passargli le dita tra i capelli.