Se il vostro uomo fa queste 10 cose, probabilmente è il momento di scaricarlo

At some point in any relationship, the time comes when you need to ask yourself if the relationship is worth sticking it out, or if it’s maybe time to move on to something better for yourself.

It’s a difficult question to be faced with because on the one hand, this is the person you have dedicated a pretty big chunk of your life to, and you don’t want to see all of your effort turn out to have been for nothing, but on the other hand, it doesn’t seem to be clicking anymore, so is the past you share really worth sticking it out?

In molte relazioni mi sono trovato di fronte a questo dilemma e non è mai stato facile prendere questa decisione.

It is so tough having to hurt the person you love, and let’s face it, even if it’s not working out anymore, the love doesn’t just vanish into thin air all of a sudden. It’s still there!

Quindi, sapendo che provo ancora qualcosa per questa persona, è stato molto più difficile decidere se restare o andarmene.

There were always telltale signs when I think about it now… I just never wanted to see them.

Eventually, even in situations where I did stay, despite things being far from perfect… it always came to an end.

Love can only take you so far, and I’ve learned it the hard way.

My point is, always listen to your gut. Your feelings are important, but when something inside of you is telling you to leave and not look back, that’s probably what you should be doing.

You always know what’s right for you—sometimes you just decide not to see it. And that’s okay… we’re all guilty of that at times.

There’s nothing wrong with being an eternal optimist about love, as long as you don’t put up with shit you really shouldn’t tolerate.

Which brings me to this. I’ve let it slide one to many times for the sake of love, but don’t be foolish like me.

Take responsibility for your relationship, and don’t put up with shitty treatment. Decide that your needs are important, and don’t let him get away with anything you’re not okay with.

Perché dare la propria vita a una persona incapace di apprezzarla?

Enough is enough. If you’re struggling with this perpetual dilemma between staying and hitting the road, pay attention to these 10 major signs that your gut is right and that it really is time to dump his ass.

10 major signs it’s time to dump him

1. Raramente vi presta attenzione

Now, don’t get this wrong. I’m not saying that you should be the center of his universe or anything.

But if it takes him a long time to answer your calls or texts, and even when you’re together, you never feel like you have his full attention, it indicates that you’re not important enough to him.

If he’s always on his phone when you’re together and then when you leave it takes him ages to get back to you… I think you get the picture.

Don’t be with someone who doesn’t appreciate your presence. Rather, show him how much he’s going to miss you when you’re gone.

2. It just doesn’t feel right

You can’t quite put your finger on it, but there’s something that’s just off, and you don’t know what it is.

It doesn’t have to mean that it’s something that he does wrong. It can simply indicate that he’s wrong for you, and no matter how good of a man he is, you two just aren’t destinato ad essere .

This is your gut telling you it’s time to dump him. Don’t ignore this feeling because it’s telling you something your conscious mind is not yet aware of.

Stop wasting your time on a good guy who doesn’t feel right for you, and go out there and give yourself a chance to find your Mr. Right.

3. He’s obnoxious

Quando vi siete incontrati la prima volta, era odioso e ora, dopo tutto questo tempo, non è cambiato nulla.

La sua personalità non è affatto attraente. Speravate che sarebbe cambiato con l'evolversi della vostra relazione, ma purtroppo non è mai successo.

You’re unsure of whether you should include him when you visit your friends and family because you’re scared that his personality will be extremely off-putting, and they will dislike him.

Who can blame them? If you’re dating a guy who doesn’t try in the least bit to be on his good behavior, even when you clearly wish he would, what are you still doing with him?

È questo l'uomo che volete sia il padre dei vostri figli un giorno?

Didn’t think so… so go and find yourself a guy with good manners who will know how to act without you needing to tell him all the time.

4. Ha un temperamento instabile

Può essere molto aggressivo e le cose più piccole lo infastidiscono. Spesso perde le staffe e urla molto. Spesso contro di voi.

He’s extremely uneasy, and you’re always scared that something will set him off.

No, you didn’t deserve this, and it is never your fault when he acts like this! There is nothing you could possibly do that would justify his erratic, violent behavior!

Don’t wait for him to resort to physical violence—dump him immediately! He’s got issues—don’t let him take it out on you. Even if he hasn’t been that aggressive with you specifically, who’s to say he won’t be in the future?

That’s his temperament, and it’s only a matter of time before he starts bringing that toxic, comportamento violento nella vostra relazione. So leave, and don’t look back.

5. Non ha alcuna ambizione

He’s always jumping from one job to another, unable to hold one job for too long. He’s always broke, and he doesn’t show any interest in changing his situation.

He spends his time lounging in front of the TV, not wanting to commit to anything. He’s just too lazy to care!

Don’t tolerate this behavior for much longer. If you do, you’ll regret it in the future when you end up married with kids!

It’s actually common for men like this to find an intelligent, hard-working woman to leech off because you will make his lazy lifestyle that much easier for him.

Scaricate il suo culo pigro prima che vi sconvolga ancora di più la vita.

He’s clearly set on being the unproductive partner, letting you do all the hard work, so show him that you’re no longer doing that, and leave him once and for all.

6. He doesn’t care much about your needs

All he’s worried about is himself and his own wants and needs. He simply overlooks your own.

Be they emotional or physical, he just doesn’t pay much attention to them. As long as he’s taken care of, there’s not much else that interests him.

Non cerca mai di farvi sentirsi bene di te stessa. Minimizza i tuoi problemi e ti fa apparire bisognosa e appiccicosa quando esprimi i tuoi problemi con qualsiasi cosa.

Clearly, you are the one who holds the power over making yourself feel okay, but isn’t your man supposed to make you feel good when your days are shitty?

And isn’t he supposed to pamper you a little to make you see he cares and pays attention?

There’s no excuse if he doesn’t contribute to your happiness at all. If he loves you, he won’t be able to stand seeing you sad or hurt.

Se lui sembra ignaro di tutto questo, scaricatelo. Ti meriti molto di più.

7. He’s giving you reasons to feel jealous

You’re not the jealous type, and you don’t want to be THAT girl… but lately, he’s been giving you so many reasons to be jealous.

He’s been coming home later than usual. You can smell a different perfume on him, and he avoids answering where he’s been and why he’s late yet again.

All of a sudden, his voice is quieter when he’s on the phone, and he’s been getting late-night phone-calls that he refuses to say anything about.

If any of this is the case, he’s giving you plenty of reasons to be suspicious!

There’s all kinds of wrong with this, and if he’s defensive when asked about it and refuses to own up to his shit, he’s clearly hiding something, and you should under no circumstances put up with it.

If you feel like he’s definitely hiding something from you, listen to your gut feeling. There’s no reason you should be letting him play you for a fool like this.

Leave him if he’s not offering any kind of explanation for his shady behavior, and don’t regret it for one second. You’re doing la cosa giusta per te stesso.

8. Le vostre idee sul futuro sono completamente diverse

Sognate di avere una famiglia numerosa, di trasferirvi un giorno in periferia e di vivere una vita familiare tranquilla e serena.

He doesn’t want to get hitched any time soon, he’s not sure if he wants to be a father and suburbs is the last thing on his mind.

È evidente che i vostri sogni sul futuro sono opposti. Cosa fare a questo proposito?

Nessuno di voi ha torto.

You both have every right to have your ideas of your ideal future, and maybe it’s best that you get it out in the open now, before your dreams clash and leave you angry and bitter some time down the road.

Respect each other’s wishes, and if you don’t see any middle ground, maybe it’s best to part ways, before things get too complicated and you get too invested.

Andate via prima che qualcuno si faccia male.

9. Non ha rispetto per voi

He puts you down and doesn’t care how it makes you feel.

When you’re in public, he has no problem disregarding your feelings and saying whatever comes to his mind, no matter how bad that makes you look.

He mocks the things you love and doesn’t even try to understand them.

In qualche modo riesce sempre a trovare un modo per farti sembrare stupido, e questo ti uccide dentro.

Scaricatelo! Non solo è uno stronzo di prima categoria, ma ha anche problemi con la sua personalità disturbata, e non è il tipo di uomo che volete nel vostro futuro.

If he doesn’t respect you and doesn’t even care to, let him know it’s over and dump his ass.

Your man is supposed to make you feel better about yourself, not doubt everything you say and do. He’s just a jerk, and you’re so much better without him.

10. He’s just not making you happy

In definitiva, questo dovrebbe essere il vostro più grande campanello d'allarme. A volte tutto si riduce a questo. Quest'uomo vi dà gioia?

Provate un'estrema felicità nel sapere che potete tornare a casa da lui? E stare in sua compagnia rende felice la vostra anima?

If the answer to these is NO, then you’ve got your answer.

Può essere un essere umano straordinario. Può trattarvi bene e dire sempre le cose giuste. Può rispettare voi e i vostri valori e non mettervi mai in discussione.

Ma se non vi rende felici, non c'è motivo di stare con lui.

Una relazione dovrebbe rendere la vita più facile e felice.

Knowing you have this person who’s there for you in good times and bad, and just seeing his face which lights your soul on fire is the whole point of being together.

If you have to keep making excuses as to why you should stay with him, stop. You don’t owe anyone anything.

And if he’s really as nice as he seems, he’s going to understand.

You deserve to find a person who’s going to make your days instantly better. You deserve to feel your heart racing when you’re in his presence—don’t deny yourself this.

Dump him if he’s not making you feel like this, and find someone who will!