7 cose che dovete assolutamente sapere prima di iniziare a fare sesso

You think you’re ready to have sex? You think this is the perfect time for that? Maybe you should think twice about it. There are some things you must know if you’ve decided to take that step in your life, and here they are:

1. Imparare a dire NO

If you feel like it’s time for you to lose your virginity, then do it. But, in case he’s pressuring you, it means it’s time to dirgli addio.

If he’s not able to wait and respect your wishes, it means you definitely picked the wrong guy. Sure, your first time won’t be perfect. In fact, it could be extremely awkward, but if there’s one thing it shouldn’t be – it’s pressured.

2. Educare se stessi

A lot of girls don’t educate themselves about their bodies and anatomy in general. They just let the guy lead. It is actually strange how girls, nowadays, assume that guys know everything about sex and that they’re experts even if they’re also virgins.

Take your time and explore. You have access to the Internet, medical books and magazines, which means you don’t have an excuse to be uneducated.

But, don’t trust the Internet too much. If you grab a chance, go see a doctor and ask him/her whatever’s on your mind.

If you explore and educate yourself, not only will you get smarter (obviously), you will know what works best for you and maybe losing your virginity won’t be that awkward after all. If you educate yourself, you will be prepared for anything.

I bet you’ve already heard that knowledge is power. Well, in this case, it’s pleasure, and per favore, per il bene della vostra salute, prendete sul serio i vostri piaceri.

3. Don’t confuse sex with love making

In order to make love to someone, you have to truly love that person. And, you can not love someone you’ve been dating for two weeks.

Quindi, se vai a letto con quel ragazzo con cui hai appena iniziato ad uscire, significa che hai fatto sesso con lui. Fare l'amore è un altro livello e vedrete la differenza solo dopo essere andati a letto con qualcuno che amate con tutto il cuore e l'anima.

If you lost your virginity to some guy, it doesn’t make him ‘the one’ and ‘the love of your life’, so don’t get too attached.

Maybe he was the one for the job or maybe he will end up being the love of your life. Time will give you the answer, so you don’t have to think about it. Simply enjoy the moment.

4. Don’t ever feel ashamed because you’re a virgin

Non importa cosa vi abbiano detto: It’s okay to be a virgin. Don’t try to hide it and don’t lie about it. If you lie to your partner, it could only make your first time worse.

Essere vergini non è qualcosa di cui vergognarsi. It’s your body, your choice and your needs. Non siete obbligati a giustificarvi con nessuno, tanto meno con il vostro partner.

If he doesn’t understand, you then you picked the wrong guy.

5. Don’t make yourself regret anything

A lot of people don’t lose their virginity to someone they love. They just chose to get it over with with their friend or maybe with someone they don’t even know.

And, they usually regret it. If it’s a guy you’ve been dating for some time and you truly care about, then you probably won’t regret it.

Perché, anche se alla fine vi lascerete, saprete sempre che quella persona è stata una parte importante della vostra vita.

But choosing a random guy to sleep with is very risky. Not only you you remember his name, but you could get some disease. (Seriously!) And, not matter who’s the guy you’re losing your virginity to – utilizzare sempre una protezione.

6. Ridurre le aspettative

Your first time won’t be magical. The majority of girls don’t sperimentare l'orgasmo the first time they have sex, so don’t expect too much.

Yes, it could be a bit painful, but that’s perfectly normal. Some surveys showed that girls actually start having orgasms and feeling pleasure during sex after their third or fourth time. It takes some time for your body to understand what’s going on, so be patient.

7. La pressione dei coetanei non è un fattore che dovrebbe influenzare la vostra decisione.

Tutti i vostri amici hanno perso la verginità? Ne parlano continuamente? Continuano a dirti che dovresti perderla il prima possibile?

They make you feel like an outsider because you’re a virgin? If you think that this means it’s time for you to have sex, you’re wrong. It means it’s time for you to find some new friends. If they slept with someone, it doesn’t mean you have to.

Don’t let them get to you. You are the owner of your body and you are the only one who knows your needs. It is immature of them to pressure you like that.

They should be understanding and be there for you in case you need something about sex explained. And after all, that’s not even something they should be bothering with. It’s your intimate thing.