7 cose per cui mi sono accontentata una volta (e mai più)

1. Pessimi amici

Molti di noi hanno quegli amici che ti chiamano solo quando non hanno niente di meglio, o niente altro da fare.

Or, there are people who always blame you somehow for the mistakes they have made. Well, those are lousy friends and they don’t deserve a place in your life.

You settled for shitty friends when you were younger, but you don’t have to do it anymore. You’re a grown person now and you don’t need someone who will make you feel bad and only take advantage of you.

You’re worthy of true friends and by eliminating all those fake ones, you’ll make room for those who deserve you.

2. Quasi relazioni

That is the train I’m not boarding anymore. I had my share of broken hearts and I’m not planning on continuing the streak.

It’s understandable when you date and you break up. Of course, you’re going to have a broken heart, but when you don’t date someone and you still get your heart broken, then it’s a problem. Someone you thought loved and cared about you hurts you the most in the end.

Ho aperto loro il mio cuore e li ho fatti entrare, solo per scoprire che avevano iniziato a frequentare un'altra persona.

In un certo senso cercavano sostegno emotivo e amore con me, ma non appena hanno trovato qualcuno che mi sostituisse, mi hanno spezzato il cuore.

I’m not buying that shit anymore. I’ve learned my lesson.

3. Relazioni tossiche

I’m naïve and I trust people. That’s why I’m so easily manipulated. I’ve been lied to and I’ve been played.

I’ve always failed to see someone’s true face because of infatuation, because of something I thought was love.

I forgave those people a long time ago, but I had trouble with forgiving myself. I was so mad at myself for falling for their tricks and for not seeing straight, but in time, I managed to move on. I know it wasn’t my fault and that I didn’t do anything wrong.

Mi hanno usato insieme a tante altre persone. Sono loro che hanno bisogno di aiuto, non io. L'unica cosa che posso fare è promettere a me stessa di non cadere mai più in questi trucchi.

4. Fidanzati di merda

I’m done being the only one trying. I’m done living in a relationship where I’m treated like shit. I’m done dating selfish men who only know how to take care of themselves.

Tante volte gli sono stata vicina e tante volte se n'è andato quando avevo più bisogno di lui. Non si è mai pentito e non si è mai fermato a riflettere sul suo comportamento.

He felt it’s a normal relationship because, from his standpoint, everything was just fine.

Well, this is one mistake I will never do again. This was an experience from which I’ve learned a lot. I learned how strong and worthy of true love I am.

I’ve learned that no one has the right to treat me like he did.

5. Relazioni unilaterali

Ho sacrificato così tanto per lui. Ho fatto di tutto per compiacerlo. In pratica, seguivo le sue regole.

I was never truly happy in that relationship but I thought I was because I didn’t know what true love is.

I didn’t know what it is like to be loved and cherished by someone. I didn’t know what it is like to wake up happy in the morning.

Mi sono trascurato psicologicamente e mi sono trascurato fisicamente. Mi sentivo e sembravo un pezzo di merda.

I took care of him and ignored my needs, but every time I was taken for granted. I got nothing in return. Why? It’s simple—I was the only one who loved in that relationship. He never cared, not even a bit.

It’s my fault because no one forced me to stay. It’s just that I underestimated myself and I voluntarily let him abuse me with his neglect.

Avrei dovuto imparare che merito di più, ma per fortuna ora lo so.

6. Chiamate di bottino

I ‘ve given up answering late night, drunken calls and opening the door in the middle of the night. I’ve found some self-respect which I lacked when I was younger.

Non ho mai avuto fiducia o creduto in me stessa, quindi mi sono accontentata di tutto ciò che c'era là fuori. Quando mi piaceva qualcuno, avrei fatto letteralmente di tutto per attirare la sua attenzione e loro mi avrebbero usato.

I’m not going to do the same thing over again. Through the years, I have realized that I don’t need to beg for anyone’s attention. I’m smart. I’m fun to be with and there are people who like me without me asking for it.

Ci sono persone che rinuncerebbero al loro tempo solo per passarlo con me.

7. Essere sempre l'ultimo della lista

I’m really sick and tired of essere l'ultima priorità per tutti, especially men I used to date. I’m tired of being treated the way I don’t deserve. The way nobody deserves.

I had no idea who I was in the past. I didn’t know how to appreciate myself. I didn’t know how to love myself, so I searched for validation everywhere I could—unfortunately in wrong men, too.

I’m not that young naïve girl anymore. I became a woman. I became aware of my own worth. I’ve slapped the world back for every slap it gave me.

There is no more screwing around with me. There is no more setting for things I don’t deserve because I deserve everything I wish for.