7 motivi per cui attirate uomini emotivamente danneggiati

Ci sono molti modi in cui una persona può essere danneggiata emotivamente.

Maybe even you, without knowing, have done something that could’ve hurt someone so bad as to damage them for life.

Anche l'amicizia può significare che una persona è stata lasciata con il cuore spezzato e danneggiata.

But we’re not here to talk about that, right? We’re here to figure out why YOU, as a donna felice, indipendente e amorevole, are attracting these men into your life. So I’m giving you five possible reasons for that:

1. Avete bisogno di una relazione

C'è un'enorme differenza tra desiderare e avere bisogno di un partner nella propria vita.

If you NEED a relationship to actually be happy, it’s doomed to fail. To change this, you’ll have to work on yourself.

Devote your time to all the people around you who are always there and go to a support group whenever you’re feeling down. Invest in your own happiness.

Take a trip by yourself! Why not? You don’t need a partner to finally see the world around you.

And then, when you’re happy and you want to share that happiness with someone, you’ll choose the right guy.

2. You’re insecure

Secondo me, le persone che hanno una bassa autostima hanno la tendenza a sistemarsi con uomini che mostrano questi cattivi comportamenti. Chi l'ha convinta che questo tipo di comportamento sia accettabile?

Nessuno dovrebbe soffrire in questo modo! E poi, siete fantastici.

Uscite e mostratelo al mondo. Se avete un elevato rispetto di voi stessiUn uomo violento e danneggiato non farà altro che scappare da voi.

3. You don’t know any other type of man

Tutti i vostri partner hanno mostrato un comportamento abusivo? Non hanno fatto altro che abbattervi e farvi sentire insicuri, forse anche più di quanto non lo foste già?

You’re stuck in a pattern that cannot be changed – or at least that’s what you think. But hey, it can be changed.

You need to stop considering this behavior as love. If someone tells you that you’re not worthy of anything more, they are bad-ass liars, so stay away from these kinds of people at any cost!

4. You don’t want to commit

This can happen even to the best of us. You want to be with someone who’ll soon be out of your life because it’s much safer than to be with someone who’s worth fighting for and someone who’s worth loving.

You don’t want them to get hurt, so you take someone who’s already damaged because you know that it will soon be over. But this leads to you getting hurt, you know?

Being a part of such an awful relationship can only make you feel bad because it doesn’t mean anything to either one of you. Just be aware of it next time.

Sometimes it’s much easier and less painful if you give yourself time to think about this, rather than just run to the next disaster.

5. You don’t want to feel lonely

Questo può in realtà innescare problemi ancora più gravi. Non voler essere lasciati soli con i propri pensieri può portare a decisioni orribili per quanto riguarda la scelta del partner e il modo in cui si guarda alle relazioni sentimentali.

Being alone has some wonderful benefits, though! It’s not only dark thoughts and loneliness. Being alone makes you fall in love with yourself and appreciate every second of that alone time you have.

6. Pensate di meritarlo

Perché? Perché qualcuno dovrebbe pensare di meritare un bastardo abusante e narcisista che non ha nulla da offrire in una relazione se non cuori infranti e lacrime?

Maybe you’ve broken someone’s heart before and you want to know what it’s like and you think that this is what you deserve? But no, wait, slow down!

You don’t. No one deserves this. Just be brave enough to forgive yourself for that.

Sometimes, if it wasn’t your intention to hurt them, it isn’t your fault che la persona è rotta. You don’t need to be with someone who will intentionally hurt you.

Non vi meriterete mai una cosa così terribile.

7. Isn’t everyone damaged?

This mindset won’t get you anywhere. Even if we all experience a broken heart, it doesn’t mean it’ll leave us emotionally unattached and damaged!

Sono stato spezzato. Ecco, l'ho detto. Ho avuto così tanti partner danneggiati nella mia vita che pensavo di poterli guarire solo perché pensavo che essere danneggiati fosse una cosa normale.

But it’s not. Damaged is only someone who lets himself be damaged or someone who doesn’t want to work on themselves to heal properly, so they’ll go around and find someone who’ll do the healing for them.

They find a victim and the rest? Well, the rest you already know. It won’t make anyone happy, I promise you this.

Love and smile like you’ve never experienced brokenness before because that’ll mean that you’re a lovely soul, a brave and strong woman who can handle anything that life throws at her! And about those damaged men?

I think that you’ve had enough of them to know what they’re like, so just walk away from them.

You can’t heal them. Focus on healing yourself. And love yourself enough to never fall for an abusive, damaged bastard!