7 motivi per cui molti uomini soffrono di problemi di impegno

Se avete una relazione e le cose non sembrano mai andare avanti, vi starete chiedendo il perché di questa situazione.

You’re probably thinking it’s all your fault because you’re doing something wrong.

Maybe that’s true but maybe it’s not you at all. I know it’s not fair to blame it on men all the time but in this case, if you’re clean and not guilty for your relationship fallout, then it must be him.

E questa volta è così. Ha paura di impegnarsi a voi e non solo a voi, ma praticamente a chiunque.

Questo, tuttavia, può essere risolto, ma solo se si sa qual è il vero problema e perché lui ha paura di investire nella vostra relazione e di darle una possibilità di diventare eterna.

E se volete scoprire qual è il vero problema, dovete offrirvi di aiutarlo, per cercare di risolverlo.

Il suo problema risale al passato. Ha paura di impegnarsi perché probabilmente ha avuto problemi in amore, con un familiare o con un amico.

Once you find the cause, you’ll be able to find the solution, too. But only if he wants to cooperate and if he is honest with you.

I motivi per cui molti uomini hanno paura di impegnarsi possono essere:

Paura del rifiuto

Molti uomini hanno semplicemente paura di amare qualcuno perché hanno avuto una brutta esperienza d'amore nel loro passato.

They may have loved someone but that person walked out on them or didn’t love them back, which caused them to never trust anyone again.

Sono stati feriti e ora hanno bisogno di tempo per aprirsi e fidarsi di nuovo di qualcuno.

Paura di fallire

Some men are scared they are not going to fulfill the other person’s expectations.

They are scared that their relationship is not going to work and since they want everything to be perfect and this relationship potentially won’t be, they will avoid it to avoid failure.

C'è sempre una scelta

Some men are just cowards. Instead of fighting and trying to work out problems, it’s easier for them to just break up and find someone who won’t object to their demands and someone who will do whatever they say.

So they won’t commit because it’s easier to find someone else who will do as they say. In this case, don’t waste your time trying to ‘fix’ him because it’s impossible.

Paura dell'abbandono

Questa paura si sviluppa a causa di una relazione passata dell'uomo. Si è innamorato prima di voi e forse ha pensato che fosse finita lì.

Maybe he thought that he had found the right one and that ‘right one’ dumped him on his birthday, let’s say.

Whatever she has done to him, it has caused him to be scared of abandonment. That’s why he doesn’t affezionarsi così facilmente.

Ha paura che se lo fa, la persona con cui sta lo lascerà e dovrà affrontare di nuovo il processo di guarigione.

They don’t want to lose their independence

Some men think that dating will take away their independence. They don’t understand that dating is basically sharing and mutual helping. It’s not about who obeys whom.

They have these independence issues because they don’t want to depend on anyone, especially a woman.

What they don’t understand is that they don’t depend on a woman but they are in a relationship where both of them are equal.

They can’t let go of the past

If a man who is in a relationship has commitment issues, it’s possible that he suffers from it because he is already committed to someone else.

Maybe he fell in love long time ago and that relationship failed and although it failed he can’t let go of the past. He can’t force himself to stop loving whoever broke his heart.

That’s why he can’t commit to you. His heart belongs to someone else who sadly rejected him.

Se vi imbattete in una situazione del genere, la cosa migliore da fare è andarvene perché siete voi a finire con il cuore spezzato se restate.

He doesn’t like you enough to commit

I know it’s hard to hear it but sometimes it’s true. Sometimes, it’s as simple as that—he doesn’t like you enough to commit.

You can’t change that and you can’t talk about this to him because you won’t be able to change his mind.

He likes you, he thinks you’re fun, your relationship is cute but it isn’t going anywhere.

It’s better to admit it to yourself and deal with it in your mind so you can move on, than to suffer and torture yourself by staying in a relationship with a man who will never love you.