7 motivi scioccanti per cui gli uomini restano single

Perché gli uomini preferiscono rimanere single?

Sarebbe abbastanza normale che a una certa età gli uomini sentano il bisogno di sistemarsi e di abbandonare la vita da single. Ma in alcuni casi si verifica la sindrome di un ‘forever bachelor’ che sembra essere sempre più popolare nel mondo moderno.

It’s not that men can’t find their soulmate, their persona per sempre. It’s just that they simply don’t want to. Life is so much easier when you can do whatever you want, whenever you want.

But let’s not forget—it has its upsides and its downsides too. What these forever single men won’t tell you is that there are moments in their lives when solitude becomes unbearable.

La maggior parte di loro probabilmente desidera la partnership nel profondo, ma la colma con un'avventura veloce per far tornare tutto a posto.

Ma la domanda finale è: perché gli uomini vogliono rimanere single?

Vogliono essere liberi

When you’re married, you don’t have the luxury to do whatever you want whenever you want it. You have to check with your wife, especially if you have kids. Kids are a huge responsibility, and you should be there for them whenever.

When you’re single, you’re free, and that’s what they crave the most. They can eat whatever they like and where they like. They can watch the game with their friends or go out in the middle of the night to grab a drink.

Simply put, you are the master of your own life. Some guys don’t want to lose that freedom. They want to be their own top priorities. On the one hand, that’s a good thing, but on the other, they are missing out on a lot.

Hanno paura di impegnarsi

Marriage is all about trust and commitment and that can be scary for someone who isn’t positive about what he wants. These men are not sure of what they want and because of that they don’t want to commit.

Certo, probabilmente non si rendono conto di ciò che si stanno perdendo, perché il matrimonio può essere una cosa bellissima. Ma invece di concentrarsi sulle cose positive, questi uomini si concentrano su quelle negative, e quindi scelgono di essere single.

Pensano che una persona non sia sufficiente

There are men who simply think that spending your life with one person is not a natural thing. They don’t want to get married because they are already sure that il matrimonio finirà sicuramente con un divorzio.

Quindi, scelgono di essere single piuttosto che litigare, non fare sesso e spendere un sacco di soldi per un divorzio.

They don’t want to lose the excitement

La maggior parte dei ragazzi pensa che, una volta sposati o entrati in un relazione impegnata, they are done with adventures and excitement. First of all, that so doesn’t have to be the truth, and second of all, that is really not a valid reason to stay single.

But, as they say, they don’t want to lose the excitement. They want to be able to get up in the morning, start their car and drive up to the mountains if they feel like it.

Also, they don’t want to lose the excitement of doing something for the first time. Now, it becomes more clear why they choose to be single. They don’t want to lose the feeling of the first kiss or the first sex with a new partner.

It’s great doing all of those things with your wife or your long term girlfriend, but it’s simply not the same. That is how they look at things.

Trovano difficili le relazioni

Some men just don’t know how to handle the stress of a relationship. For them, it’s so hard to maintain a good and strong relationship without spending too much energy.

It’s more of an obligation than a pleasure for these men to be in a relationship, and that’s why they avoid it. The truth is, all relationships are hard, but the outcome and the love you get should make them easier.

Non sono mai cresciuti veramente

Some men just never actually grew up, and it’s only logical they are not capable of taking care of someone else. And if you get married, you have children; ergo, you have to take care of them and not yourself anymore.

Alcuni uomini sono semplicemente egoisti in questo senso e vogliono rimanere al centro dell'attenzione perché gli piace così.

They simply don’t believe in marriage

Maybe some of them had a bad experience when they were younger. Maybe their parents split and they saw problems in marriage as children which they weren’t supposed to see.

They didn’t have a good example of a healthy relationship growing up, and it’s only logical they reject it later on in their grown up life.