Moglie pazza? 8 modi efficaci per affrontarla con successo

There’s no point beating around the bush here. If you’re reading this article, it’s clear that you’re dealing with what you would call a crazy wife. And I can totally get that.

I’ve had my fair share of crazy exes with insane mood swings and nagging behavior, who went from being a good guy to a narcissist in disguise in a really short amount of time.

Now, saying that you have a crazy wife carries a heavy load, so I’m guessing you’re currently struggling in your relationship and her pazzoide behavior isn’t helping much… Am I getting warm?

Well, I can tell you one thing: you’re in the right place.

See, I’m a self-proclaimed expert for crazy exes and if I’ve been able to get through an extremely rough patch with my formerly crazy husband through a bunch of really effective steps, I guarantee you’ll find this helpful too!

It’s not embarrassing to admit that you’re struggling. You should never be ashamed of dealing with stuff you feel is weighing you down to the point of no return.

We’ve all had some challenging experiences with crazy exes (and current partners) but if this person is worth the fight, then you owe it to them and to your marital union to stick it out and not give up when the shit hits the fan.

You’re the only one who knows what exactly you’re dealing with, so it’s not my intention to judge.

I only hope that you’ll give it a fair chance before calling it quits because, after all, this crazy wife used to be so special to you.

La cosa peggiore che possiate fare è arrendervi prima ancora di darle la possibilità di diventare la persona che vi ha dato il benvenuto. migliore moglie voi conoscere può essere!

Give her the benefit of the doubt and hold her hand instead of calling her names. There’s a reason you took her hand in marriage.

Before getting into a detailed evaluation of your situation and explaining how to handle your crazy wife’s low self-esteem that led to her crazy outbursts, let me just say that couples counseling has been a saving grace for my partner and me.

Oltre a molti altri passi necessari, un consulente di coppia è riuscito a mettere in luce la vera causa della follia e ci ha aiutato a scavare più a fondo e a impegnarci di più.

There will be challenging times in your marriage, but hey, there’s a first time for everything, right?

Don’t back off your marriage before actually making an effort. She’ll be worth the challenge. A little understanding and positive feedback goes a long way!

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Perché ho una moglie pazza?

It’s true that you don’t really know a person until you start living with them (been there, done that!). And it’s true.

Si ha una buona percezione di chi è una persona, ma solo dopo averla sposata si possono conoscere tutti gli aspetti della sua personalità.

Now, you’re clearly wondering Perché improvvisamente ho a che fare con un moglie pazza? o Perché ha la mia ragazza Sei diventato psicopatico con me? and I’m here to offer you answers.

See, women go through a fair amount of hormonal changes throughout their entire life (PMS, pregnancy hormones, menopause… you name it!) so we don’t have it easy at all from the get-go.

E quando tutti quei fastidiosi ormoni iniziano a disturbare la pace interiore, la situazione può diventare molto brutta, molto presto.

Il tuo moglie pazza might simply be going through the changes or she’s struggling with something and trying to keep it all inside for the sake of your marriage.

Ma basta una piccola cosa per farla esplodere nel momento peggiore e far pensare che la sua salute mentale si stia davvero deteriorando.

It’s not. She’s not suffering from any mental illnesses. She’s going through a LOT and she’s just trying to keep herself from falling apart (not knowing it’s all about to unravel in the ugliest ways…)

She’s trying to keep herself from shattering into pieces, and her nagging and psych-related issues are merely a reflection of how she’s feeling inside.

If you find yourself a target of her emotional outbursts, know that it most probably isn’t about voi.

It’s about much deeper issues that have been plaguing her mind for quite some time and she hasn’t found a healthy way to deal with them, so she has turned into the crazy wife you never expected to deal with. And yet, here you are.

Potreste pensare a voi stessi: moglie pazza – crazy life! But that’s not necessarily the case in my experience.

See, you’re in this thing forever (marriage, that is). Calling your wife crazy and deeming yourself Mr. Perfect will get you nowhere, as you’re pointing fingers here and clearing yourself of all blame.

But let me tell you something, mister. You’re half to blame for your wife’s issues.

Who’s the one too busy to text her back because he doesn’t have time for chit chat (as if you’re the only one with a job)?

Who’s the one who forgets about the ONE thing she specifically asked you to pick at the grocery store (which she needs in order to make YOU a delicious meal)?

Who’s the one who can go to bed and just doze off while three issues are hanging over your heads, while your wife is begging you to talk it through in order to sleep soundly?

Quindi, prima di iniziare a dare della pazza a vostra moglie, iniziate a notare uno schema di comportamento che voi ha contribuito a istigare, e si prenda la sua parte di colpa. Nessuno decide di rovinare la vostra vita. Soprattutto non tua moglie.

This is a woman who’s been trying so damn hard to make the entire life you’ve created together lavoro e di evitare di scoppiare!

Instead of calling yourself a good guy for ”putting up with her,” roll up your sleeves and give her the attention she truly needs.

Volete che lei torni ad essere quella di una volta? Volete disperatamente evitare la terapia di coppia?

Allora siate pronti ad ascoltarla davvero per capire e prendetevi cura di lei come avete promesso nei vostri voti.

It’s time to roll up your sleeves and help her be the migliore moglie può essere. Tutto parte da VOI e questo è il modo per farlo funzionare.

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Don’t call her crazy

Come probabilmente si può intuire, essere chiamati pazzo doesn’t rub ANYONE the right way.

If you want to have the best wife ever, perhaps it’s time for some positive feedback instead of derogatory name-calling? Good luck getting anywhere if you keep naming names.

Chiamarla "moglie pazza" non fa altro che renderla ancora più nervosa e, in questo modo, nessuno vince davvero.

Don’t allow her to develop mental health problems just because she’s expected to be okay with incessant putdowns. Be mindful of what comes out of your mouth.

Le parole lasciano ferite più profonde di quanto si possa pensare.

The whole goal should be to pull your wife closer and to make her feel more appreciated and at ease. That’s how you’ll get to the bottom of what’s bothering her.

Calling your spouse crazy is counter-effective to what you’re trying to accomplish.

Words stay with her for a very long time, so change your attitude toward her and never call her a crazy person again. She’s your wife, not your annoying narcissist of a neighbor.

Rimanere il partner razionale

In a marriage, it’s all about partnership. Arguments will break out, you’ll start bickering, and harsh words will be said.

It’s going to be really challenging trying to keep a cool head throughout the whole thing, but since you know you have a bit of a crazy wife, VOI dovranno essere il partner razionale in questo caso.

One of you needs to keep cool and defuse the situation when things get overly heated. In this instance, you’re going to have to put on your big-boy pants and step up.

Prendetevi cura di vostra moglie nel modo in cui lei ha bisogno di voi.

Your responsibility as a husband is to try and find a resolution to issues when your wife is unable to. It’s perfectly normal that you both get frustrated and get short with each other.

But one of you has to be the adult here, and that’s you. Stop ranting and bitching about her to your friends. That’s a coward’s way out.

Talk to her instead – don’t leave the house and slam the door in her face. Stick around and show her that you CARE.

Giving up and leaving is all too easy, but that’s not what you signed up for when you married her.

Hai promesso di essere presente per lei nei momenti positivi e cattiva, quindi dimostratelo facendo la voce della ragione quando tutto quello che volete fare è sbattere la porta.

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Ricordate a voi stessi perché l'avete sposata.

Quando le cose si fanno difficili e il mondo vi butta giù, fate una passeggiata sul viale dei ricordi e ricordate a voi stessi tutti i motivi per cui vi siete innamorati di lei.

Think back on your beginnings and every single thing she did that made you say ”Yup, she’s the one for me. That’s my girl!”

I find it the most effective method to deal with my relationship problems when I foolishly start thinking I’ve reached the end line.

I just start to reminisce about all the things that made me fall in love with my man in the first place…

Il modo in cui mi ha conquistata nonostante fossi estremamente riluttante ad abbassare la guardia. Il modo in cui il suo umorismo secco mi ha fatto ridere a crepapelle più di quanto volessi permettermi.

The way he’d give me his hoodie when I was cold and tweet out the most cheesy (yet adorably sweet) things about me… Trust me, I could go on and on!

Bottom line – there are SO many reasons why you’re married to this woman. Calling her your crazy wife is completely undeserving.

She may be struggling right now, but there was a time when she was your rock and number one supporter. Don’t you think it’s time to return the favor?

Don’t be a bystander in your marriage

Una delle cose peggiori che possiate fare è quella di passare in secondo piano e bloccare mentalmente tutti i problemi del vostro matrimonio.

And that’s wrong on multiple levels. Firstly, it resolves nulla e ti fa solo allontanare da tua moglie in un momento in cui ha più bisogno di te.

And secondly, it’s hurtful to leave her hanging when you know she’d never leave your side.

Don’t just be a bystander in your own relationship. Take initiative and find ways to actively deal with your crazy wife.

There’s a reason why she’s always nagging at you and having jealous outbursts. You won’t find out what it is by observing from a safe distance and leaving her to her own devices.

Sii uomo e occupati dei tuoi problemi coniugali. Sii un marito e aiuta tua moglie a ritrovare la sua strada.

Be a decent human being and don’t ignore a person during their most challenging times.

Watching your life pass you by will backfire at some point. Don’t waste these precious years by choosing to passively observe your wife’s journey toward oblivion.

Falle cambiare idea facendo la tua parte in questo matrimonio.

Dopo tutto si tratta di vostra moglie. Lei merita di più di un marito che si rifiuta di sporcarsi le mani e passa in secondo piano. Rimani in prima linea e combatti per tua moglie.

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Cercare di individuare la radice del problema

Quando ha iniziato a comportarsi in modo insolito? Quando avete iniziato a notare cambiamenti nel suo comportamento che vi hanno preoccupato?

I’m sure you didn’t sempre have a crazy wife. She must’ve been fine before and then something clicked and it all changed.

The most important thing is to figure out what’s bothering her and in what way you’ve contributed to this. Do you not text her enough, therefore leaving her worried about your whereabouts?

Avete l'abitudine di rimanere fuori fino a tardi la sera senza controllare affatto la sua presenza?

L'avete trascurata per lavoro e vi siete completamente dimenticati dei vostri programmi per il fine settimana in più di un'occasione? Potrebbero essere tutte queste cose insieme!

You’d be surprised how much those seemingly small things really matter to a woman.

Dimenticare di richiamarla, saltare la cena di anniversario, trascurare il tempo trascorso insieme, sono tutti fattori che contribuiscono a creare un'atmosfera di disagio. unione coniugale infelice e una moglie trascurata e infelice che ha tenuto duro finché ha potuto.

And now, she can no longer stand constantly playing second fiddle to your work, friends, or whatever else, and she’s turned into someone she doesn’t want to be. 

Accettate il vostro ruolo in tutto questo e sistemate ciò che va sistemato!

Condividere i propri sentimenti senza trattenersi

Volete sapere cosa le donne amano DAVVERO in un uomo? La capacità di essere aperto e onesto riguardo ai propri sentimenti senza lasciare che tutte quelle stronzate da macho lo trattengano dall'essere genuino.

È in grado di condividere i suoi sentimenti con sua moglie?

When was the last time you had an open conversation where you let it all out without holding anything back? I know it’s hard to open up, but this is your moglie, not some stranger. You’re safe with her!

Being transparent and genuine lets you share even the things you wouldn’t normally be comfortable sharing, and that’s what helps you resolve issues without using harsh words.

Ditele come vi fa sentire il suo comportamento e dimostratele che volete capire da dove proviene.

Don’t use accusatory tone but rather be calm and collected while conveying your thoughts in a manner that will show her that her behavior is affecting your marriage negatively.

If you meet her halfway, I assure you she’ll accept your olive branch and deal with this better.

Ha solo bisogno di sentirsi vista e ascoltata da voi! A volte un piccolo feedback positivo è tutto ciò di cui una ragazza ha bisogno.

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Ascoltare per capire (non per vendicarsi)

Dealing with a crazy wife isn’t easy, so I don’t expect you to always be able to keep it together and never lash out.

But even though it’s normal to lose your cool every now and again, try to really listen to your wife in a way where you’re focused on what she’s trying to tell you and non in modo da aspettare il proprio turno di rivalsa.

Picking fights is easy, but understanding the root of them is difficult. Next time she’s being irrational, try to truly hear her out.

If she’s yelling about you always staying suspiciously long at work, let her know that you’ll do your best to come home in time for dinner with her, and actually do it!

Whatever she’s going off about, HEAR it and try to accommodate her needs. Is she really being crazy or is she simply asking you to consider her feelings but not putting it in the best way?

Once you stop retaliating and start hearing what she’s trying to tell you, your marriage will start thriving, because people often forget that communication is key.

Stabilire alcune regole di base

Now that you’ve finally started listening to your wife as opposed to blocking her out and refusing to take your part of the blame, you finally have a shot at making this work.

È il momento di stabilire alcune regole di base che impediscano a uno dei due di sfogarsi nei momenti di difficoltà e di ricorrere invece a una soluzione migliore.

Parlatene con vostra moglie e decidete quali dovrebbero essere le regole e il loro obiettivo finale.

I’m presuming that your end goal is to stop having a crazy wife by helping her get better, and her end goal is to finally feel heard and understood. Both are reasonable and attainable.

So now would be the time to practice what you preach. If you’re all about weeding out the negativity and embracing healthy coping tactics, then, by all means, implement them in your daily life.

This goes for both of you. When she starts feeling the urge to yell or accuse you of something, she should be reminded to dial it down and respect the boundaries you’ve set, and the same goes for you.

Lasciate che i vostri nuovi limiti vi aiutino a liberarvi dalle abitudini tossiche e a trasformarvi in esseri umani migliori, più sani e più felici.

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Pensieri finali

Hopefully, this article has provided you with some much-needed answers and an insight into the female brain that can cause her to act in a way detrimental to everyone’s well-being.

Forse pensavate di avere una moglie pazza, ma la realtà è che bisogna essere in due per ballare il tango!

Le cose che la fanno impazzire di solito sono quelle con cui anche voi avete a che fare.

You can’t expect to have the best wife on the planet without doing your part to make her feel the way she deserves.

E ora capite cosa intendo. Parlare con lei invece di evitarla è la strada da seguire.

Finding the middle ground and embracing your part of the guilt is one step closer toward a resolution. And step it up when she can’t, because marriage is a partnership.

Both partners aren’t always going to be able to give it their all, so step up your game when your wife is struggling.

Give her the benefit of the doubt, because once she’s better, she’ll never forget what you’ve done for her.

You can’t always expect it to be smooth sailing, but with a little bit of effort, you can get pretty darn close!