Se vi hanno etichettato troppe volte come appiccicosi, dovete sentire queste 6 cose

A nessuno piace sentirselo dire, ma la verità è che in passato siete state definite appiccicose da più di un fidanzato.

Even though you probably find this insulting, it’s clear that you have a problem with neediness, and here is everything you need to know about it.

1. Combattere e implorare l'amore non sono la stessa cosa

People will tell you to fight for love. That is somewhat true; even though real love happens by itself, a healthy relationship certainly needs to be worked on and it doesn’t build itself overnight.

Tuttavia, esiste una differenza fondamentale tra lottando per l'amore e implorando per esso and when you’re clingy, you’re actually begging for someone to care for you.

You’ll have to admit that there is nothing dignified about this.

You don’t need a man you’ll force to be with you. You shouldn’t want him to not leave you because he feels sorry for you or because he thinks you have nowhere else to go.

2. You can’t stop a man from leaving you

Ecco una dura verità: se il vostro la relazione è destinata a fallireNon c'è assolutamente nulla da fare.

If the man you’re dating wants to dump you, you can’t stop him from doing so, as much as you try.

Pertanto, il punto fondamentale è che non ha alcun senso essere appiccicosi. Ciò che è destinato ad accadere accadrà e non c'è modo di impedirlo in questo o in quell'altro modo.

So, instead of constantly overthinking and doing everything in your power to keep a man by your side, let him be. Besides, do you really want him to stay with you, knowing that out of pity, he hasn’t left?

3. L'arrendevolezza allontana le persone

Ti capisco: quando si ama qualcuno, si vuole che sia sempre vicino a noi.

You don’t have the need to spend any of your free time with your friends and family and all you want is to look at this guy’s beautiful face.

However, let me tell you a secret. This kind of behavior won’t draw him closer to you. In fact, it will actually just chase him away.

This is true for all people out there and especially for men. When you’re all over a guy, he won’t see that as a sign of your enormous affection for him.

Instead, he’ll see it as a red flag and an alarming sign to run away for his life.

Si sentono semplicemente soffocati e minacciati in questo tipo di situazioni e di solito si ottiene l'effetto opposto a quello che si voleva ottenere inizialmente.

4. Your happiness shouldn’t depend on someone else

The bottom line here is that you’re clingy out of the fear of losing the person you love.

This is something nobody should judge you for. After all, as soon as you care for someone, it’s pretty natural that you don’t want to be without them.

However, in your case, that fear paralyzes you and prevents you from thinking straight. You’re convinced that your happiness depends on your boyfriend, which is certainly not the case.

Ricordate che dovete essere felici da soli, con o senza un partner romantico. Solo allora il vostro comportamento bisognoso avrà fine.

5. C'è una differenza tra il comportamento amorevole e quello bisognoso.

Anche se dovreste fare del vostro meglio per non essere appiccicosi, tenete presente che negli appuntamenti moderni alcune cose normali sono considerate troppo bisognose.

Tuttavia, permettetemi di dirvi che c'è un'enorme differenza tra comportamento premuroso e appiccicoso.

You see, you’re not needy for wanting affection and attention. You’re not needy for considering it natural to hear from your boyfriend every day or to see him a few times a week.

You’re not clingy for having the need to spend time with him. You’re not clingy for wanting commitment and dedication.

6. The right person won’t think of you as clingy

On the other hand, if you do all of the above and you know that you’re not exaggerating but you’re still being called clingy, maybe it’s time to reconsider your choice of partner.

In fin dei conti, potreste non essere affatto bisognosi. Una volta trovata la persona giusta, apprezzerà tutto ciò che fate per lui.

Si riterrà fortunato ad avere una ragazza che lo ama come lo ami tu.