Abbassare i propri standard non aumenterà le possibilità di felicità

Lei è una donna forte e autosufficiente, che sa quello che vuole: nessuno può metterlo in dubbio.

Sapete che tipo di partner meritate e di cui avete bisogno, ma purtroppo non riuscite a trovare un uomo che faccia al caso vostro.

It is not that you’re looking for a flawless Mr. Perfect who will make of your wildest fantasies come true—you just want a man who will have the ability to keep up with you, a man who will see your worth and most importantly, a man who will give you back all the love he’s getting from you. 

So why does everyone keep telling you that you’re asking for too much?

Perché tutti continuano ad accusarla di essere troppo esigente quando si tratta di uomini e perché tutti continuano a consigliarvi di abbassare i vostri standard?

Let me tell you one thing: It is always better to remain single than to be with someone who doesn’t fit your criteria and with someone who doesn’t match your requirements.

So, cut the bullshit and don’t even think of lowering your standards because I can assure you that this won’t increase your chances of happiness.

You see, it is not enough to find a man you’re just comfortable with, a man who is convenient at a given time and who has the potential to save you from dying alone.

You shouldn’t settle on spending the rest of your life with a dude who looks good on paper but doesn’t make you feel deep love.

With a nice guy who probably won’t turn into an asshole over time but who is not likely to dump you when he gets tired of you.

It is not enough to be with a man who won’t cheat on you, who won’t abuse you in any way and who’ll have the decency to return your phone calls and take you out a few times a week.

You shouldn’t consider yourself lucky just for running into a guy who puts some effort into your relationship, who buys you flowers and chocolate for Valentine’s Day, who doesn’t forget your birthday or who doesn’t put you last.

None of this is a privilege you should be thankful for—it is the bare minimum and something that should be implied in every normal relationship.

Non è il tipo di relazione che si deve inseguire, per paura di rimanere soli.

So, please, don’t lower your standards because by doing so, you’ll also decrease your happiness.

You’ll betray all of your principles, you’ll ruin your future and you’ll sentence yourself to a miserable, loveless life.

Besides, lowering your standards won’t magically invite everlasting love into your life.

Yes, it might help you get a temporary boyfriend but it definitely won’t make you any happier in the long run.

Don’t get me wrong—I’m not saying that you should have unrealistic expectations or that you should concentrate on finding a rich, handsome model who will nod his head to every word you say.

However, don’t lower your standards just because you can’t find what you’re looking for or because someone accused you of asking for too much.

Invece, cercate di più perché vi meritate di più.

Cercate un uomo che vi faccia sentire vive e tranquille allo stesso tempo, un uomo che vi faccia sentire amate e protette e un uomo che sia il vostro vero compagno di vita.

Don’t settle per un uomo che in questo momento soddisfi solo i vostri bisogni fisici o emotivi.

Cercate invece qualcuno che vi faccia sentire completi e che riempia tutti i vostri vuoti per il resto della vita.

Someone you’ll love, someone who will be your perfect match and someone you can see yourself growing old next to. 

Sì, so che aspettare questo tipo di uomo può diventare faticoso ed estenuante.

So che essere single e stare seduti ad aspettare che lui arrivi non è facile.

However, spending the rest of your life regretting the choices you’ve made out of despair would be even more difficult.

Wishing you could go back in time and not give a chance to that someone who didn’t deserve it is much more devastating and something you should never put yourself through.

So please, don’t give up on finding Mr. Right ancora.

Don’t lose hope or settle for less than you deserve.