Signore, è ora di migliorare il vostro gioco di flirt

Accentuate your lips! Smile and say hi when you pass by the guy you like… Seriously? If you’ve ever dug deeper into flirting matters, you’ve probably stumbled upon these and similar consigli per gli incontri che si concentrano principalmente sul vostro aspetto.

In realtà, cosa significa per voi flirtare? Vede flirt come investire nella tonalità di rossetto più seducente, scattarsi un selfie e postarlo sui social media?

Or you never even dared to flirt with a guy so that he doesn’t think you’re an easy target or, let alone, interested in him (because playing hard to get has been a thing for a while now).

Ladies, it’s time to re-learn the art of flirting because it’s so much more than just looking pretty or smiling.

Don’t get me wrong. Smiling is a huge part of your flirting game because positive vibes are what attract guys (and it even rhymes!). Triple rhyme.

I’m trying to say that flirting is a skill that needs to be mastered and updated accordingly. Not every flirting move works on every guy because each of them has different preferences.

But there are some attractive tricks that all men fall for, and today, we’ll focus on those things. Migliorare il vostro gioco di flirt non solo vi aiuterà ad attrarre più uomini, ma vi renderà anche più sicure di voi stesse!

Wait, why should you master the art of flirting? Hmm…

If you’re still not sure why exactly you should master the art of flirting, I’ll say two things to you:

1. Flirtare vi farà apparire dieci volte più attraenti.
2. Flirtare vi aiuterà a sembrare più avvicinabili.

I’m sure you want to look attractive to the guy you like, right? Well, being attractive is not only a matter of wearing the right clothes (those that spark the imagination) or looking your best from head to toe.

Sapevate che il vostro linguaggio del corpo gioca un ruolo enorme quando si tratta di flirt e attrazione?

Yup. Allow me to elaborate. Let’s say that you cross your arms while you’re in a bar checking out the guy you like and secretly hoping that he will approach you.

Sorry to disappoint you, but no, he won’t do that. Why? Because your body language (crossed arms) tells him that you’re reserved, not that relaxed, aka a little bit worried or anxious.

Un ragazzo può capire tutto questo solo da un indizio del vostro linguaggio del corpo. Sì, il linguaggio del corpo è così potente.

If you flirt the right way, you’ll appear more approachable. Note that not every guy has the courage to make the first move or even look at you. Some guys are so shy that they won’t approach you, not even in a thousand years, if you don’t give them some obvious signs that you’re interested in them.

Ed è qui che entra in gioco il flirt! By exuding positive vibes, displaying positive body language, and teasing him, you will let him know that you’re a flirting queen!

You will let him know that you don’t take yourself too seriously (that’s really important to guys), that you know how to have fun, and that you’re interesting to be around.

Who doesn’t want to be in the company of a lady whose flirting game is so strong that it forces men to step up their own game? Such a woman is every man’s dream because flirting requires intelligence, creativity, and wittiness.

In other words, by flirting with him like a boss, you’re showing him that you’re one of those strong women who are not afraid to tease, provoke, or even joke at their own expense. Ed è per questo che, signora, dovrebbe padroneggiare l'arte del flirt.

Più flirtate con gli altri, più diventate sicuri di voi stessi. Quindi, invece di aspettare che sia un ragazzo a iniziare a flirtare per primo, siate voi a iniziare prima di lui. Se lo farete, lui si attaccherà a voi come una colla.

Non sottovalutate mai il potere degli sms flirtanti!

Dato che gli sms sono uno degli aspetti più importanti del flirt perché, ovviamente, viviamo nell'era moderna in cui le conversazioni nella vita reale sono sopravvalutate. (Spero che abbiate notato il mio tentativo di sarcasmo).

Where were we? Yes, never underestimate the power of sending flirty texts to a guy because that’s the biggest ace up your sleeve. It’s true that men are visual creatures, but this doesn’t mean that you should only send them hot pics of yourself as a way of flirting with them.

Certo, le vostre foto hot cattureranno e manterranno la loro attenzione per un po' di tempo, ma i messaggi flirtanti sono dieci volte più potenti nel lungo periodo.

When you send a flirty text to a guy, he is forced to use his imagination to understand what you are telling him. He can’t hear the tone of your voice, and he can’t see you or anything else. All he has is your text and his imagination, which is a killer combination (in every sense of its meaning).

Permettetemi di semplificare la questione. Se a un uomo servite tutto su un piatto d'argento, potrebbe presto perdere interesse. Se invece gli permettete di servirsi da solo, dandogli qualche boccone da masticare, sarà affamato di altro.

Inviargli messaggi flirtanti lo costringerà a usare l'immaginazione (per servire se stesso) e lo renderà assetato di altri messaggi flirtanti in futuro.

Se volete rendere più vivaci le vostre conversazioni via sms (e so che lo volete), ecco alcune Messaggi flirtanti da inviare a lui per farsi desiderare:

There’s this new position I heard about today, and I can’t wait to try it out… When do you think you can come over?

I will invite you over on one condition: You shouldn’t keep your hands to yourself. In fact, I will tell you right where you should put them!

I am so excited about our date tonight. If you play your cards right, you’re going to love what I’ve got planned for later!

Another powerful thing that every woman needs to master is flirty questions. Asking a guy the right questions at the right time is a surefire way to boost attraction and show him who’s a flirting goddess.

If you’re interested (and I know you are), here are some Domande flirtanti da fare a un ragazzo per farlo impazzire:

Preferite essere rudi o sensuali?

What underwear color do you think I’m wearing now?

What’s your biggest fantasy?

Che tipo di abbigliamento vorresti vedere con me?

Credi nella lussuria a prima vista o devo passare di nuovo da te?

Don’t shy away from throwing in flirty jokes or funny pick-up lines either!

Sadly, the majority of women shy away from telling flirty jokes or funny pick-up lines because they don’t want to appear too cheesy or they’re a little bit insecure about it. Well, it’s high time we reclaim our feminine power and implement jokes and pick-up lines into our flirting repertoire.

Se saprete lanciare battute e frasi di rimorchio come la donna sicura di sé che siete, nessun uomo potrà disinteressarsi. Perché?

Because this is not something every woman does out there, no man would expect you to throw flirty jokes or pick-up lines, and that’s the beauty of it. No man would expect a woman to try to make him laugh. Wait, is that even true? What a sad world we live in.

If you want to flirt like a boss, you need to do exactly what they don’t expect you to.

Since I’m feeling generous, here are the two biggest flirting lessons that I’ve learned so far:

1. Don’t be predictable.
2. Always keep a man wondering about what you’re going to say or do next.

Detto questo, ecco alcuni battute flirtanti e battute di rimorchio divertenti che lo attraggono e lo fanno ridere troppo:

You may fall from the sky, you may fall from a tree, but the best way to fall… is in love with me.

I’ll be Burger King, and you be McDonald’s. I’ll have it my way, and you’ll be lovin’ it.

Sembra che abbia perso il mio numero di telefono. Posso avere il suo?

Are you a keyboard? Because you’re my type!

Il mio nome è (il tuo nome), ma puoi chiamarmi stasera.

Guardatelo come la donna cazzuta e sicura di sé che siete!

If there’s one thing that needs to be changed in our (female) flirting game, it is this: Don’t be afraid to check that man out and let him know that you’re interested.

I understand. Checking someone out has also been a man’s job so far (well, predominantly theirs), but this shouldn’t be so. We live in the 21st century, where expressing ourselves in the weirdest ways possible is acceptable.

Forget that I mentioned the word “weirdest” because this has nothing to do with it. What I want you to do, my lady is feel free to check him out, give him a flirty smile and then continue doing what you were doing (chatting with your friend or similar).

If you do this, I can guarantee that he will be smitten with you. How couldn’t he? He will think to himself: Una bella e sicura signora mi ha appena controllato. Accidenti. Devo incontrare questa donna e conoscerla meglio (in tutti i sensi).

Siate impavidi. Siate audaci. Esprimete voi stessi

When it comes to flirting, there is no space for gender stereotyping. Don’t be ashamed to step up your game and tell that corny joke or pick-up line. Don’t be afraid to dig deeper and find new unordinary ways of flirting.

Flirting is an art in itself, and you cannot go wrong with it (as long as you’re not overdoing it). As always, leave some space for him to show off his flirting game as well.

Flirt – wait for his response – flirt some more – retreat – repeat. Ce l'hai fatta, ragazza!