Che si fotta perché gli piaci, ma non abbastanza da impegnarti

Some believe that when it comes to love, there is no grey zone. Either you’re in amore or you’re not. There’s no room for anything in between.

But what happens when the one you’re in love with wants to spend time with you but doesn’t want to commit? He wants to be with you, but he doesn’t want a relationship? Why would he show interest and then bail on you?

Capisco la tua frustrazione. Può essere così confuso quando qualcuno è così attento nei tuoi confronti, ti fa sentire così amata e poi si tira indietro e ti fa da fantasma per un po'. Può essere così impegnativo cercare di decifrare cosa possa possedere un uomo per comportarsi in modo così crudele.

Regardless of how much it kills you not knowing and trying to get to the bottom of his behavior, don’t waste your precious time and nerves on figuring out somebody who clearly has no idea cosa vuole and cannot appreciate a good thing, even when it’s standing right in front of him.

If you want the honest truth, here it is. Yeah, he likes you – just not enough to commit to you. And screw him for that!

Ecco perché torna sempre strisciando da te dopo la rottura. Perché è evidente che ama la vostra compagnia, ma non abbastanza da farne un impegno permanente.

F*ck anyone who treats you like you’re not enough!

Che vada a farsi fottere per aver trascorso un weekend fantastico con te e poi essersi rifiutato di rispondere alle tue chiamate per tutta la settimana successiva.

Che si fotta per averti detto quanto sei fantastica e poi averti tirato per le lunghe per settimane.

Che vada a farsi fottere per aver mandato un messaggio notturno in cui dice che gli manchi tanto, ma si rifiuta di dare un'etichetta alla vostra relazione.

Che vada a farsi fottere per aver fatto zero sforzi, dopo averti assicurato di voler stare con te, ma questa volta per davvero.

You’ve experienced enough lies and tricks from him to expect nothing more than empty words substantiated by occasional professions of affection, which usually translates to sex and a few scattered texts.

You’re better than una visita di cortesiaRicordate che, a prescindere da quanto sia bravo come amante o da quanto riesca a convincervi a perdonarlo per la miliardesima volta. Quando è troppo è troppo. Fanculo.

The most important thing here is to know better than to take it personally. You should know by now that it most definitely isn’t you. It’s him. It’s not your fault that he can’t appreciate you for the amazing woman that you are.

Never change who you are for someone who won’t know how to appreciate you either way. Never change how you see yourself due to somebody not being able to see you in your full glory. And never let someone diminish your worth by treating you like you’re only what he makes of you.

I know you’re hurting right now. But the reason for that is not because you’re losing the guy who’s right for you because he’s not.

The reason you’re hurting is because your ego has been rocked by his inconsistent pattern of behavior. Don’t let that faze you too much. He’s not important enough to shatter your self-confidence.

This sucks, sure. But you can’t force people into feeling things that aren’t there. As brutal as it is to hear this, it’s true.

Tutto ciò che potete fare è apprezzare coloro che conoscono il vostro valore e lasciare andare chi vi fa sentire meno di loro.

You’re a smart, badass, sexy specimen of a human being. And no temporary man can prove you otherwise. Let that f*cker go, and make yourself available for when the right guy comes along.