Come capire se vi tradisce in base al suo comportamento quotidiano

Come capire se il vostro uomo è improvvisamente cambiato? Come si fa a capire se vi sta tradendo in base al suo comportamento quotidiano?

If something doesn’t feel right, that’s probably because it’s not right. It doesn’t matter if everything looks perfect— vibes don’t lie .

Dovete sempre ascoltare le vostre emozioni, ma dovete anche tenere a mente di non fare affidamento solo su di esse.

Stabilire che qualcosa evidentemente non va nella vostra relazione è il primo e più importante passo.

You should never attack your guy for no valid reason because that’s one of the worst-case scenarios you don’t want to experience.

The second thing you need to establish is what exactly is it that’s not right? Could it be that he’s cheating on you?

Se lo sospettate, è probabile che stia facendo qualcosa alle vostre spalle, ma non saltate alle conclusioni.

Pensare che possa tradirti non è la stessa cosa che esserne sicuri!

And now you’re probably wondering how to tell for sure if he’s cheating on you. Asking him won’t get you anywhere. By doing that, you’d only give him a chance to lie.

Following him around is also not a good idea because you don’t want to turn into a control freak and destroy your well-being.

But there’s one thing you can do and that is observe his everyday behavior.

If you pay attention to his actions, you’ll easily notice any changes regarding his behavior and these changes are strong indicators of him being a potential cheater.

Some of them are very obvious and it won’t take you long to solve the mystery.

So, here’s a list of things you should pay attention to in order to reveal or discard his potential cheating nature.

And if you notice any of them, then it’s time to have a serious talk with your boyfriend!

He’s texting way more often

And if he’s smiling at his phone while reading a text, then he probably has someone on the side.

When you feel amused by something, smiling comes naturally to you and you simply can’t hide the joy.

Questi tipi di indicatori del linguaggio del corpo non falliscono quasi mai.

Tuttavia, è bene fare attenzione a questo caso. Forse sta solo messaggiando con un amico.

Ma se notate che tiene costantemente il suo telefono vicino e non ve lo lascia prendere in prestito per un minuto quando glielo chiedete, allora sicuramente ha qualcosa (o qualcuno) da nascondervi.

E lei ha tutto il diritto di chiederglielo.

He won’t have any phone conversations in front of you

Nel momento in cui il suo telefono squilla, si alza, va in un'altra stanza e torna solo quando la conversazione è completamente conclusa.

Sure, it might be that his boss is calling him and he doesn’t need you to distract him while they’re discussing a huge issue that came up at work.

But what are the chances of that? His boss won’t be calling him every day, that’s for sure.

So, if he’s constantly having conversations literally behind your back, then something utterly fishy is going on.

After all, he wouldn’t do such a thing if he didn’t have anything to hide from you in the first place.

Per essere sicuri di questo, potete provare a chiedergli perché va sempre in un'altra stanza quando qualcuno lo chiama.

Se inizia a borbottare o a mostrare segni di confusione, allora sta sicuramente nascondendo qualcosa e voi avete tutto il diritto di continuare a fargli domande al riguardo.

Esce molto più di prima

All of a sudden he’s un animale da festa who can’t be tamed. There is always something he can’t miss.

When you ask him who is he going out with, you always get the same answer: “ Oh, solo alcuni amici .”

In most cases, ‘just some friends’ is a codename for the one girl he’s been seeing behind your back.

Going out becomes just a lame excuse for him to keep doing things in secret, hoping you’ll never find out anything about it.

Ma sospettando che vi stia mentendo, siete già due passi avanti a lui.

Per essere sicuri al cento per cento di questo, potete chiedergli se potete unirvi a lui, solo per vedere la sua espressione facciale.

If he’s hiding something, he will be literally unable to answer your question properly.

Si preoccupa troppo del suo aspetto

Before he goes out with ‘his friends’, he spends a lot of time in front of the mirror. He takes a shower, picks out the best outfit he has and takes care of his hair.

Se questo è il suo nuovo rituale prima di uscire, allora dovreste preoccuparvi.

Per chi si sta preparando? Tu sei l'unica donna per cui dovrebbe impegnarsi così tanto.

If he reminds you of the man he was at the beginning of your relationship, then it might be that he’s starting a new one. And he’s not even man enough to admit it to you.

Putting too much effort into his looks only when he’s going out with ‘some friends’ is a sure sign that he’s going out with some chick he wants to impress.

Gli uomini sono davvero prevedibili quando si tratta di questo aspetto, perché solo quando amano davvero una persona si sforzano di apparire al meglio per lei.

He’s more active on social media

Not only that he’s texting all the time but he’s posting a lot of new stuff on his social media profiles.

There are a lot of new pictures of him without you that he just had to post. He’s constantly updating his status so that people would think his life is much more interesting.

We all know how lazy guys are when it comes to texting and social networks. They wouldn’t bother posting a single thing if they were not interested in winning someone’s attention.

And if he’s constantly trying to take the best selfies and checking if someone liked his photo, then you have a problem.

If he does this, evidently he’s waiting for a specific like and approval from a specific person and when he gets it, he instantly becomes happy, like a child.

He can’t hide his happiness because he finally got what he was waiting for.

He’s avoiding you

He has no time for you. It’s the most obvious sign he’s trying to push you away.

Whenever you want to spend time with him, he remembers he has something to do. He’s going to make up any excuse just to escape from you.

Non solo ha smesso di uscire con te, ma anche di fare sesso con te.

Questo è sicuramente un segno ha qualcuno al suo fianco che va agli appuntamenti con lui.

You see, if a man avoids having sex with you, then something’s clearly not right.

If he avoids intimacy and physical contact, it probably means that he’s having all of this with someone else and he’s a coward to admit it to you.

Instead, he avoids you because deep down in his soul he knows that he’s being an asshole and he can’t stop being one.

He’s arguing with you more than ever

Of course, you’re getting paranoid and trying to find decent proof that he’s a cheater. It’s normal. But the way he acts when you touch his phone or his laptop is not normal.

He starts screaming at you like you’ve done the most horrible thing in the universe.

And while he’s screaming, he’s making up reasons as to why you can’t touch his stuff.

He’s saying how you’re not that good with tech and you could ruin some important project he’s working on.

It is clear that he’s keeping secrets from you.

It is normal to argue to a certain degree but if he turns into a beast every time you touch some of his stuff or ask him some questions, it is a huge red flag that he’s a cheater in disguise.

He reacts explosively because he’s afraid that you’ll uncover everything he’s been doing behind your back so far.

Sta facendo la vittima

Quando gli fate domande sui suoi spostamenti o su qualcosa di sospetto che ha fatto, non solo si sfoga con voi, ma inizia anche a fare la vittima.

He blames you for being too controlling even though he knows that it’s not true at all and that is the biggest sign and the answer to your question: How do I tell if he’s cheating?

By playing the victim, he is subconsciously trying to draw attention to another problem and that is ‘you being a control freak’.

Evita di parlare di tutto ciò che lo riguarda perché sa che le sue azioni potrebbero essere scoperte.

È il meccanismo di difesa più diffuso e naturale quando si tratta di tradire, mentire e simili.

If he’s playing the victim, you can be sure that he’s hiding something from you and he’s hiding it badly.

In situazioni come questa, l'unica cosa che potete fare è calmarvi, chiedergli di parlarvi più tardi quando sarà tornato in sé e prepararvi ad andarvene.

Victim games will only waste your time and life’s too short to spend it on a man who’s not worthy of your one second.

Cosa fare?

If all the indications are screaming that he’s cheating on you, don’t even bother trying to understand why.

Troppi "e se" non fanno altro che confondervi e creare scompiglio nella vostra mente. L'unica cosa che dovete ricordare è che non siete voi i colpevoli.

Whatever he might be doing, it is not because of you. He’s doing it because he’s too weak to be a real man and let you go instead of hurting you deliberately.

You should never blame yourself because you couldn’t do anything about it.

What you should be doing is trying to save yourself. Don’t let it get to you that much. It’s his fault that he doesn’t know how to be honest.

He should’ve broken up with you if he wanted to start something new. It is as simple as that.

L'unica cosa che potete fare ora è parlargli. Digli che sai cosa ti meriti.

You don’t need someone who is going to lie to you or disrespect you. If he’s tradirti then it’s time to leave him. Pack your things and don’t look back.

After all, if he truly loved you, he would have never done this to you. You don’t hurt those you love. You fight for them.