Come chiedere a un ragazzo di uscire: 8 consigli (+50 esempi)

Anche se sono fermamente convinta che le donne siano il sesso più coraggioso, la verità è che la maggior parte di noi è ancora terrorizzata di fare la prima mossa when we like someone. Even if we gather the courage to do so, we still don’t know come chiedere a un ragazzo di uscire.

We’re afraid that we might sound desperate or that our invitation may scare and drive him away.

Quindi, decidiamo di non fare nulla o di stare fermi ad aspettare che l'altra persona faccia la prima grande mossa.che, tra l'altro, è la cosa peggiore che possiamo fare.

The good news is that you don’t need a dating coach or relationship coaching service to help you out because, with just a few good tips, you’ll be ready to ask your guy friend or the guy you met on a dating app out. Of course, these tips are provided for you right here below.

Come chiedere a un ragazzo di uscire: 8 consigli

Inviting a guy you’ve been crushing on forever on a first date is a big deal for you, especially if it’s the first time you’re making the first move with a man. Frankly, it’s always a huge deal for us all.

That’s why I’ve left you this tiny guide here, so you do it perfectly and get a positive reaction/answer from the other person.

1. Fatelo quando vi sentite pronti

Just because you like him and want to go out on a date with him doesn’t mean you must invite him out ASAP. You need to take that step when you feel completely ready for it.

È necessario prima di tutto raccogliere le forze ed essere onesti con se stessi. Accettate che ci sono diversi modi in cui può finire e che potrebbe non piacervi la risposta che otterrete dall'altra persona.

2. Don’t make it a romantic date right away

If you immediately say that you’re inviting him on a romantic date, it may make you sound a bit desperate, which could make him run away. You need to simply ask him to hang out without being too obvious about the romantic feelings you’ve caught for him.

However, you shouldn’t emphasize that it’ll only be a friendly date because he might use you as la sua spalla in quella data. That will hurt you for sure, and that’s why you need to be careful about the way you invite him out. Of course, this is only if you like him romantically.

3. Chiedere informazioni sui suoi interessi

If you have any mutual friends, you should ask around about your crush’s whereabouts and hangouts. Cercate di scoprire quali sono i suoi interessi e cosa gli piace fare nel tempo libero.

That’s how you’ll be able to invite him on a date he won’t be able to reject. Ad esempio, se gli piace il basket o la musica dal vivo, potete rintracciare il suo artista preferito, la sua band o la sua squadra di basket e acquistare due biglietti per la partita o l'evento.

Then you simply tell him you have a spare ticket for that game or event and ask him to join you. He’ll be delighted and won’t have any other choice but to accept your offer.

4. Includere un orario specifico

Dovreste fissare il vostro invito con un orario specifico per due motivi.

First of all, it would be easier for him to answer immediately because he can check his plans for that day/time. And more importantly, you won’t make yourself too available or flexible, which is highly important when it comes to dating.

You should never make it too obvious to a man that you’re always there for him or that he can have you whenever he wants. That is a huge turnoff for almost every man, and it definitely won’t lead you anywhere but to a broken heart.

5. Potete dire che anche i vostri amici comuni sono invitati.

If you think he may reject your invitation because he’s too shy to be alone with you still, you can also invite some of your mutual friends and mention to him that they’re invited too.

That way, you’ll get him to accept your offer even if he isn’t into you, and you’ll get a chance to win him over at that hangout. The more hangouts you can get him to come to, the closer you’ll be to your final goal: to win him over once and for all.

6. Farlo di persona

Why not? Sure, it’s a lot easier to do it over text, but doing it in person will show your man that you’re brave enough to do it face-to-face even though you may be rejected, and it’ll also show him that you really care about him.

The fact is, we all don’t handle rejection very well, but forget about this tip if you’re an emotionally unstable or ragazza timida. Potreste iniziare a piangere dopo il suo rifiuto, e le vostre lacrime sono di gran lunga l'ultima cosa che dovete mostrare a un uomo che vi rifiuta.

7. Le pressioni e i ricatti emotivi sono un grande NO.

Il vostro unico compito è quello di invitarlo a uscire in modo normale ed educato. Don’t pressure him into immediately answering you because, trust me, it won’t end well.

Also, don’t ever say things like “it’ll break my heart if you don’t accept my invitation” or “please say yes because otherwise, you’ll make me sad!” This is emotional blackmail, and it’s one of the things men hate the most.

8. Don’t despair if he doesn’t agree immediately

Your man may immediately accept your invitation, but he may also reject it or leave you waiting for an answer. You need to be prepared that the last two options are also on the table for as long as he doesn’t give you a real answer.

If you get one of them, you shouldn’t despair because it doesn’t have to mean that your story ends there. Maybe he’ll reach out to you after a while and accept your invitation after all.

Even if that doesn’t happen, it still doesn’t mean that the world has ended. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, and one of them will be more than happy to go out on a date with you.

Come chiedere a un ragazzo di uscire via messaggio? 50 esempi

For all of you who always choose the practical over theory, I’ve compiled this list of the best text examples to ask a guy out. With these texts and the tips above, you most definitely won’t sound desperate, and your crush will have no choice but to accept your invitation.

1. I’m going to the mall. Wanna come with me?

2. I was going to go to the art exhibit that’s in town right now. Wanna come with me?

3. Ti va di andare a pattinare sul ghiaccio venerdì dopo la scuola? Ho sentito che la pista di pattinaggio in centro è fantastica!

4. Quali giorni sei libero di solito? Ti va di uscire qualche volta?

5. Ti va di andare a prendere un caffè qualche volta?

6. Volete incontrarvi per una sessione di studio in biblioteca dopo il lavoro?

7. Dovremmo incontrarci qualche volta!

8. Ti va di rilassarti a casa mia dopo il lavoro qualche volta?

9. Cosa fai stasera? Vuoi andare a prendere una birra?

10. Ti piacerebbe venire a giocare a bowling con me questo sabato?

11. I’m going to go see (some band) when they come to town in three weeks. Live music is always fun, and tickets are cheap. Want to come with me?

12. Volete fare un giro in bicicletta lungo il fiume dopo il lavoro?

13. Amico, dobbiamo uscire insieme un giorno.

14. It’s so nice outside I’ve decided to go for a walk. Want to join me?

15. Questo fine settimana vado a sciare con i miei amici. Vuoi unirti a noi? Abbiamo un posto in più.

16. Dovremmo incontrarci presto al di fuori delle lezioni/lavoro.

17. My phone’s been acting weird all day. I gotta go to the mall to see if they can fix it. Want to keep me company?

18. Cosa fate questa domenica mattina? Volete allenarvi insieme?

19. I haven’t been to the movies in forever! Let’s go someday.

20. This is pretty last minute, but I’m in your area tonight with some of my friends. Would you care to grab some drinks with us?

21. Vuoi venire a fare un picnic e un falò sulla spiaggia? Ho invitato un po' di persone, quindi dovrebbe essere divertente!

22. Volete mangiare qualcosa per cena questo venerdì?

23. Volevo invitarti a cena. Che ne dici di stasera?

24. Vuoi venire a giocare ai videogiochi? Si uniranno a noi anche alcuni miei amici, quindi sarà molto divertente.

25. Cosa fate questo fine settimana? Hai qualche programma? Stavo pensando di andare alla prima di quel nuovo film, ti andrebbe di venire con me?

26. Am I horrible if I say my desk is the most boring place in the world? I’m going for a coffee break in about 15 minutes. You should come along.

27. Vuoi andare in spiaggia questo fine settimana?

28. There’s a concert next Monday at 7. Do you want to come with me?

29. Vuoi andare a prendere un gelato? C'è un nuovo posto vicino alla nostra scuola che voglio provare.

30. So, tell me: how does dinner at my place sound? FYI, I’m a good cook.

31. Ehi, vuoi venire a vedere quel nuovo ristorante con me venerdì?

32. Ti va di vederci per un brunch domenica?

33. Vuoi unirti a me e ad Ashley per un paio di drink dopo il lavoro?

34. Since it appears you may not be asking me out anytime soon, can I ask you out instead? (Only for the bravest women among you 😁)

35. Hey, I’ve got this work party I have to go to, do you wanna be my wingman for it?

36. Cosa fate questo fine settimana? Vuoi fare un'escursione?

37. Hey, I’m having some friends over to watch the Olympics this weekend. Feel free to join us!

38. Venerdì vado a fare surf. Vuoi venire con me?

39. This calls for drinks! Let’s meet up somewhere Friday night to celebrate.

40. There’s a free yoga class at the park this Saturday that I’m going to. You should come with me!

41. Vuoi venire da me per un po' e aiutarmi a studiare?

42. Ehi! Un gruppo di noi va a mangiare una pizza e a bere qualcosa questo venerdì sera. Ti va di venire?

43. We’ve been having some good weather lately. Good enough for a picnic. Want to meet up in the park on Sunday?

44. I’m going to the park with my new puppy, want to join me?

45. I’d kill for a coffee right now. Do you want to hit that new coffee shop with me?

46. I’m having a party on Saturday. Do you want to come?

47. Oh, by the way, I’m going to the museum in the city this weekend. Feel free to join.

48. Questo fine settimana faccio un barbecue. Ti va di venire?

49. Hey, feel free to say no, but I’m going to an ‘80s night at this bar tonight if you wanna join!

50. Vuoi incontrarci per una pizza e dei giochi?

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Alla fine

Now you know how to ask a guy to hang out, and you’re also equipped with the best text examples to do so. Gather the courage and finally make the first move.

Trust me, you’ll regret it if you don’t. Even if you get rejected, it may hurt in the beginning, but later on, you’ll realize that you’ve done the right thing by inviting them out. At least you know it’s not up to you.

Otherwise, if you don’t invite him out, you’ll stay curious forever about what could have happened if you were only brave enough to ask him out.

Good luck, even though I’m pretty sure you don’t even need it because you’ll sweep your man off his feet instantly. He’ll fall for your bravery and the fact you had the guts to make the first move. However, I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you. 🤞