Come mantenere una conversazione con un ragazzo: 15 metodi infallibili

You’ve finally started a thing with the guy you’ve been into for a while and you booked yourself a primo appuntamento!

You’ve been sms avanti e indietro e attraverso social media, you’ve been having a grande conversazione.

It all seems potentially promising, but you’re going to be meeting him for the prima volta faccia a faccia and you’re dreading the potential imbarazzo.

Vorresti poter continuare ad avere un conversazione interessante – a witty messaggio di testo is one thing, but what if he’s not a natural conversatore?

E se il messaggio goes south and you realize you’re not exactly in possession of grandi capacità di conversazione o?

Attraverso conversazione di testo, he seems like a worthy candidate, but what if in reality he doesn’t have a senso dell'umorismo? You couldn’t live with that.

E se avesse zero argomenti interessanti di cui discutere e che ti fa venire voglia di sbroccare entro 10 minuti? 

You’d rather let the wormhole eat you up than share an silenzio imbarazzante un'altra volta. 

Non poter avere un buona conversazione è un rompiscatole. If he can’t give you that, you’re going to have a tempo difficile accettare un secondo appuntamento!

So now, you’re trying to figure out if there’s a way to keep the conversazione in corso ed evitare il più possibile i temuti silenzi. Sms è bello e tutto, ma è in grado di tenere il passo faccia a faccia?

God knows you can’t handle another shitty date, so you’d rather avoid dating altogether than suffer through another horrible blind date.

Those days are behind you and it’s time to find a good guy worthy of your precious time.

Good thing you’re here, then! Once you’re done reading this, the only problem you’ll be having is how to make yourself fermarsi parlare una volta che ci si incontra! 

(And that’s a good problem to have.)

Come mantenere una conversazione con un ragazzo?

It’s only natural to be a little anxious when meeting a guy you like, especially for the prima volta. Volete che il chimica testuale to translate to real life and there’s nothing wrong with that.

But it’s also important to realize that faccia a faccia conversation is much more challenging, so you shouldn’t put so much pressure on yourself.

This is a person who likes you just as much as you like him and he’s probably dreading the very same things!

Entrambi siete ansiosi di fare la migliore impressione possibile, il che mette una pressione pazzesca su entrambi.

So my first piece of advice would be to relax and stop taking this too seriously or you’ll drive yourself mad.

This is not that complicated. If you click, you click, and if you don’t, there are no spunti di conversazione che potrebbe salvare un tipo di chimica zero.

But while you figure out if you’re vibing or not, there are plenty of modi eccellenti per fare un tentativo concreto.

And today, I’m going to be your own personal guide in helping you get your la propria vita e far sì che questo ragazzo si strugga per voi in men che non si dica.

Ci sono alcuni esempi di domande aperte che potete iniziare e che vi aiuteranno nel flusso naturale della conversazione.

Si può sempre flirt innocently as you’re talking and distract him with your gorgeous looks.

Contatto visivo è fondamentale per mantenere il conversazione in corso (insieme a linguaggio del corpo, but we’ll get into that later), as well as having a nuovo argomento to fall on if the first one doesn’t do the trick.

Nessuna pressione e una mente aperta sono una combinazione potente.

Don’t expect to become migliori amici turned lovers within hours. Chemistry takes time. If you’re both vibing textually, let it happen organically when you’re faccia a faccia.

Here’s how you can ease the atmosphere once you meet up, and keep the conversazione in corso in modo del tutto naturale ed efficace con il solo domande giuste. Prendere un respiro profondo e rilassarsi. Ecco a voi.

1. Don’t force it if there’s no conversational chemistry

La prima regola per mantenere un conversazione in corso with a guy is to NOT force it if you’re not clicking and the vibe is off.

Remember. you’re not going to click with everybody you meet and that’s the most normal thing to expect.

Just like you’re not friends with every single person that has ever entered your life, you’re not going to find what you’re looking for in every guy you meet.

If the conversation keeps falling flat, you’re not feeling his vibe AT ALL, and the imbarazzo could eat you alive, there’s honestly no resurrecting it from the dead.

Finish up the date, be polite, and excuse yourself as fast as you can. If you’re not feeling it, it’s not supposed to be. 

Una semplice conversazione non dovrebbe richiedere tanto sforzo.

Certo, c'è sempre un po' di silenzio imbarazzante as you’re breaking the ice, but eventually it’s supposed to get going and become easier as you go along.

If there’s absolutely nothing to go on, save yourself the trouble and call it a night.

2. Essere sinceramente interessati a conoscerlo

Don’t go into this wanting to make it all about you. You have to understand that this guy has dreams, ambitions, and hobbies you’re not necessarily going to be into, but that shouldn’t stop you from getting to know him.

You have to be interested in all aspects of him if you want to make it work and vice versa! So what if he’s insanely obsessed with videogiochi, you have your hobbies too that I’m SURE wouldn’t be his cup of tea.

Lasciatelo conquistarvi con le sue parole e incoraggiatelo a dirvi cosa lo spinge ad alzarsi ogni mattina. Imparate a conoscerlo. Scoprite cosa lo fa scattare e quali sono le sue cosa preferita del mondo!

That’s the basis of any grande conversazione. Lasciate che l'altro condivida apertamente e siate pronti a impegnarvi nella conversazione se vi aspettate che ricambi.

Lasciate che vi parli del suo squadra preferita (basketball or football, it doesn’t really matter) and talk about your film preferiti! And before you know it, you’ll be in a deep conversation completely smitten with each other.

3. Ascoltare per capire, NON per rispondere

Questo è un aspetto fondamentale in ogni buona conversazione. Le persone sono così impegnate ad aspettare il proprio turno per parlare che ascoltano solo per rispondere, invece di ascoltare per ottenere informazioni reali sulla persona.

Don’t be that girl. Don’t just sit around, waiting for your turn to talk.

Listen to him when he’s talking about something and always use the phrase ”tDimmi di più” to make him feel like he’s not talking to a wall.

People need to feel like they’re being paid attention to.

Imagine how you’d feel if you were opening your soul to a person and all he does is nod his head and as soon as you’re finished he starts blurting out something about himself.

I’m sure that would make you feel so low and unappreciated. So make sure to never do that to a guy.

Listen, engage, and participate. That way, it’ll go both ways.

4. Chiedetegli quali sono le sue cose preferite

You know how you just can’t shut your mouth when someone asks you about that one thing you’re deeply passionate about?

It just excites you too much and there’s so much you want to share!

Lo stesso vale per il vostro primo appuntamento con questo ragazzo. Lasciate che la conversazione vi porti in un luogo in cui lui si senta totalmente a suo agio nel condividere le sue passioni con voi e lasciate che vi racconti tutto.

Firstly, it’s going to make him so happy to talk about something he genuinely loves. And secondly, it’s going to be so enjoyable listening to a guy you like talk about something with such joy and zest.

It’s definitely going to make you innamorarsi di lui molto più facile! 

E così facendo, la conversazione scorrerà semplicemente come un fiume.

You can exchange your dreams and share your experiences while encouraging the other person to feel relaxed sharing this with you, knowing you’re davvero che si interessano.

5. Don’t let the occasional silence discourage you

Sì, c'è volontà occasionali momenti di silenzio imbarazzante, It happens. It’s your primo appuntamento and you’re literally just getting to know each other. Don’t expect miracles on your first try.

You’re not robots and at some point, the conversation is going to come to its natural end and you’ll be scratching your head for a few seconds in panic.

Ma indovinate un po'? Che doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with the guy or that you should give up. It means that you’re human and you’re only starting up something together.

There will be bumps in the road and little hiccups now and again, but if the vibe is right and the guy is nice to be around, you’re not going to throw in the towel.

As the days go by and you’re getting more emotionally attached, it’s going to feel SO much easier filling in those pesky silent moments.

You just have to grow into it, like every couple does. It’s normal and if you’re really feeling this guy, keep working on it and don’t give up just when it’s started.

6. Ripetere l'ultima cosa che ha detto

Here’s a cool tip on how to keep a conversazione in corso with a guy. If you’re struggling to find a new argomento interessante di cui parlare, basta ripetere l'ultima cosa che ha detto!

If he’s talking about some crazy adventures he was on or a dangerous hobby he loves so much, repeat the last sentence as if in disbelief.

He’s going to respond with a little smile on his face and expand on the topic. It’s such a silly thing but it works. It makes the guy feel like the man and it gives you a chance to come up with something interesting to say next.

This will him give him a push that he needs and make him feel like you’re not bored with his stories.

7. Chiedetegli del suo background familiare

Get to know him by asking about his childhood memories. But don’t pry too much. See if he’s willing to open up about it and if so, ask him about what he remembers from when he was young and what his upbringing was like.

Ha fratelli e sorelle? Sono vicini e cosa amano fare quando si incontrano? Vivono lontano ed è difficile separarsi da loro?

This will make him feel nostalgic and eager to share because who doesn’t get emotional and happy to share family stories about the people closest to him in the world?

In questo modo si manterrà il conversazione in corso so smoothly that you’ll forget you’re on a primo appuntamento and feel like you’ve known him for a while.

And when it starts feeling so homey and comfy being around him, you just know you’re with a bravo ragazzo.

8. Che cosa fa e lo soddisfa?

What does he do for a living? Is it something he dreamed of since he was a kid or was it a job he needed in order to pay the bills while he’s searching for something more in his lane?

Ogni volta che la conversazione inizia a fluttuare, potete chiedergli del lavoro! Praticamente ogni persona adulta ha un lavoro e probabilmente un milione di storie che potrebbe raccontarvi su tutte le sue esperienze lavorative.

Ask him about his favorite project he’s worked on and the one he hated the most. Does he have funny work anecdotes? Perhaps a funny colleague he does a perfect imitation of?

Maybe he’s the fun guy at the office who keeps the atmosphere light and joyful so you can ask him about his secrets.

Bottom line – there are a million and one work-related things you can discuss. After all, your job takes up half of your day! Surely, there are plenty of things to talk about there.

9. Condividere le proprie storie 

It’s a good start getting the guy to talk about him and his dreams in life. But don’t neglect yourself! He also wants to know everything about you so be prepared to open up as well.

Mantenete la conversazione calda e piacevole condividendo aneddoti leggeri e divertenti e storie della vostra vita.

Tell him about your family, friends, and workplace. Share your awkward moments that will make you both laugh and let him know you don’t take life too seriously.

Be light and fun and don’t be afraid to make fun of yourself. That’s what guys look for in a girl.

Qualcuno con a senso dell'umorismo che sanno ridere di se stessi senza prendere nulla sul personale.

Life’s an adventure and there’s no point being serious all the time.

A grande conversazione nasce da aneddoti divertenti e imbarazzanti che allentano la pressione e fanno sentire l'altra persona abbastanza a suo agio da condividere i propri.

10. Invitarlo con il linguaggio del corpo

Linguaggio del corpo è importante quanto le parole che escono dalla vostra bocca. Se sembrate disinteressati e chiusi, il ragazzo si sentirà rifiutato.

But there’s a simple solution there, too. For starters, don’t cross your arms as you’re talking as it feels like you’re being defensive and judgmental.

Rather keep your arms on your legs or in an open position where anything he says feels like it’s being received openly. 

Secondly, don’t be looking around the room as he’s sharing a story.

Mantenere la retta via contatto visivo (but don’t forget to blink, girl!) and make him see you’re there. Smile every now and then (nothing forced) and keep a relaxed posture.

This is not a job interview, you’re on a date with a guy you really like, so act like it.

It’s supposed to be chill and relaxed, so don’t give him the 20 questions treatment and let him talk as you’re carefully listening and looking him in the eye.

11. Lasciare un'aria di mistero

Don’t be too available too soon. Let the man vuole conoscervi sempre di più ogni volta che vi vede.

It’s good to share, but always leave a little something to the imagination. That way, he’ll keep coming back for more.

He needs to see that you’re an intriguing enigma that keeps on giving, but if he wants to know more, he’d better make an effort to get you to share.

It’s supposed to be a little playful situation where you both win. You keep him hooked with your flirtatious stories and abilità di conversazionema lasciate sempre spazio per altri.

That’s an modo eccellente per fargli percepire la vostra personalità eccentrica e civettuola che lo attirerà.

12. Evitare i temi delicati fin dall'inizio

Se volete sapere come mantenere un conversazione in corso con un ragazzo, lasciate che vi dica la prima cosa da non fare.

Don’t get into sensitive subjects way too soon (ex fidanzati, money, politics… you name it) and you’ll be well on your way.

People don’t want to hear all about your sad breakup story on your primo appuntamento.

And this guy certainly didn’t invite you to dinner (or his place) to discuss politics and get into a heated discussion in case your views clash.

So scratch all that and keep it light, warm, and fun. That’s what the first few dates should be all about!

Getting to know each other and testing out the air. Seeing if there’s a click and if so, deepening your chemistry and having a good time together while your relationship progresses.

Tali soggetti (quelli già citati) are for later on when you’ve established what you are and already have that type of relationship where you can discutere di argomenti controversi senza che questo influisca sulla vostra relazione.

13. Don’t complain

La cosa peggiore che potete fare è fargli credere che potete lamentarvi di qualsiasi cosa.

È questa la prima impressione che volete lasciare? Invece di trovare qualcosa di cui lamentarsi, trovate qualcosa su cui essere d'accordo e un terreno comune.

Lasciate le cose pesanti per dopo. Questa è la vostra unica occasione per fare la migliore impressione, quindi usatela con saggezza.

I’m talking from my own experience. Guys are truly put off by negativity and bitchiness. Leave him discover that side of you once you’re knee-deep in your relationship.

Be mindful of your habit of judging stuff you don’t really get. Be open-minded as opposed to judgy and critical.

The guy will not want to go on a second date if you’re nagging about all kinds of stuff.

It’s unappealing and you’re better than that. It’s all about light topics, positive vibes, and fun banter!

14. Ponetegli domande divertenti e stimolanti

Pretend you live in a world where anything you wanted could become reality! Now ask him about the things he’d choose if he had a say in every single thing that happens from then on.

Per esempio, se potesse scegliere un luogo qualsiasi della Terra dove teletrasportarsi in questo momento, dove andrebbe e perché?

Se potesse fare di ogni celebrità il suo migliore amicoChi sarebbe? Cambierebbe qualcosa di sé se potesse?

What’s the one food he’d have every single day delivered to his door if he could?

Avete capito bene. Vivete in un mondo di fantasia e scoprite tutto ciò che gli piace e non gli piace, le sue preferenze e le cose che lo scoraggiano.

In un certo senso, questo vi dirà tutto quello che dovete sapere su di lui. Provate!

15. Fare un complimento

Everyone likes to hear a nice thing about themself, that’s just a fact, and guys aren’t immune to this. Just because they act as if they don’t care to be complimented, it doesn’t make it true.

Tenendo presente questo aspetto, trovate una cosa genuina per cui complimentarvi con lui e fatelo in modo non forzato e organico.

If when you’re talking, you notice how his dimples get so visible when he gives you an honest smile, tell him that!

He’s going to blush a bit, but he’ll be pleased to hear a compliment, especially about something he can’t even control!

E questo potrebbe essere un ottimo spunto di conversazione if you need one. Even if you’re smspotete sempre condividere un complimento genuino e fare in modo che il ragazzo sentirsi così bene su se stesso.

I complimenti non passano mai di moda e contribuiscono sempre a mantenere la conversazione in corso. So keep that in mind next time you need a trick up your sleeve. It’s simple, kind, and very effective in disarming a person.

Pensieri finali

Trovare un bravo ragazzo con cui instaurare una relazione stabile, matura e divertente è già abbastanza impegnativo di per sé.

Ma trovare un modo per mantenere il conversazione in corso durante i primi appuntamenti è un gioco completamente diverso.

A volte i nervi prendono il sopravvento e ci si blocca.

Other times, you’re so eager to say so much that you end up talking all over yourself and making zero sense.

And it’s all perfectly normal – expected even. So many women around the globe go through the exact same thing every single day.

And I’m here to wash away your worries and make you see that you’ve got this!

I’ve collected some of the most effective things you can take into consideration if you truly want to know how to keep a conversazione in corso con un ragazzo.

There are so many options out there, that I truly believe the only problem you’ll have is having too much fun exploring all these tips!

Dating should be light and fun, so always keep it that way. It’s not a job and nobody is grading you.

You’re there to find a guy who’ll compliment your quirky side and balance you out with his mild demeanor.

Try out these 15 awesome ideas and see for yourself that dating isn’t as bad as you have it pictured in your head!

It’ll be a fun ride, but not without its bumps in the road. So remember, just because it isn’t smooth sailing, it doesn’t mean it isn’t right.

Le cose migliori della vita richiedono impegno, tempo e pazienza.