Come riconquistare l'ex fidanzato: 6 modi per avere successo

You probably don’t know it but getting your ex-boyfriend back is actually one of the easiest things to accomplish. It is a piece of cake when you turn off your emotions and when you learn how to play your cards right aka come fargli rimpiangere di averti persa.

E noi siamo qui per insegnarvi proprio questo. Siamo qui per guidarvi attraverso 6 passi da compiere se volete tornare con il vostro ex senza sembrare disperati.

1. Don’t reach out

Quando il vostro ragazzo vi lascia, la prima cosa che volete fare è chiamarlo e dirgli quanto vi manca. Il primo impulso che avete è quello di raggiungerlo e di fare tutto ciò che è in vostro potere per riaverlo.

E questo è il primo errore che la maggior parte di noi commette durante il fasi di rottura. First of all, even if this succeeds, you will only send him the message that he can do whatever the hell he wants and whenever the hell he wants and that you’ll always be right there where he left you, waiting for him.

Secondly, you’ll just look desperate and needy. Besides losing your dignity, you’ll also make him see that he can have you whenever he wishes and you are sending him the message that he shouldn’t be paura di perderti.

When you set things up like this, you are actually giving your ex a heads up to try some new things and to see if he can make it without you because you’ll be there when or if he ever decides to come back. You are telling him that he didn’t lose anything when he left you.

So please, don’t call him or send him essay-long texts, telling him how much you love and miss him. I know you want to remind him of all of your good times right away after he leaves you but this is something you shouldn’t do if you want this guy back.

2. Nessun contatto

Avete mai sentito parlare del regola del divieto di contatto? Si tratta di un metodo collaudato con il quale si tagliano tutti i legami con il proprio ex per 30 giorni di fila. E quando dico tutti i legami, intendo letteralmente tutti i legami.

That means that you should spend the next month completely ignoring the fact that this man has ever existed in your life. You can’t call him or text him. You can’t post songs or status updates about things which remind you of him. You can’t hang out with his friends or family and you can’t go out to the places where you’ll know you could see him.

Sì, so che sembra impossibile da fare, soprattutto ora che morite dalla voglia di vederlo o di sentire qualcosa di lui, ma è qualcosa che si può e si deve fare. Potreste pensare di essere spariti dal suo cuore una volta spariti dalla sua vista, ma la verità è ben diversa.

This way, you’ll give this guy a chance to miss you. You’ll give him a chance to wonder what you’ve been up to and to think about you. Remember—distance only makes hearts grow fonder.

3. Pensare alle cose che sono andate male

During this no contact phase, you’ll have some time to cool your head off and to think about your relationship realistically, for the first time ever. This is the time in which you have to take off your rose-tinted glasses and put some effort into seeing this man clearly.

Perché vi siete davvero lasciati? Quali sono le cose che si sarebbero potute fare per evitare la rottura? Quali sono stati i vostri errori nella relazione? Quali sono stati gli errori di lui? Come potreste lavorare entrambi per migliorare la vostra relazione se lui tornasse da voi?

These are all the questions you need to find answers to now. But the most important question you need to answer yourself is: Is this worth it? I know you love this guy and that you are dying to have him back but you need to ask yourself if he is really worthy of you. Is he the man you want to build your future with or is it that your ego simply can’t stand the fact that ti ha lasciato?

Questa volta le cose possono andare meglio? O i due faranno la stessa fine, anche se tornate insieme?

4. Concentrarsi su se stessi

When you’ve responded to all of these questions and you are still certain that you want this man back in your life, it’s time for the next step. And no, the next step doesn’t include you calling him and crying how much you want things to be the way they were, even though I know this is probably something you wish to do.

Il passo successivo è concentrarsi su se stessi. Sì, volete che questo ragazzo torni, ma queste cose richiedono tempo. E invece di stare a casa ad aspettare che lui si ricordi di voi, usate questo tempo e dedicatelo a voi stesse.

First of all, you’ll feel much better about yourself if you start investing your energy into making yourself look and feel better. Read a book or go get a mani and a pedi—whatever makes you happy and whatever takes your mind off your ex.

Secondly, you’ll send him a better and more positive vibe. I know that you aren’t doing anything for him to conclude that you desperately want reconciliation but trust me, he’ll feel it if you spend all your days thinking of him. And when you start focusing more on yourself and less on him, your ex will feel that your energy has shifted and he’ll automatically start considering you more desirable.

5. Lasciate che venga da voi

So, it has been a month and you’ve managed to stick to the no contact rule. You haven’t spoken to this guy ever since the two of you broke things off and you haven’t done anything for him to think that you want him back.

Well, enough time has passed and it’s time to change this. No, this is not the moment in which you’ll admit to him that you’ve been missing him all this time nor the moment in which you’ll directly ask him to get back together.

Questo è il momento in cui dovete lasciate che venga da voi and the time in which he starts chasing you, if you play your cards right. I am sure you are wondering how to accomplish that.Well, now you have to reappear in this man’s life and heart. But you have to find a way to do it discreetly and for it to appear unintentional.

Potete contattarlo per qualcosa di cui avete bisogno, senza nemmeno accennare alla vostra riconciliazione. Potete iniziare a presentarvi nei luoghi che frequenta abitualmente o a mandargli segnali sui vostri sentimenti per lui.

6. Stabilire i termini

If you’ve accomplished all of these steps the right way, trust me—this man will tornare da te and he’ll be the first one to talk about getting back together. And when this finally happens, you should never be desperate enough to accept everything and to agree about everything with him just to have him back.

Instead, start acting like reconciliation is just an option to you. It is something you will think about. Yes, you will be happy to have him back in your life but it doesn’t mean that you can’t live without him and it definitely doesn’t mean that you want this guy back at any cost.

Set the terms and conditions about your old-new relationship. This will make it much more successful and it will show your soon-to-be boyfriend that he can’t play with you the way he wants.