Cosa attrae una donna in un uomo a prima vista? 14 punti chiave

If you asked ten women to think of the first thing they notice in a man, you’d probably get eight or nine different answers. But is it really that complicated to find out what attracts a woman to a man at first sight?

Ogni donna vi darà una risposta diversa, perché non esistono due donne uguali, quindi ognuna è attratta da cose e qualità diverse. Ad alcune piacciono i ragazzi secchioni, ad altre quelli sportivi; ci sono quelle che amano i ragazzi carini e quelle che preferiscono i tipi seri.

Ma tutte le donne hanno una cosa in comune: A tutte piace un ragazzo genuino che sfrutta al meglio ciò che ha e la cui compagnia è piacevole. Here’s how you can become a man who’s attractive to women at first sight.

Cosa attrae una donna in un uomo a prima vista?

The type of person someone finds attractive depends on their taste, dating history, age, sexual preferences, lifestyle – everything you can think of influences what we’re attracted to.

Most people aren’t so superficial as to be attracted to nothing but looks, but even to those who are, there’s always something that makes one good-looking person more attractive than another.

What attracts a woman to a man at first sight? Women like men who have that “something” that’s difficult to put into words, but what is it? It’s a combination of qualities that together create a whole that’s more than the sum of its parts and lead to attrazione magnetica tra due persone.

The good news is, most of those qualities are something a man can work on and improve. So let’s dive in.

1. Il volto

Let’s get it out of the way: your face is the make-or-break quality when it comes to attraction. La prima cosa che una donna nota di un uomo è il suo viso. If she likes your face, you’re halfway there.

So how not to get eliminated because of your face? You’re born with it, and short of going under the knife, what can you do with it? Potete mostrarle la persona che si cela dietro il volto. If your face isn’t immediately attractive to her, you’ll have to get her to give you a second glance.

Perché il viso è la cosa più importante?

Think about a girl you like – her face is probably the first thing that comes to mind. Is her face cute, or elegant, or striking, or does she have that girl-next-door kind of look? It’s not unusual to like a girl’s features, but the reason why you prefer her face is that it leaves a certain impression.

Le ragazze notano il vostro viso perché parla di chi siete. Features alone aren’t what makes a girl like a guy, but the impression his face makes. 

What if there’s a discrepancy between what you’re like and what your face looks like? Do you have a resting angry face, but you wouldn’t hurt a fly?

In questo caso, potete rilassare il viso o sorridere di più o cercare di curare in qualche modo il vostro sguardo inespressivo, ma it’s better to be yourself and give women the benefit of the doubt that they won’t judge you until they get to know you.

If your face doesn’t immediately show off your qualities, let her know what you’re like in other ways.

2. Sorriso

A smile can change a scary face into a kind one, but if it’s not genuine, it can also make you look even scarier. So don’t fake a smile! There’s nothing more inviting than a real, warm smile.

The sight of a dimple can make a girl feel the butterflies in her stomach and twirl her hair while smiling back at you. Even if you think your smile is goofy, don’t suppress it. Quando si sorride si diventa più attraenti, ma anche sorridere fa sentire più felici.

The key to a winsome smile is that it must be inspired by your real feelings. The smile that makes all the ladies swoon is one that makes your eyes scrunch, glittering with joy, the corners of your mouth lifting helplessly as you look at her. A fake smile makes you look like 😬️

It doesn’t have to be a huge, toothy smile, but it has to come from the heart. How to achieve that? Be present in the moment. Enjoy being where you are. Look at her and feel grateful that you get to do so. Feel happy in your skin – you’re an attractive guy who likes his life and there’s an amazing woman in front of you.

3. Occhi

Women immediately notice your eyes because that’s where it’s all happening: your mood, your feelings, your thoughts; it’s all in your eyes. Your eyes tell her what you’re like and reveal your personality more than anything else.

Have you ever wondered why some people seem cold and others seem inviting and friendly? Even if she can’t tell what’s so magnetic about your eyes, she’ll be drawn to them if you let your eyes show who you are.

Il contatto visivo è il punto in cui attrazione emotiva inizia. When you look into her eyes, you show her what you feel and what you want. She’s drawn to the person she sees in your eyes. Attraction is not about the shape or the color of your eyes but about what looking into your eyes reveals to her.

4. La toelettatura

Si ha una sola possibilità di fare una prima impressione e non si può mai sapere quando la ragazza dei propri sogni si troverà dietro l'angolo. If you always look your best, you don’t risk blowing your one chance of making her fall for you.

I’m not saying that you should wear your best clothes all the time or always have perfect hair. What I mean is that you should consistently take care of your grooming so that you’re never a mess. Le donne vogliono uomini che si prendano cura di se stessi.

Apparire al meglio significa cose diverse per persone diverse, ma 10 donne su 10 concordano sul fatto che la pulizia è necessaria.

Le basi della cura di sé

This is basic, so I hope you already know, but being a rugged, smelly guy isn’t attractive. Shower daily. Always wear clean clothes. Take care of your teeth meticulously.

Alcune donne amano la barba, altre preferiscono un look rasato, ma tutte apprezzano il fatto che vi prendiate cura dei vostri peli facciali. Tenetelo in ordine. Tagliate le unghie e curate la pelle.

Liberatevi dall'idea che la cura della pelle sia solo per le donne. To keep your skin healthy, at least use a cleanser and moisturizer daily, and if you want to make yourself look good – and feel good! – include other products as well.

Essere accurati nella cura del proprio corpo vi farà apparire più belli, ma vi farà anche imparare ad apprezzarvi di più. Self-care raises self-esteem, and when you look at yourself in the mirror and know that you’ve made an effort, it will give you confidence.

5. Dettagli sexy

There are a few little things women notice about men that aren’t crucial when it comes to attraction but that make a guy extra sexy. These little details contribute to his sex appeal, but they’re really just a cherry on top.

In other words, if a guy is obnoxious and disrespectful, they won’t give him any points, but if he’s a good guy who makes an effort, they can catapult him to the next level of attractiveness.

Profumo

This could have been included in the grooming section, but it’s separate because it’s a step above basic self-care and something women specifically find attractive in a man. Un uomo che ha un buon profumo può davvero far svenire una donna.

When a guy has a sexy scent, a girl notices it immediately. Find a cologne or perfume you like and up your sexiness game by leaps and bounds! Just please don’t forget that, in the case of scent, less is more, so go easy and be subtle.

Capelli

Hair is one of the things women notice as soon as they see a guy. Some women don’t care about what your hair looks like exactly and others have strong preferences, but all of them notice whether or not you’re taking care of your hair.

Un'acconciatura che vi si addice, ben curata e attenta, contribuisce molto all'impressione che date di voi. Even if that hairstyle is no hair at all, if you carry it with confidence and keep it neat, your hair – or lack thereof – is a part of your style and vibe.

Le mani

Guys, I don’t know if this is a secret we’re keeping from you or if you know, but your hands make girls bite their lips and wonder how those hands feel. Potete essere certi che una donna noterà le vostre mani anche prima del primo appuntamento.

Your hands can be big or small, soft or rough, elegant or stubby – there are as many preferences as there are girls, but trust me when I say that girls are going to like your hands regardless of their type. Keep your fingernails clean and let her see your hands, and that’s it!

Voce

Le ragazze amano i ragazzi con una voce sexy e il modo in cui parlate contribuisce alla vostra attrattiva più di quanto possiate pensare. Pensate a qualcuno con una voce straordinaria e pensate a che impressione farebbe se parlasse in modo completamente diverso.

Come avere una voce sexy? Controllare il volume, rallentare e rilassarsi. Don’t gasp for air – make a pause when you run out of breath. You don’t need to pretend that your voice is deeper or smoother than it is; just use your voice intentionally.

6. Corpo

I tratti della personalità sono una parte cruciale dell'attrazione, ma sarebbe falso ignorare che l'attrazione fisica è importante in the same amount. Both of these types of attraction can be improved if you work on yourself, so don’t worry if you’re not happy with your physical features.

Lots of men have the wrong picture of what girls find attractive when it comes to a guy’s body. Un uomo dalla mascella squadrata, un muscoloso GQ o qualsiasi altro stereotipo da cui gli uomini credono che le donne siano attratte non ha nulla a che vedere con il tipo di uomo da cui la maggior parte delle donne è attratta.

Women prefer regular guys who treat them well. That’s all there is to it.

Of course, women like guys who look good and take care of their bodies, but you don’t have to be a fitness model to be attractive. If you respect your body and treat it well, it shows not only in the way you look but also in your posture and the way you carry yourself.

Curate il più possibile il vostro aspetto e le donne si interesseranno a voi. As I mentioned in the beginning, it’s all about the effort.

7. Altezza

Height. A sore subject for many men. The never-ending discussion people are always obsessing over. I’m sure you’ve heard a variation of “If you’re under 6’, don’t apply.” Height is to men what weight is to women: the one thing people feel it’s okay to hate on.

So let me tell you the same thing I tell chubby girls who have been told they’d be cute if they lost a little weight: Se vi piace qualcuno e vi dice che questa cosa conta più di tutto il resto di voi, quella persona sarebbe sbagliata per voi anche se foste più magri o più alti.

Ho incluso l'altezza tra le cose che le donne notano perché perché lo notano.

Perché alcune donne solo attratta da ragazzi alti?

The standard answers you’ll hear are: because his size makes him seem physically stronger and more capable of protecting them, so they feel safe. Or, they like to feel delicate and feminine next to their men.

Ma lasciatemi dire la verità. La maggior parte delle ragazze che solo come i ragazzi più alti di loro credono negli stereotipi. She’s been taught that the guy is supposed to be taller than the girl, and she’s not questioning it. 

A girl who has a very strict preference for tall guys isn’t thinking about you as an individual. It has far less to do with attrazione sessuale di quanto sembri.

So don’t let your height stop you from approaching a woman. If you’re a similar height to hers, taller or shorter, go for it. If she rejects you for something as superficial as your height, it’s her loss and you’ve dodged a bullet.

If your height is a deal-breaker, what are this girl’s priorities? You don’t need that in your life.

8. Stile

Obviously, a guy in a wrinkled t-shirt and stained jeans that don’t fit him well can hardly be attractive, but there’s no need to wear a suit everywhere you go or only own designer pieces. Potete fare quello che volete, purché seguiate il minimo indispensabile dello stile: abiti puliti, curati e che vi stiano bene.

If you’re rolling your eyes because you’re already there and oltre, then you know the impact your style can have and the impression it makes. Your clothes aren’t there only to keep you warm and non-naked; they also send a message.

Il vostro abbigliamento pubblicizza chi siete. Your dressing sense is how you present yourself to the world. A woman can tell a lot from your clothes, so it’s natural that they are crucial in attraction.

Quando una donna vi guarda, può capire dal vostro abbigliamento quanto impegno mettete nella cura di voi stessi e nella presentazione; se volete essere percepiti come cool, trendy, avvicinabili, professionali, rigorosi, eleganti, ecc.

So carefully consider your style and the message you want it to convey – it can be just the thing you need to become more attractive.

9. Vibrazione

What’s your vibe? La vibrazione è l'impressione generale che si lascia. The first time a woman sets her eyes on you, she won’t notice any details about you unless they’re very prominent, but she’ll be able to say what vibe you give off.

Even if it sounds very vague, a guy’s vibe is one of the cose che attraggono una donna verso un uomo. In generale, it’s the energy you give out, the way you affect others and the kind of person you seem to be at first sight.

Your vibe can be positive, negative or neutral, and not everyone is drawn to the same one. For example, when someone meets you, they might say you seem friendly, serious, cool, angry or creepy. Some people are drawn to someone who’s chill, while others are more attracted to someone who’s energetic.

Needless to say, your vibe can be the complete opposite of what you’re like, but you can work on changing that. Per inviare più vibrazioni positive, iniziate con il pensiero positivo. Potrebbe sembrare un'assurdità, ma provate.

Il pensiero positivo comprende la gratitudine per tutto ciò che si ha nella vita, il non sopravvalutare o sminuire i propri risultati e l'essere troppo modesti o arroganti, l'essere consapevoli del momento presente e il trovare qualcosa di positivo in ogni situazione.

10. Linguaggio del corpo

A man’s body language gets a woman’s attention because it’s the best indicator of how he feels about himself, about her and about the situation. Even if she’s unaware of the meanings of certain body language signs, she’ll still be able to read him because body language is universal.

If you stand tall using confident body language, you’ll leave a much different impression than if you’re slouching and looking at your feet. If you’re facing away from her and never glance at her, she won’t be able to notice your interest in her. If you’re tapping your foot and looking at your watch, she’ll think you don’t want to be there.

A lot has been written about body language of attraction, and it can’t hurt to learn a little bit about it. Here are the Segnali del linguaggio del corpo che le piacciono per iniziare, e continuate ad esplorare questo argomento se vi interessa.

11. Senso dell'umorismo

Are you shocked that this is included on the list? Of course not. It’s common knowledge that a il buon senso dell'umorismo è sexy, but what to do if you’re not funny? How to make her laugh and make her eyes sparkle when you’re not witty and capable of clever comebacks?

• The first step to developing a funny bone is figuring out cosa ti fa ridere. Is it slapstick? Do you like unexpected twists? What’s your favorite funny movie? Is it puns that get you going?

• Next, cercare di trovare qualcosa di divertente in ogni situazione. Ad esempio, se si rovescia il bicchiere, ci si può arrabbiare e imbarazzare oppure si può ridere. Pensate al motivo per cui questa situazione potrebbe essere divertente.

• Don’t think that it’s necessary to have well-crafted jokes to be funny. Just continuare a costruire sulla situazione e continuare a guardarla in modo rilassato. Ogni volta che un ragazzo mi ha fatto ridere fino a piangere è stato con una singola parola che ha fatto chiudere il cerchio di tutta la stupida situazione.

- Don’t take yourself seriously. This is really important if you want to be funny. Ego will sap all humor out of the conversation, but if you’re ready to laugh at your expense, people will laugh with you, not at you.

You also need to realize that being funny isn’t about laughing at other people and feeling superior. If your sense of humor is about stereotypes and prejudice, you should invest time in thinking about why this is so. I assure you that no woman finds sexist jokes funny.

12. Atteggiamento

Don’t believe what you’re told by guys who can’t get girls – women don’t prefer jerks. If you placed two identical guys in front of any woman and one of them was kind and the other treated them like dirt, she wouldn’t pick the mean one.

La gentilezza rende più attraenti. Don’t confuse kindness with niceness, though. Being nice doesn’t always mean being kind, and guys who like to brag about being nice often expect something in return.

Sincerità La capacità di essere sempre all'altezza di ciò che fate e di come vi rivolgete a lei è un'altra qualità attraente da avere. Fate del vostro meglio in ogni cosa e metteteci il cuore per far risplendere la bellezza della vostra personalità. La disonestà è una delle tratti della personalità che non piacciono per tutte le donne.

Avere buone maniere e mostrare rispetto, don’t judge her and others and adopt a positive attitude for a massive upgrade in attractiveness – showing what’s inside makes you sexier.

13. Fiducia

Dobbiamo proprio dire che la sicurezza è una qualità che le donne trovano attraente? Confident men are interesting to women because they aren’t afraid. A lack of confidence stems from feeling like somehow you’re not good enough for something you want to do.

A costruire la vostra fiducia in voi stessi, prima di tutto conoscete voi stessi e imparate a piacervi. Then be authentic and passionate and live your life the way you want to live it. Your mental health will improve and your attractiveness will skyrocket as soon as you realize that you’re as valuable and worthy as everyone else.

L'altra faccia della medaglia è l'arroganza. Evitare di sconfinare nel diritto and feeling better than others because that’s even more off-putting than a lack of self-esteem.

14. Approccio

Ricordate che nell'introduzione ho detto che le donne si innamorano di uomini di cui apprezzano la compagnia? Ebbene, questo è il caso.

Make her feel good, and she’ll be attracted to you. If you show interest in a woman and make her feel good around you, she’ll be more attracted to you than if you were playing cool and ignoring her. Trying to impress women is far less effective than trying to get to know them.

Molte delle cose che gli uomini possono fare per mettere le donne a proprio agio sono legate alle capacità di comunicazione. Dedicatele attenzione, pensate prima di parlare, ascoltate ciò che ha da dire, fatele delle domande ponderate, coinvolgetela in conversazioni interessanti.

Don’t act arrogant or be needy, don’t try to get her interested using some game. Flirt with her playfully and compliment her honestly. Be genuine and attentive. Be upfront about your intentions and emotionally available. Share your feelings and thoughts and don’t ignore hers.

In chiusura

Allora, puoi riassumere da solo cosa attrae una donna in un uomo a prima vista? L'intero articolo era un'elaborazione di ciò che vi ho detto all'inizio: essere genuini, impegnarsi e farla sentire bene. Se fate queste tre cose, la vostra vita di coppia migliorerà enormemente.