Cosa significa amore? Tutto quello che c'è da sapere su questa magica emozione

What does love mean? Many people say that the world revolves around money – and the rest of them say it’s love that makes the world spin.

Tenendo presente questo, possiamo dire con certezza che l'amore è una cosa piuttosto importante per l'umanità. Se non la più importante.

L'amore è qualcosa di universale, noto a tutti, eppure inspiegabile e misterioso. Una contraddizione generalmente riconosciuta.

Yes, there are many definitions of love, but it’s impossible to say one definition of love is completely and utterly true and right for everyone.

It’s safe to say that love is a lot of things for a lot of people. It can’t be removed from individual experience.

Gli esseri umani conoscono molti tipi di amore: l'amore romantico, l'amore per il migliore amico, l'amore per la famiglia, l'amore per l'animale domestico e altri milioni di tipi di amore.

Gli antichi greci, ad esempio, avevano sette parole diverse per indicare l'amore!

L'Oxford Dictionary inglese definisce l'amore come una gamma di stati emotivi e mentali forti e positivi, dalla più sublime virtù o buona abitudine e dal più profondo affetto interpersonale, al più semplice piacere.

E anche se all'inizio sembra abbastanza chiaro, so per esperienza che si traduce nella vita di tutti i giorni sotto forma di vari e un po' poetici detti sull'amore che sentiamo in continuazione.

Ho voluto quindi raccogliere alcuni dei più frequenti modi di dire quotidiani e cercare di arrivare al nocciolo del loro vero significato.

Here’s what love is when it’s not just saying simple Ti amo, according to… all humankind.

1. L'amore è incondizionato

Sentiamo spesso questa frase, ma sappiamo cosa significa?

Unconditional love means appreciating someone despite their imperfections – body or personality wise.

Significa accettare la persona amata così com'è, senza cercare di trarne vantaggio.

Unconditional love doesn’t look for something in return. It supports and respects regardless of one’s success, appearance, or social status.

La cosa più importante è la relazione stessa. Solo per il fatto di esistere così com'è.

It’s a choice to stay with someone no matter the circumstances, it means putting someone else’s needs before your own, prioritizing their happiness.

Alcuni sostengono che l'amore incondizionato è semplicemente ciò che intendiamo quando diciamo amore, un vero amore.

L'amore incondizionato significa che il vostro partner vi incoraggia a essere la versione migliore di voi stessi.

They don’t shame you for your actions or needs. They don’t judge you for your choices.

Al contrario, rispondono con empatia e attenzione al vostro benessere.

Significa anche che potete parlare liberamente, senza sentirvi a disagio.

And even when you get into an argument, you try to understand each other’s points of view and have no hard time forgiving each other.

Volete trovare una soluzione che vi renda entrambi felici.

When you’re loved unconditionally, you’re not afraid to be yourself completely – because there’s nothing to prove, you know you’re not being judged.

There’s no expectation you need to fulfill. You can let your guard down. Even on your bad days!

There’s no mind games or compromises that make you feel bitter. Every decision is respective to your boundaries. You bring out the best in each other.

2. L'amore è cieco

L'amore cieco è spesso un tema presente in vari tipi di arte.

The lovers are portrayed as blind to their partners’ negative traits and with a tendency to idealize them.

Perché spesso amiamo l'immagine idealizzata di una persona piuttosto che quella reale? Cosa ci spinge a credere in essa?

It’s strange to think that in the early stage of romantic relationships people tend to have and maintain what is called illusioni positive nei confronti del proprio partner.

It’s almost like an attempt to live out their dream, their fantasy seeing only what they perceive as desirable and ignoring the rest.

Other than that, it’s not unusual for people to tend to keep justifying something they invested so much time and put so much attention into, and disregard everything they don’t really like yet won’t admit initially.

Dopo l'infatuazione iniziale arriva il controllo della realtà.

Suddenly, a person feels like they misinterpreted their partner qualities, while in reality it’s more likely it was partly their fault for not wanting to see anything but the good qualities.

Spesso l'amore romantico viene confuso con la semplice lussuria, soprattutto in una nuova relazione.

And while sexual desire is an important aspect if you’re in for a long-term relationship, still, sometimes it’s just an easily extinguished fire with no real meaning.

3. L'amore è tutto ciò che serve

While this saying sounds quite sentimental, for many people it’s the truth they live by.

Oltre a sembrare sdolcinato, se si inizia a riflettere più a fondo e ci si chiede davvero perché l'amore è tutto ciò di cui abbiamo bisogno, iniziano a comparire alcune risposte interessanti.

It’s pretty clear that we need love to feel valuable and accepted, which then gives our lives meaning. Love isn’t just sweet words and hugging.

It’s something we need in order to go about our everyday life not feeling devastated and miserable.

We feel devastated and miserable when our needs aren’t met. It affects our quality of life.

The way we do things – the way we eat, sleep, make connections.

It all boils down to love. That’s why it is essential to us.

Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s also an action. It motivates you to do things in life. It gives you purpose.

It makes you commit. There’s nothing people can stick to if there isn’t some aspect of love involved.

4. L'amore è eterno

A proposito di detti sentimentali, anche questo è uno di quelli. Tuttavia, questo ha un significato leggermente più filosofico.

L'amore eterno è un amore che non ha fine, ovviamente.

What that means is, there’s no obstacle that can stop the people who love each other from loving each other.

You might ask yourself if eternal love is really possible, but let me tell you – we all witnessed that long-lasting, Tipo di taccuino, relazione d'amore almeno una volta.

You know you saw that cute older couple holding hands and thought to yourself, ”Real love exists and it doesn’t get old. I want that kind of love.”

Throughout human history, there were so many proofs of eternal love, so many legends, fairy-tales and real historical stories about undying love, so it’s most likely true.

Maybe it’s not as frequent because it requires a lot of work and sacrifices, but it’s wrong to say it doesn’t exist when it clearly does.

5. L'amore non conosce limiti

Ogni persona ha un proprio linguaggio d'amore.

For one it’s coming home from work and having dinner prepared for them, for others it’s constant words of appreciation and encouragement or receiving a love song.

However, when you truly love someone or something, all of your personal preferences are put aside; there’s no thing that is off-limits.

Il tempo ha mostrato tante cose altruistiche, affascinanti, quasi impossibili che le persone hanno fatto in nome dell'amore.

From risking their lives in extraordinary situations to astonishing sacrifices they’ve made in everyday life, such as dedicating their life to greater a purpose of making the life of others more humane, healthier and happier.

Everyday, people’s lives are changed and saved solely because of love.

No interest could make a person risk their own life for somebody else’s. It can only be love.

And that’s where the mystery of love lies.

6. L'amore fa male

A slightly darker view on love. After I’ve said everything I’ve said about love and it’s importance in the life of a person, it’s needless to say that not having or missing it hurts like hell.

When it’s good, it’s great; but when it’s bad it’s the worst thing you can imagine.

Pain can cause total eclipse of one’s seemingly healthy mind. There’s so many things that could go wrong.

The person you’re in love with doesn’t love you back. The person who supposedly loves you – abuses you.

The person you loved has passed away. You’re unable to help your loved one while they are suffering from life threatening illness.

Your best friend for life has betrayed you. Your love at first sight turned out to be a high-functioning narcissist. You’ve been cheated on or lied to.

There are so many ways to break a heart. Sometimes it takes just one person – just one relationship to change your views on love forever. For better or worse.

A heart is so fragile that sometimes you don’t even need someone else to break it.

Potete farlo da soli, mettendovi in situazioni che vi causano disagio e dolore, non curandovi di voi stessi, mettendovi all'ultimo posto ed essendo il vostro peggior nemico.

After the trauma it’s hard to believe in love again. Your perception of love becomes distorted.

Non si collega più l'amore a sentimenti di sicurezza o felicità, ma a sentimenti di paura e perdita e a un certo punto ci si chiede inevitabilmente: Che cos'è l'amore?

7. L'amore è il senso della vita

As I said before, while we can write off sayings like this as being sentimental, it’s still true that when people are confronting the difficult experiences in life such as dying or surviving some type of trauma they suddenly start asking themselves about the meaning of life.

And according to the experiences of many psychologists around the world, there’s one answer that keeps popping up in the life of many when it comes to searching for the meaning of life, and you might have already guessed what it is – it’s the love.

And so often, everything else we thought was important in life, our jobs, money, recognition, looks… it all steps aside.

For some people that’s the first moment in their life when they actually start living.

L'amore è il senso della vita perché solo l'amore ha il potere di collegarci al nostro vero scopo.

8. Niente è possibile senza amore

Living in a materialistically inclined world we’re often faced with problems of materialistic nature.

It seems impossible to live life without money, without a job – without some guarantee we’re going to survive. And it’s true that we do need those things to survive.

But behind every action we take, there’s constant need for fulfillment, different from just a physical need.

Molte persone famose e ricche hanno ammesso che all'apice del loro successo si sentivano spesso completamente infelici e insoddisfatte.

Per sentirci felici dobbiamo soddisfare un bisogno. Qualcosa che desideriamo. E questo bisogno è l'amore.

It doesn’t have to be obvious. It can be masked as need for attention, need for approval, need for safety… all kinds of things.

But ultimately, it’s always love.

Per concludere questo testo, che spero sia stato utile e ricco di spunti, devo dire ancora alcune cose.

In today’s world where life is happening on social media, traditional dating is replaced with dating apps, everything that was considered the norm is being put on online, and people in general are becoming more closed off, it’s important to always recognize the true face of love in all its forms.

The meaning of love can’t be found in a book or heard in a class. It can’t be learned.

It can’t be magically understood in just one moment – it’s something we learn about the whole time, it’s something that has to be lived out every day of our lives.

Essere innamorati è un bisogno dell'anima, come il cibo è un bisogno del nostro corpo.

It’s important to understand that love doesn’t really need to be defined but rather felt and given.

Sentirsi amati e dare amore deriva sempre da un qualche tipo di pensiero. azione. That’s how love expresses itself – by what we fare.

Che cosa significa amore? Perché è importante?

To be moved by a song or a sentence is a wonderful thing, and there’s nothing better than seeing your action has made a world a better place – even for just one day – and you don’t need an explanation for that.

Dopo tutto quello che ho detto, voglio solo condividere alcune citazioni sull'amore, sperando che vi ispirino a trovare l'amore in tutto quello che fate:

”I already love in you your beauty, but I am only beginning to love in you that which is eternal and ever precious – your heart, your soul. Beauty one could get to know and fall in love with in one hour and cease to love it as speedily; but the soul one must learn to know. Believe me, nothing on earth is given without labour, even love, the most beautiful and natural of feelings.” – Leo Tolstoy

‘’Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.’’ – Lao Tzu

‘’In the flush of love’s light, we dare be brave. And suddenly we see that love costs all we are, and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free.’’ – Maya Angelou

‘’The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.’’ – Victor Hugo

‘’I’m not saying that love always takes you to heaven. Your life can become a nightmare. But that said, it is worth taking the risk.’’ – Paulo Coelho

‘’When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.’’
Jimi Hendrix

‘’Just in case you have forgotten today: You matter. You are loved. You are worthy. You are magical.’’
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