Essere felici senza di lui è la migliore vendetta

La necessità di vendetta in itself is never a good idea. Instead of moving on, you’re not giving yourself a chance to heal and are instead, focused on proving something to the other person.

What’s the point of that?

It’s understandable to feel a certain way after a messy breakup and to feel the need to show the other person that you don’t need them anyway.

But instead of proving it to them, you need to make sure that you get it,too. You’re the one you’re left with, remember that.

Essere felici è l'obiettivo, giusto? Ebbene, invece di cercare di far credere a qualcun altro che sia così, concentratevi per assicurarvi di essere davvero sulla strada della felicità.

For starters, let go of everything that you have boiling inside you. It’s unhealthy, and it’s only preventing you from getting over him.

The minute you decide that you no longer need to prove anything to anyone is when you can proudly tell yourself that you’ve made it. You’re on your way.

What drives people crazy is seeing that you are doing well without them. It makes them realize they no longer have any control over you, and that’s what your goal should be.

Invece di pensare a lui e a come farlo ingelosire, concentrati su altre cose della vita. Voglio dire, avevi cose che ti rendevano felice prima ancora di sapere che lui esisteva, giusto?

Bene, finalmente avete tempo da dedicare a queste cose, quindi non perdete tempo e tornate alla vita che avevate e che amavate prima che lui arrivasse.

Always know that happiness is a choice. Shitty things will always happen, and things won’t always be dreamy.

Ma quando deciderete di non temere le cose che non potete controllare, vi renderete conto che potete davvero mantenere la vostra sanità mentale e preservare la vostra felicità.

Life is way too short to spend time worrying about people who don’t give a crap about you.

Don’t try to make his life hell. Don’t try to make him jealous by parading someone new around him, just for the sake of it.

It’s not worth it. It’s also not fair to that person.

Li usereste solo per fare del male a qualcun altro, ma a farne le spese sarebbero più persone che non solo la vostra ex. Pensateci un attimo.

Don’t use other people and play with their emotions. That way, you’re no better than your ex. Don’t degrade yourself to his level.

Superatelo e dimostrategli che potete davvero stare senza di lui.

This doesn’t mean that you can’t get angry or upset. You can still let yourself feel whatever emozione that takes over you. It is all part of the process of letting go. Don’t deny yourself that.

You can still get sad at times. It’s perfectly normal, as long as you know that it doesn’t define you. A single emotion doesn’t define your life. It will all go away eventually.