Il Love Coach spiega il motivo per cui i ragazzi vi abbandonano
It’s frustrating to invest yourself in someone only for them to disappear like nothing happened. You think you have this amazing energy going on, everything seems great, and then…poof! It’s all gone!
We’ve all been there, chiedendoci se abbiamo detto o fatto qualcosa che li ha spaventati.
Una volta sono uscita con un ragazzo, abbiamo continuato a mandarci messaggi dopo l'appuntamento e mi ha persino detto che era entusiasta di uscire di nuovo con me. La chimica era pazzesca!
Questo è durato per un paio di giorni e poi una sera mi ha lasciato improvvisamente in sospeso. Ho pensato che forse si fosse addormentato, ma no, ho ricevuto la sua risposta tre giorni dopo. Tre giorni dopo! Riuscite a immaginarlo?
Poiché molte donne hanno questo problema, un love coach ha deciso di tranquillizzarci e di spiegarci il motivo di questa situazione.
Ultimate test of women’s reaction
L'allenatore dell'amore, Brody Boyd ha pubblicato un TikTok circa perché i ragazzi scompaiono improvvisamente durante la fase di frequentazione. A quanto pare, sono fantasma per vedere la nostra reazione.
Dice Brody:
“He won’t text you back or he’ll disappear or go missing to see how you respond. I’m not saying this is great and in fact he could be doing this unconsciously or he could be doing it consciously, but when a guy ‘goes missing’ or pulls away in that way often it is a test.”
Spiega inoltre che lo fanno perché they want to find out what’s your personality like. If you get pissed off immediately and send him a bunch of texts, he’ll think you’re desperate.
Il punto è men don’t want a woman who’s needy so by attacking him you can only push him further away and lose him forever. On the other hand, if you keep your cool, don’t bother asking him why he’s not responding, that’s a plus.
Brody says if you continue with your life, this will send a strong message that you know your value and won’t accept this behavior. So he’ll think you have standards and want someone more available.
Women didn’t like what this love coach had to say and didn’t hesitate to write that in the comments. Many said that this is not a test but a huge red flag, and some wrote that acting this way is childish and women don’t have time for playing games.
Una donna ha scritto:
“Why do people feel the need to play games anyway! Too old for the BS! Life is already difficult enough to try work out what’s really going on.”
Un altro ha aggiunto:
“He can do that for sure. But once my text or call goes unanswered he won’t receive a reply when he decides to come back.
Honestly, I agree and love this energy in the comments. But if you really like him, it can be hard to simply move on with your life. So, what do you do when you just can’t let it go?
Do this when he doesn’t text you back
L'allenatore dell'amore ha proseguito con un altro video per dare consigli su come comportarsi se ci si trova in questa situazione.
Ha detto che la cosa migliore da fare è dimenticarsi di lui e fare di tutto per non rispondere ai messaggi. Come dice Brody:
“Make sure to give him the space and realize that most likely he’s probably not gonna reach back out and the only thing that will probably cause him to reach back out is you not acting needy, not acting desperate, not sending something that you’ll later regret.”
Ha anche spiegato che questo vi incoraggerebbe a non affezionarvi facilmente e infastidirsi senza motivo per potersi concentrare su altre cose.
Then if he eventually texts you back it will only be a pleasant surprise because you weren’t expecting it in the first place. So basically, senza vincoli!
Trust me, I know how hard following this advice can be! It’s like you’re waiting for someone that might never come. However, reindirizzare le energie e concentrarsi su qualcos'altro è davvero utile.
Whenever I had the urge to take my phone and text him I would tell myself that I shouldn’t chase anyone, and neither should you, girl! Doing something to take my mind off him always does wonders.
Just don’t overthink it! Go out with your girls, and even start dating other people if you want. In that way, you’ll focus on something else that can also bring you joy and satisfaction. Maybe you even find someone who’s more available and ready to give you the attention you need.
In ogni caso, fate ciò che vi rende felici, e if you’re not in the mood for games, move on and don’t waste your time!
