In amore, mai accontentarsi di poco
Non accontentatevi mai di meno di quanto meritate!
Have you ever stopped and really thought about why you’re doing the complete opposite?
Insomma, nessuno vi obbliga a farlo, nessuno vi vieta di chiedere ciò che meritate. Quindi, di nuovo, perché vi accontentate?
When you exclude emotions from reason, it’s more than logical to abandon a relationship that is making you unhappy.
It’s perfectly normal to leave with no strings attached and find your happiness elsewhere. Sadly, nothing is that simple as long as emotions get the better of you.
Even if you don’t love the person you’re unhappy with, you’ve grown used to them and there is no way you could just leave without feeling something… anything.
That’s when emotions make a big deal and guilt you into staying unhappy. You feel sorry for the person; you feel sorry for the lost time and you keep hoping that something will gradually change.
You don’t want to just quit and let everything you’ve worked hard for go to waste.
Di solito la colpa è di questi sentimenti, ma ancora più comune è che le persone che si accontentano di poco sono incredibilmente insicure e lo fanno perché hanno poca o nessuna fiducia in se stessi.
We all have that seed of doubt, the mistrust in ourselves, planted deep inside us, but the way we’re handling it is what counts.
C'è chi tiene sotto controllo le proprie insicurezze e chi invece si lascia divorare dai dubbi.
For as long as you don’t put an end to it, you aren’t going to be happy.
Change your attitude from “I’m not good enough to be with someone” to “I want someone who actually deserves me” and your unhappiness is going to come to an end.
That part of your life will turn into nothing more than a huge mistake from which you’ve learned the most important lesson.
The reason why you’re settling can be this, or it can be because you’re just paura di essere single.
I understand it’s scary, especially if you’ve spent most of your life as part of a duo and now you have to go back to the game, but you’re not sure if the rules have changed.
You’re not sure if you’re going to make it. Let me tell you something, every change is scary, but you can never know for sure that it’s a bad thing.
E tutti noi siamo così. Se le cose cambiano e si trasformano in qualcosa che non conosciamo, pensiamo subito che sia un male per noi.
That is a load of crap! That is the fear talking out of you – the fear that is your biggest enemy.
Something that is pulling you down and pulling you back, something that isn’t allowing you to grow.
Questa paura di essere single è strettamente correlata alla paura dell'abbandono.
We are – and I’m using “we” because I’m talking about all of us, not just you – we are all putting an enormous amount of pressure on ourselves because of these abandonment issues.
Stiamo cercando di salvare una relazione in crisi, anche se questo significa trovare scuse per un comportamento tossico.
To anyone else, leaving a loveless relationship seems the right road to take, but for you, it’s a dark path full of obstacles and challenges.
It’s the leap to the unknown; it’s a huge risk you aren’t willing to take just yet!
I bet you’ve thought exactly the same as what I’m I about to say: “It’s better to be in a crappy relationship than spend the rest of your life alone!”
This is when everything goes to hell. This one sentence craps all over your life. This one sentence defines you who you are and how you’re going to deal with love.
Prendendo questo tipo di posizione ci si ritrova in una situazione da cui è difficile uscire. I have a story to share with you…
Avevo una relazione senza amore. All'inizio era una relazione come tutte le altre.
Eravamo nella fase della luna di miele ed eravamo così felici. Sembrava che nulla potesse dividerci.
Sadly, as time passed by, I fell out of love. He wasn’t that interesting anymore because he didn’t try hard enough, which led me to believe he didn’t care.
However, there is something valuable I’ve learned from that relationship. Acting as if you’re in love with someone you’re not is even more painful than leaving him.
Having to say “I love you” was the hardest thing I had to do, not just because it wasn’t true, but because it once was.
Quando disinnamorarsi, fate un favore a entrambi e lasciate andare quella persona.
Don’t lie to them and don’t make them a fool. Don’t lie to yourself and don’t be scared of what comes next.
Le relazioni dovrebbero farvi crescere e trasformarvi in una persona migliore.
The person you’re with is supposed to influence you positively and help you become the best version of yourself.
If neither of you got what you’re supposed to get, plus happiness, then there is really no point in staying together.
Il vostro destino è nelle vostre mani. Accettare meno di quanto meriti è una decisione che scegliete di prendere.
Quando ci si accontenta di poco in amore, ma anche in ogni altro aspetto della vita, si diventa complici della propria delusione e del proprio turbamento.
By allowing yourself to settle for less than you desire, you are putting your life in your own hands, but rather than doing something that will impact you positively, you’re placing yourself in a negative place where you aren’t getting what you want or need.
Going out and getting what’s yours, sticking out for your own good and your happiness – these don’t make you a bitch; it makes you a strong woman who is in complete control of her own destiny.
When you begin to make decisions in your life that reflect what you truly want, this is when you will start to feel confident in yourself and your life will consequently mirror what you’d hoped for.
One of those big decisions is leaving the one you settle for. It’s going to hurt big time, but it’s not going to hurt forever.
Non si può rimanere in un posto in modo permanente e aspettarsi un cambiamento nella vita. È necessario avviare il cambiamento perché qualcosa accada.
È un dovere verso se stessi dare il massimo in questa unica vita che si ha. Bisogna rischiare per ottenere qualcosa in cambio.
Per essere inarrestabili bisogna diventare impavidi.
