9 modi allarmanti di cedere il proprio potere quando si è innamorati

Come si può donare il proprio cuore senza perdere il proprio potere e senza perdere la persona che si è dentro? 

Da un grande amore derivano grandi errori e noi tendiamo a farne troppi. Mettiamo la persona speciale su un piedistallo e dimentichiamo di essere alla sua altezza. 

Yes equality – something all healthy relationships should be based upon. It means that both partners’ interests and desires should be respected. That’s the only way you should behave if you want your relationship to work.

Non cedere il proprio potere in una relazione è una caratteristica delle persone mentalmente forti. Sanno quanto sia importante il loro potere e quanto influisca sulla loro autostima.

If you give someone else your power, it means that you’re giving them the ability to control your life. That you’ll let that person make all the important decisions for you.

Tutto inizia a ruotare intorno al partner, che diventa il centro del vostro universo. Ci si dimentica dei propri bisogni e desideri.

Alla fine, you’ll lose yourself in that relationship, and there is nothing worse than that. You’ll let your partner cross boundaries and that will lead you to lose your identity in a relationship.

1. Your partner always gets to decide what you’ll do

If you always let your partner choose what and where you eat, and what you do at the weekend, they’ll start thinking that it’s okay for them to decide who you can hang out with, too.

You don’t want to cause a fight and that’s why you start compromising over everything. Of course, you have your own desires, but you don’t want to confront your loved one.

2. You are afraid to speak up when you don’t agree with them

We are all different and it’s perfectly normal to have different views and opinions about some certain things.

The thing is that we should all have an understanding of our partner’s opinion and we have to respect it, even if it’s absolutely different from ours and we think that it’s wrong.

However, you are afraid to confront your partner and tell them that you don’t agree with them.

You’re afraid that they might leave you and that’s why you prefer to keep quiet and behave as if you agree with your partner about everything.

3. Vi scusate più del dovuto

It’s okay to apologize when you’ve done something wrong. But, apologizing after every fight will only make you feel desperate.

You feel the need to apologize even when you haven’t done anything. Be careful, I know that you think that you are doing it to keep the person you love, but you might end up hurt and used.  

4. Annullate sempre i vostri programmi per loro

You had lots of friends and you liked hanging out with them whenever you could. Now, you only have a few friends left – the others have stopped talking to you because you stood them up too many times.

You don’t respect anyone but your partner. You think that he is the only person who is important in your life. You have no idea how wrong you are. One day, when he gets bored, he’ll leave.

5. Aspettate sempre il loro permesso per fare qualcosa

It seems like you can’t do anything by yourself anymore.

Devi chiamarlo before you decide to do something. When you start behaving like this – asking for your partner’s permission to do things – you outsource your power.

6. You can’t say NO to them

You think that less disagreement and less conflict are good for your relationship and that’s why you don’t want to say ‘no’ to your partner.

Se sempre compromesso about everything, then you’ll never feel comfortable in a relationship. If you aren’t okay with something, if you don’t agree with your partner about something, then you have to tell them.

7. Tollerate il loro cattivo comportamento

If you’re constantly tolerating their bad behavior, they might start thinking that you are okay with it. Remember, you teach others how to treat you. If you let them treat you poorly, they will.

8. Mettete costantemente le loro esigenze davanti alle vostre

Your partner should always be able to lean on you and you have to support them. However, your needs should be as important as your partner’s.

No relationship will ever be able to function if both partners are continuously putting their needs first. Remember, it’s all about equality.

9. Vi accontentate di meno di quanto meritate

Love is making you blind. You’ve forgotten how much you are worth and what you deserve.

You’re settling for less than you deserve because the only thing important for you is to keep the person you love.

You will never save your relationship by changing who you are. You have to believe that you are mentally strong enough not to give your power to your partner when you’re in a relationship.

Stabilire limiti precisi and never let anyone, no matter how much you love them, cross those lines. Those boundaries will protect your integrity in a relationship, and it’s the most important thing you can do.