Non guardate mai indietro al vostro ex: allontanatevi e lasciate che veda ciò che ha perso

Se potessi darvi un consiglio romantico, vi direi di non guardare mai indietro a chi non ha saputo apprezzarvi. 

Why? Because if they did, you wouldn’t have to look back in the first place. They’d still be by your side!

If at this very moment, you’re struggling, know that you’re not alone. Know that I’ve got you.

I know exactly how shitty it feels suffering over an ex who wasn’t worthy of a single one of your tears.

This didn’t stop me from crying a river every night I dreamed about his face, and every day I missed having his sense of humor around.

But that doesn’t make me weak, it makes me human.

E in tutta questa sofferenza ho capito alcune cose.

In primo luogo, ci vuole il più basso dei bassi per arrivare a quel luogo salutare e rivelatore in cui tutto improvvisamente inizia a avere un senso.

Ogni lacrima che hai pianto, ogni litigio che hai avuto e ogni momento di rabbia che ti ha fatto arrabbiare.

Ogni occasione persa per risolvere le cose e ogni trattamento silenzioso che gli avete riservato o che vi ha riservato. 

Con il tempo, tutte queste piccole cose iniziano a dipingere il quadro generale che, alla fine, mostra che il modo in cui le cose sono ora è esattamente come dovrebbero essere.

As hard as it may be to comprehend this now, I promise it’s going to make so much sense in a few short weeks. 

Unfortunately, you need to go through all the stages of grief before getting to that good place – but it’s going to happen.

What I’m here to tell you is this. If deep down in your heart you KNOW that the breakup was the best decision for you, be proud of yourself and don’t waver.

After all, you’re a smart ass lady. 

You know that if the guy cared, he never would’ve left you.

If he was worried about how you were, he would’ve called to ask!

And if your feelings mattered to him, he would’ve tried to fix it, not break it off!

 Don’t give him the satisfaction of looking back. 

There’s nothing to see! Your past is there for good reason.

He served you as a great lesson, and now you’re ready to face your present and your future.

Una cosa che potete fare, però, è mostrargli ciò che ha perso!

Farlo rimpiangere dandovi per scontati e di perdervi essendo la donna sicura, forte e positiva che siete.

You don’t have to parade a new man around to show him that.

Vivete semplicemente la vostra vita come avete sempre fatto, e tutto questo con un sorriso fiducioso sul viso.

Show him your spirit isn’t broken by remaining a good friend to your girls and dancing the night away, which will show him you are open to new beginnings.

Revenge is for the weak. The only way he’ll see what he lost is by you living your authentic life to the best of your ability.

He didn’t crush you. You haven’t lost your zest for life.

Siete più che mai aperti a nuove opportunità. E perché?

Because you’ve been burned, and you’re ready to let someone new in.

Ma questa volta, qualcuno il cui amore non vi lascerà mai feriti.

Nessuno può dire quando ciò avverrà. È nelle mani di Dio. 

But one thing I do know is that when you believe you deserve the best and never lose faith in yourself, that’s when you’ll do a 180 and start seeing what you never noticed before.

You’ll finally see that you feel so much more liberated now than you ever did con il tuo ex.

You’ll finally see that his amore tossico ti ha dato solo un terzo di quello che meriti e ti ha trattenuto.

Con lui non vi siete mai sentiti così liberi e fiduciosi. 

E ora tutto sembra un'opportunità per una versione nuova e migliorata di se stessi.

And that ‘ the beginning of your new life.

A life in which you will never focus on what’s lost, but solely on what’s to come.

A life in which you know you’ll eventually get your happily-ever after because you freaking deserve it.

I know it’s so easy to give up on yourself and cry yourself to sleep every night. 

Ma una donna forte knows that being able to pick yourself up and put on a smile when all you want to do is weep is the bravest thing she’s ever done.

This is a woman who won’t let a toxic ex bring her down.

She will not shed a single tear for him because it’d be a waste of time. 

And as tempted as she is to look back and wonder what he’s up to, she won’t.

Perché in fondo sa che prima inizia a guardare avanti, prima il suo cuore inizierà a guarire e la sua mente a dimenticare.

And one day, she is simply going to stop caring about where he is and what he’s doing.

Because her life is going to be so fulfilled and happy – that nothing toxic will come to her mind!

E questa sarà una vittoria personale apparentemente piccola, ma così importante.

She’ll no longer care! And to that story, all she will be able to say is – The End.