Questi 8 miti su "l'uomo giusto" devono essere infranti il prima possibile

Credete nelle anime gemelle? Pensate davvero che tutti noi abbiamo una persona che è destinata a noi, che è perfetta per noi?

I believe in soulmates too. However, this other part is tricky. Most people are waiting for that one person who’ll be perfect but unfortunately, they aren’t aware that such a person doesn’t exist.

None of us is perfect and it’s perfectly fine. Because after all, we shouldn’t be searching for someone perfect, we should be looking for someone who will love us in a perfect way.

If you still haven’t found the right person, you should check these myths that most people believe about their soulmate but aren’t aware that it’s only holding them back and standing in the way of true love.

When you meet that person, you’ll instantly know they’re ‘the one’

Quante coppie conoscete che hanno iniziato come amici ma che ora hanno una felice relazione a lungo termine? Sì, il vostro istinto può sbagliarsi anche sulla persona che è destinata a voi.

Maybe love at first sight does exist but still, even if you click instantly, you can’t know for sure that they are the person you’ll spend the rest of your life with.

You must be aware that there is no true unconditional love without trust and it’ll definitely take time to build that trust between you.

L'amore a prima vista è solo una fase di infatuazione, l'attrazione che si prova per una persona quando la si incontra per la prima volta.

You shouldn’t be searching, your soulmate will find you

Many people believe that we shouldn’t be looking for our soulmate because they’ll find us. But when you stop for a moment to think about it, is it really logical?

Either way, one person will be searching. Yes, I do believe that true love will find a way to cross your path but that doesn’t mean you should just sit there and wait for it to happen.

Dovete mettervi in gioco. Uscite, incontrate nuove persone e abbracciate nuove avventure di vita. Non si può mai sapere dove queste avventure possono portarvi. Forse alla persona che ti accompagnerà per sempre?

La persona giusta resterà al vostro fianco in qualsiasi circostanza.

This is one of many soulmate definitions you can find online. So, let’s put it this way; if you cheat on them, humiliate and disrespect them, they’ll still stay by your side?

No, it definitely doesn’t work like that. No person should tolerate being disrespected in a relationship, no matter how much they love the other person.

Per trovare la persona giusta e avere una buona relazione, bisogna anche impegnarsi. You must show your partner the way you want to be treated and you’ll only do that by treating them exactly the same way.

See also: 10 Things To Do If You’re Being Disrespected In Your Relationship

You’ll never argue with that person

Do you really think that you and your soulmate will be exactly alike? That there won’t be any differences between you?

Oh, how wrong that is. I don’t and I truly don’t want to find anyone similar to me because I know it would be a total mess. I’m more of an ‘opposites attract’ kind of person.

Ricordate prima di tutto questo: avere dei piccoli litigi in una relazione è consentito perché queste cose rafforzano il legame tra voi.

Non esistono coppie sane e impegnate senza alcune differenze tra loro.

The question is how you’ll manage those differences. It’s important to accept and embrace your differences and to make the most of them.

Quella persona diventerà il vostro tutto

Per me questo è piuttosto affascinante. Finché i vostri genitori sono vivi, finché avete amici onesti e leali, il vostro partner non potrà mai diventare il vostro tutto.

It would be completely unfair to all the other people in your life who are there for good reason. It’s good to know your priorities but don’t ever make the list of your priorities a one-person list.

You’ll never have to make any compromises

Oh, really? Sometimes, we have to make compromises with ourself, so how could we find someone we won’t have to make any compromises with?

I don’t think it’s possible. We are all unique human beings with unique perspectives and different opinions.

That’s why we all have to settle for some compromises from time to time if we want to keep the engine (our relationship) going.

It’ll be a completely effortless relationship

Credete davvero che una relazione tra due persone possa avere successo senza che ci sia alcuno sforzo? L'amore è l'unico ingrediente necessario per una relazione di successo?

No, no, no. To get such a complicated thing as a romantic relationship to work, you’ll need so many more ingredients. L'amore è fondamentale, ma anche i compromessi e i sacrifici e la costruzione della fiducia sono essenziali.

Quella persona sarà la vostra metà

How many times have you heard someone saying, “When I finally meet the right one, my life will be complete,” or, “My partner is my other half.”?

Cosa? Questo è un grande mito falso sulle anime gemelle che deve essere immediatamente infranto. Dio ti ha fatto una persona completa, quindi perché dovresti sentirti incompleto?

Se sentite che manca qualcosa nella vostra vita, nessun'altra persona sarà in grado di colmarla. Solo voi avete questa capacità.

You don’t need anyone to complete you, you just need someone to accept you, the WHOLE you, just the way you are.