Ecco come un narcisista vi prende di mira
Have you ever wondered what it is about you that just keeps attracting all these narcissists into your life? Does it stress you how much you just can’t seem to shake them off?
You have finally learned their main traits – their inflated ego and lack of consideration for anyone but themselves. But what is it that makes them target you in particular?
Se volete che smettano di bussare alla vostra porta e di portare drammi e tossicità nella vostra vita, ecco alcune cose che devono fare... cercare in un partner per agganciarlo. Consideratevi avvertiti e buona fortuna!
1. You have low self-esteem
I narcisisti prendono di mira le persone con scarsa fiducia in se stesse perché ciò offre loro maggiori possibilità di agganciare. Probabilmente vi sentirete molto lusingati dalle loro parole vuote e false, e sarà più facile per loro farvi innamorare di loro.
You are not used to being complimented, so when they love-bomb you, saying you’re the most beautiful woman they have ever laid their eyes on, you will believe them because it will make you feel good about yourself.
Also, they are counting on the fact that you probably don’t feel that great about yourself, so you’ll likely accept their shitty behavior. Idioti.
2. You’re too caring
He sees how thoughtful and caring you are with your friends and people around you, even when they don’t deserve it, so he uses it to his advantage, thinking you will bend over backwards for his sorry narcissistic ass as well.
He knows you’re going to let his shit fly even when he treats you like crap, so you’re his ideal victim.
3. You have a small circle of friends
Narcissists are drawn to people with only a small circle around them. They are counting on the fact you don’t have a large, solid support group for when they drain you and use you.
You’re a private person, and you only keep those really close around you. He thinks he can use it against you and manipulate you more easily. Idiota!
4. You’re intelligent
But your mind is not exactly why they’re drawn to you. No. They will look for smart girls because they want to prove that they are smarter.
Che possono battervi in astuzia. Sarete una sorta di sfida per loro nella loro giochi mentali in cui il fine ultimo è quello di manipolarvi fino a farvi cadere nella loro rete ingannevole di false promesse.
Don’t let him. Use your intelligence to see through this and leave. Show him he’s bit off more than he can chew.
5. Siete ambiziosi
You’re a smart, capable woman who doesn’t waste time and goes out and makes things happen for herself! You are powerful and strong, and “regular’’ men would potentially find you intimidating—which is exactly why a narcissist thinks you are the perfect catch for him!
Di solito sono carismatici e manipolatori, quindi vorrebbero trovare una ragazza alla loro altezza. Il loro ego sarà rafforzato dalla rottura con una ragazza delle vostre capacità.
6. Avete appena affrontato una rottura
You are fragile, weak, still not over your long-term boyfriend who just left you out of the blue or you’ve been through some other kind of heartbreak. This is where the narcissist enters.
He will walk into your life, pretend that he wants to help you and be there for you, and he will appear so sweet and supportive. But once you open the door to him, it won’t take him long to take his mask off and reveal his true self—that of a conniving asshole who used your fragile state to get through to your broken heart and has no plans of letting you go.
So when you’re fresh out of a relationship, look out for the guys who seem too eager to help you and be around you. Let yourself heal first, and when you get to a good place again, your judgement will be much better.
